I need suggestions from experts on what I might be doing wrong.
In the last few years I have improved myself significantly but I still dont have a girlfriend. I have tried everything - reading online websites such as sosuave, reading david deangelo's material and tons of other things out there. I consider myself to be average looking. Few women in the past have called me "cute" and "so good looking", so I dont think looks is the problem. Atleast I am not hideous. The pattern seems to be that girls whom I dont find attractive find me attractive. The girls that I find good looking are almost always (a) either hooked up (b) show little interest in me.
In the past I used to be really shy, but I have improved myself tremendously. I have greatly improved my social skills. I dress well, talk well, make good money. I have lots of friends. I am really confortable talking to strangers. I am usually good at conversations/talking funny/flirting etc. I participate in tons of interesting activities. I goto lot of parties, meet lot of new people, do tons of exciting and new things. I think I have everything going for me in terms of all the things that people usually advise DJs just starting to improve. Friends and co workers find it impossible to believe that I am not dating anyone. I am just telling the general perception that people have because I come across as an exceptional guy in lot of things. But the reality is different and the girls are turning me down left and right. Especially the girls that I am interested in. I have improved my game, so I am able to get their numbers/emails 80% of the time. But they almost never result in any dates.
At this point my inner game is quite strong so I dont really care whether girls reject me or accept me. I have long back stopped women define my happiness or sense of esteem. However, I am very confused as to why this is happening. Am I just plain unlucky? Or are the girls I find attractive out of my league (if there is such a thing).
The pattern has become so predictable and frustating. Everytime I meet a girl that I am interested in, she doesnt show interest at all. If I get the number or email, it doesnt lead to anything more. They dont return calls or reply back. Everytime I meet girls that I dont find attractive, they find me attractive. But I dont want to date them.
I thought that maybe when I come across girls that I find attractive, I subconciously act wussy, show neediness and all the AFC stuff, but I dont think that is what happens. I have observed myself in such situations and even asked my friends to give me feedback. My level of game is usually the same. For some reason, I NEVER can get further.
I feel I have hit a plateau. I am starting to believe, unfortunately, that maybe there is some truth about some girls being out of your league. Should I just compromise and date girls that I dont find attractive and dont make me happy? I hope there is another answer out there.
In the last few years I have improved myself significantly but I still dont have a girlfriend. I have tried everything - reading online websites such as sosuave, reading david deangelo's material and tons of other things out there. I consider myself to be average looking. Few women in the past have called me "cute" and "so good looking", so I dont think looks is the problem. Atleast I am not hideous. The pattern seems to be that girls whom I dont find attractive find me attractive. The girls that I find good looking are almost always (a) either hooked up (b) show little interest in me.
In the past I used to be really shy, but I have improved myself tremendously. I have greatly improved my social skills. I dress well, talk well, make good money. I have lots of friends. I am really confortable talking to strangers. I am usually good at conversations/talking funny/flirting etc. I participate in tons of interesting activities. I goto lot of parties, meet lot of new people, do tons of exciting and new things. I think I have everything going for me in terms of all the things that people usually advise DJs just starting to improve. Friends and co workers find it impossible to believe that I am not dating anyone. I am just telling the general perception that people have because I come across as an exceptional guy in lot of things. But the reality is different and the girls are turning me down left and right. Especially the girls that I am interested in. I have improved my game, so I am able to get their numbers/emails 80% of the time. But they almost never result in any dates.
At this point my inner game is quite strong so I dont really care whether girls reject me or accept me. I have long back stopped women define my happiness or sense of esteem. However, I am very confused as to why this is happening. Am I just plain unlucky? Or are the girls I find attractive out of my league (if there is such a thing).
The pattern has become so predictable and frustating. Everytime I meet a girl that I am interested in, she doesnt show interest at all. If I get the number or email, it doesnt lead to anything more. They dont return calls or reply back. Everytime I meet girls that I dont find attractive, they find me attractive. But I dont want to date them.
I thought that maybe when I come across girls that I find attractive, I subconciously act wussy, show neediness and all the AFC stuff, but I dont think that is what happens. I have observed myself in such situations and even asked my friends to give me feedback. My level of game is usually the same. For some reason, I NEVER can get further.
I feel I have hit a plateau. I am starting to believe, unfortunately, that maybe there is some truth about some girls being out of your league. Should I just compromise and date girls that I dont find attractive and dont make me happy? I hope there is another answer out there.