I Have no social proof, but so what.

[Comeback kid]

Lately ive been realizing i don't have many friends. I have alot of people im aqquainted with, people i hang out with or say whats up to every now and then but not many who are real friends. One of my good friends just out of the blue stop talking to me a week ago, i would say hi to him and he wouldn't answer back, he hangs out with this other kid now and once i think i saw him talking about me. Alot of people at school don't really like me for various reasons but im okay with that because i don't need anyone. A month ago i had plans to attempt to become popular, now im like i don't really care about being popular, ever. If there's a girl i want to talk to, im talking to her regardless of how well known or disliked i am. And if my lack of friends hurts my chances then i guess i'll wait until i get a car to talk to girls out of school. I don't ever want to put myself in a position where i need friends to feel better or to get girls. There's nothing wrong with having friends and being popular, and maybe having a bad rep and no social proof destroys my chances of getting girl at this high school, but if thats how it is, then so what. Im not going to waste my youth begging people to like me. There's life out of high school.

 

[ChrizZ]

Lately ive been realizing i don't have many friends. I have alot of people im aqquainted with, people i hang out with or say whats up to every now and then but not many who are real friends. One of my good friends just out of the blue stop talking to me a week ago, i would say hi to him and he wouldn't answer back, he hangs out with this other kid now and once i think i saw him talking about me. Alot of people at school don't really like me for various reasons but im okay with that because i don't need anyone. A month ago i had plans to attempt to become popular, now im like i don't really care about being popular, ever. If there's a girl i want to talk to, im talking to her regardless of how well known or disliked i am. And if my lack of friends hurts my chances then i guess i'll wait until i get a car to talk to girls out of school. I don't ever want to put myself in a position where i need friends to feel better or to get girls. There's nothing wrong with having friends and being popular, and maybe having a bad rep and no social proof destroys my chances of getting girl at this high school, but if thats how it is, then so what. Im not going to waste my youth begging people to like me. There's life out of high school.

brave man.

That's exactly my mindset, too.

You'll do fine once you have a car.

Don't worry. Life hasn't even started yet. You are still young.

 

[LostAndConfused]

About a year ago I lost literally over 90% of all my friends at my school. Why? I have no idea. A couple of my remaining *best* friends and I just think it was out of jealousy.

Not having that many friends does hurt, don't try to cover it up, girls are more receptive to a guys popularity than even his looks, but your mentality is great.

You really CAN succeed with girls from outside the school. The last two girls I've dated recently are both from different schools!

But i gotta warn ya, whatever you do, DON"T tell people inside your school that you are dating or in a relationship. One of the two girls an HB7 easily, just "stopped talking" when some phony arsehole who pretended to be my friend at school talked to a kid from the girls school about me and that kid went on to tell her that I had very little friends.

 

[fresh_to_death]

Lately ive been realizing i don't have many friends. I have alot of people im aqquainted with, people i hang out with or say whats up to every now and then but not many who are real friends. One of my good friends just out of the blue stop talking to me a week ago, i would say hi to him and he wouldn't answer back, he hangs out with this other kid now and once i think i saw him talking about me. Alot of people at school don't really like me for various reasons but im okay with that because i don't need anyone. A month ago i had plans to attempt to become popular, now im like i don't really care about being popular, ever. If there's a girl i want to talk to, im talking to her regardless of how well known or disliked i am. And if my lack of friends hurts my chances then i guess i'll wait until i get a car to talk to girls out of school. I don't ever want to put myself in a position where i need friends to feel better or to get girls. There's nothing wrong with having friends and being popular, and maybe having a bad rep and no social proof destroys my chances of getting girl at this high school, but if thats how it is, then so what. Im not going to waste my youth begging people to like me. There's life out of high school.

After you graduate you will be lucky if you ever bump into half of the people you went to school with, let alone friends. All that petty sheet doesn't matter after those 4 years. F**k what you think others think about you. You got a good head start on that philosophy.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

. F**k what you think others think about you. You got a good head start on that philosophy.

second that motion. work on yourself. by the time your in college or out of college, you'll be light years ahead of everybody and getting laid and paid like there's no tomorrow.

 

[redspicyflag]

wow man

I feel like this sometimes

No real homies



but I like the mindset

 

[Rho]

Lately ive been realizing i don't have many friends. I have alot of people im aqquainted with, people i hang out with or say whats up to every now and then but not many who are real friends. One of my good friends just out of the blue stop talking to me a week ago, i would say hi to him and he wouldn't answer back, he hangs out with this other kid now and once i think i saw him talking about me. Alot of people at school don't really like me for various reasons but im okay with that because i don't need anyone. A month ago i had plans to attempt to become popular, now im like i don't really care about being popular, ever. If there's a girl i want to talk to, im talking to her regardless of how well known or disliked i am. And if my lack of friends hurts my chances then i guess i'll wait until i get a car to talk to girls out of school. I don't ever want to put myself in a position where i need friends to feel better or to get girls. There's nothing wrong with having friends and being popular, and maybe having a bad rep and no social proof destroys my chances of getting girl at this high school, but if thats how it is, then so what. Im not going to waste my youth begging people to like me. There's life out of high school.

How long have you got left of school mate and what are the reasons no one likes you?

Just befriend the nerds, they are always accepting.
Better yet if you wanna pick up your academic game befriend asian nerds

 

[blackomen]

In college, I was kinda like that. I had like only 2 friends I hung out with all the time. I wasn't a loner either.. I had lots of acquaintances and temporary friends. Basically, I'd be hanging out with a different group every couple of months or so. A lot of times, I just relied on the social proof of my acquaintances to get "in" certain group. Even now, I still find it more exciting to meet lots of new people on a regular basis even if it means sacrificing deeper relationships with a select few group of "friends".

 

[2.0]

Wow, good for you! Don't let others' thoughts about you dictate your life.

 

[MacAvoy]

I am impressed with your outlook. HS is a really finicky place and you'll do well in the real world.