I have hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up!!!!

[Locster]

I think Im way below most guys in here. Ive never talked to a hot girl in any unformal way much less done anything with them. Several incidents in my life prevented me from growing in this field and actually made my social skills plummet. I need to start and get this part of my life handeld now. I've read everything in this website (bible, posts, etc.) but it just goes in one ear and out the other. What would you recommend for a guy like me who has little social skills and needs change everything as soon as possible.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Get some help from a therapist. Not everyone can overcome there problems on their own. The fact that youre so unwilling to listen to what people here have to say, let alone try to pull yourself out of your slump, you need someone to help you personally. Get a friend that get girls and watch what he does; watch what other guys who get girls do as well. You can learn social skills by watching others. You have to do something about it. Im willing to bet you havent put that much effort in for very long. PM me if you want help, be specific about what your problems are and what you what to fix.

 

[VegasGuy56]

I agree. You should definitely see a therapist.

 

[Dogfish]

Oh come on, I changed w/o help, too.

-Stop jerking off.
-Be confident and so on. Read the DJ bible.
-listen to new music, especially dancehall, dance, groove...
-get out, do a tour w/ other guys your age, get other opinions.

 

[Locster]

Ill visit a therapist although this week i will try talk to as many strangers as possible. I dont want to sound like that guy dreamx or those other trolls, Im willing to follow people's advice.

 

[The Master Disaster]

Oh come on, I changed w/o help, too.

-Stop jerking off.

Man I love it too much.

 

[Dogfish]

Man I love it too much.

Ok.

I don't care.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

Man I love it too much.

I got bored with it. Something about having to do it myself. Eh.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

man i was like you in highschool, but when it finished i started going on this site. Now i am in a new college and doing good.
Seems to me like you are in first year of your college right?? never a better time to change, become socially popular by hanging out with all the right people, dress right and play it right(askmen.com), at the same time just keep reading tips and keep practicing, after a while it will just become natural to you and you will have a good social life and girls will naturally like u.

 

[Locster]

I have about a month left of high school, I think its better to seek professional help.

 

[oakraiderz2]

I have about a month left of high school, I think its better to seek professional help.

Dude you havent even tried. You cant wait a week and decide you need help cause you put forth no effort. Change your attitude first and foremost. Believe that you can do things and youll be suprised what direction itll take you. Im starting to kinda think youre a troll...dreamx perhaps?

 

[Dante3214]

I don't think you need to see a damn therapist at all!

Waste of money, imo.


What YOU need to do, is something stupid.


You think I'm kidding, but I'm not.


If you don't want to be shy (which I'm sure you are), throw yourself out in the open.


Wear a damn sticky note on your head with your name on it.


Fvck what anyone thinks.


Start with doing random things around your friends, stuff you would normally be too afraid to do.


Like touching them on the shoulder and stuff.



But most of all, just realize that you're just another goddamn person, and you have just as much possibility as anyone else to achieve what they want, which is an ASS LOAD!


-Good Luck!

 

[Mr_rogers]

I don't think you need to see a damn therapist at all!

Waste of money, imo.


What YOU need to do, is something stupid.


You think I'm kidding, but I'm not.


If you don't want to be shy (which I'm sure you are), throw yourself out in the open.


Wear a damn sticky note on your head with your name on it.


Fvck what anyone thinks.


Start with doing random things around your friends, stuff you would normally be too afraid to do.


Like touching them on the shoulder and stuff.



But most of all, just realize that you're just another goddamn person, and you have just as much possibility as anyone else to achieve what they want, which is an ASS LOAD!


-Good Luck!

No, that's a truly terrible idea. When you're shy, the very last thing that you want to do is go out and make a fool of yourself. You have to start small.

What the original poster should likely do is to get a job if you don't have one already, earn some money, and then start hanging out at public places. Challenge yourself by joining one of the Bootcamps once another one opens up, and follow them to the letter.

Good luck!

 

[Rocko]

My opinion on this, its never too late to change, stop beatin it like dogfish said, be more confident in what you do, GO OUT. I was the same for the most part, then i got a license and now i go anywhere just because. Drive to places that you can brag about ie "Drove out to malibu yesterday, conditions were prime, my friends and I had a blast..." you get the picture. I recommend simply talking to people, be more interactive. You can start out by just saying hi to people at school, random strangers, etc.. Just remember, who cares what others think.

This may seem a bit too intense, but like you said, you don't have much time and what IS the worse that can happen, you need to realize that like you said, you have hit rock bottom, try it all.

 

[dannowillbookem]

dont try to change everything at once. you're gonna bomb miserably and become confused. keep things simple...two or three things at a time. you wanna work out? i dont but it'll make you a better person. make it part of your overall changing appearance...haircut, nice new clothes, bottle of cologne etc. broke? go get a job. start reading pooks work, being a person who gets things done. if you want to change your life you start with the easiest to change stuff. start watching friends instead of star trek, get a tan, spend some time looking in the mirror, etc. its really not that complicated, but getting things started is the hardest part.

 

[Dandrufman]

Im starting to kinda think youre a troll...dreamx perhaps?

Yea, ever since he was banned I keep waiting for him to pop up. Its kind of a shame, actually, he was starting to get a little better. Oh well.

Edit: After reading the ViperX posts, I've changed my mind. Dreamx, if you read this, you need a therapist. I'm not kidding, you seriously have issues and you need to see a professional.

On to the problem at hand, first off, you have to realize that most people are actually as bad off as you are in terms of skills, they just are confident about it. Life is 90% confidence and 10% skill (i'll leave luck out of this). Secondly, try printing off articles on the things you want to change most and reading them before bed. Your brain converts short term to long term memory when you sleep, so you'll remember what your read more than if you just read during the day. Third, either get into a bootcamp or start one (even if you just do it on your own). You need a serious confidence boost.

 

[Locster]

Im not a geek, Im a normal somewhat shy person who's just afraid to take risks. My problem is that I have low self-esteem. I know that if something life changing happens to me I can become the outgoing guy I was back before my teen days.

 

[Rocko]

you can't just wait for something to come to you, you have to help make it happen. Please don't just expect that to happen, i did a few years back and it sucked, major, come on, i even though girls would come ask ME out, and i was a looser ( i was in 6/7th grade, young and confused )

 

[Locster]

My first step would have to be making new friends, which will start tommorow.

 

[don juan jr]

I noticed you live in Los angeles and you are 17. looks like two things we have in common brotha!