Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I have oneitis BADDD right now... help plz

white_hype

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This may seem really lame b/c I've been here a while... let me update you guys on my situation.

My game has gotten REALLY good... to the point where I can close 7's pretty easily and am getting a lot of hb8's/9's. Still getting the occasional 9

anyways - I have oneitis

I just went on spring break and hooked up with 2 girls and made out with over 10 in only 4 days. Then, during the day while sober (lol), I met her. She was 100% my type. She was ****ing beautiful... i've only seen very few other girls I thought were truly this pretty. I immediately talked to her and it went AMAZINGLY well. It was like we had some sort of instant connection where we had known eachother forever.

We set a meet up for that night at a club. I see her and we dance and it is ****ing awesome! She has a great personality, perfect smile, etc etc... basically my dream girl. I even thought of marrying her... that's how bad I got oneitis....

The bad part is that I lost her in the club and couldn't find her (4000 + people at this HUGE club)... and now I'm back home and shes in another ****ing state.

i didnt get her number b/c I left my phone at home on accident for the trip.... wtf do i do? all i can think about is her... i rarely like girls this much, only like 3 times in my 21 yrs have I liked a girl this much immediately and it always went really really really well... I just know if i met her again it would be amazing.

What do you guys think I should do? I tried searching facebook for her and msged about 60 girls who I think were her friend (I forgot my girl's name b/c I was drunk). I am actually really really sad about it right now

any hlep would be appreciated
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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:nono: In a few months you will look at this post and think..........

"I was such an IDIOT"

Trust me :yes: I've been there.

Best thing you can do know is go out and sarge, SARGE LIKE YOU NEVER SARGED BEFORE!!
 

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when you jerk to porn do you only jerk to one chick? hell no!!! why not? because while that chick might be hot and sexy and doing what you want, all you have to do is go to your friend google and you will find others.

trust us, there are heaps of hot chicks who have all the qualities you want, and its your job as a guy to go out and find as many of them as possible. you yourself aknowledge there are other chicks with the exact qualities you want. if you have come across 3 in 21 years, that proves there are others out there. dont get hung up on her

oh and you fool, why not just WRITE HER # ON A PIECE OF PAPER???
 

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thx for the encouragement guys... I think time will heal this one

spookey - I using girls phones to call my friends phone so I had their number... I was going to do it with this girl but I lost her in the club before I could
 

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spooky's pretty right on when it comes to this stuff, but you really have to go out and find other girls. It seems weird because you really only care about 1 during your oneitis, but finding others that "meet your type" really help to place less importance on your oneitis as well as helping you to get rid of it as well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wait, if she's in another state, how would that relationship work?
 

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shiningshadow said:
Wait, if she's in another state, how would that relationship work?
I know man... most likely it would NOT work, but we are both about to graduate and will most likely be getting jobs in the same area... plus she would visit me (she said so)

I think what happened is that I finally found a girl with all the characteristics I want in a woman, it went really well, we both liked eachother, then BOOM... gone. To have something so good then all of a sudden it's gone, when it shouldn't have been, really hurts... but... I do feel A LOT better than yesterday.

Thanks for all the advice guys, it really helped
 

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Dust 2 Dust said:
What happens on spring break stays in spring break-forget her.
wow

for some reason this completely clicked with me... i am serious

that really helped man, thanks
 

white_hype

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lol
i'm already over it

thanks for all the help, i'm actually glad it happened though... I learned a lot
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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