You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you do everything right, then you wouldn't get friendzoned. Everyone makes mistakes though and if it does happen, I'd be honest and polite and NOT desperate. Smile say "I think you're cool, but I'm not interested in being your friend". If she replies with something like "Well I guess we can't see eachother anymore then." I'd reply with "That's up to you". If she's still not digging it after that, it's a lost cause.MisterD said:
I simply make my self clear that I don't believe in friendship between a man and a woman! "Nature didn't make us to be friends I'm sorry" that's my words! She might ask, then what are we? I've answered "we're just two people who like each other but for some strange reasons we do nothing about it"MisterD said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree about if you do it right it wouldn't happen, but sometimes it's about not having attraction. The few times it has happened, it wasnt a matter of me waiting years to ask a girl out and shes already comfortable with me being her bff. It was me approaching a girl, landing her number, and then as soon as i escalate she says well im just hoping we can be friends; aka i didnt know how to turn you down when i gave you my number, so im turning you down now. At which point I move on. Its not one of those things were i worship a chick for a few months/years, then one day profess my love for her and she rejects me. It's a new chick, as soon I get the number and escalate they try to use the friend zone card.Chickfight said: