"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have f***ing weird body proportions!

michaelhctam

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I am 6'2 and weigh 281lbs.

Now the problem is, my body proportions are sooo bloody weird. My legs are longer than my body, my head is large (but I have a good bone structure: like high cheek bone and strong jawline), my fat distribution is really weird aswell, I have ALOT of fat accumilated around my chest, stomuch, hips and back but my arms and legs are really musculer...I know I have a mesomorphic body under the fat. All my muscles are concentrated around my stomuch area (but hidden by fat) and I have ALOT of muscles around my leg and thigh area, but not much on the chest and arm area.....

I know my bone structure is really big because when I touch my arms and legs its SOLID. My wrist watch circumfrence is much wider than any other person I have ever met and my wrist is basically 4mm of skin and then pure BONE. My shins too, its like skin, 1cm of muscle then pure BONE, its not even soft!

Do I have weird body proportions? Or just normal, what can I improve about my body?

(I have picture attatchments)
(The one on the far left)

(The one between my dad and sister)

Just me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warboss Alex

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you appear to carry a lot of bodyfat, once you have lost this your true proportions will be clear.
 

Interceptor

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Michael, you are different..but not "weird".
If you continue to ingrain this negative self talk at such a young age, you will be setting yoursefl up for some severe psychological disorders and will need therapy.

Do not start shooting yourself in the foot and self sabotaging without truly having lived your life.
There is much more ahead for you. Don't reject yourself before you've even gotten out there.
 

Create Reality

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long legs = fast runner.

thick wrists = good puncher.

I don't see a problem? Maybe just shed some fat.

For some reason you don't look 6'2 OR 281 lbs in those pics.

Get into some fast-motion exercise. Train the fast-twitch muscle and watch the pounds melt off.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Master Bates

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Lose the fat, wear some nice fitting clothes, and you'll look great.
 

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Yep to cardio. If you lose some of the fat and gained a little muscle in the torso area, you'll look much better.
 

movistar

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Your normal, you just need to lose a little fat. I have a friend who was built just like you, he lost about 20lbs and he turned into a chick magnet, he didn't keep the weight off though, and only enjoyed it for a one summer.

BTW your sister is pretty hot, so there are some good genes in there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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eminence

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The only weird body proportion is that your fat, everything else is fine
 

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you have a cute sister though.
in regards to the bone stuff, it might be true - i thought the same thing, but then i lost some weight and the wrist's got smaller.
 
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Being_the_Don

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You're a teenager so your body is still changing. You should lose the bodyfat but take it easy on how you do it. Read the stickies in this forum. And don't hate the way you look, that negative emotion will only mess you up.

His sister is attractive; I wouldn't call her "hot", though.
 

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eliminate sugar from your diet and eat less carbs, especially in the evening. start lifting weights. maybe work in some sprints. your not an ugly kid. i'm sure you'll look great if you loose some fat. also your 6'2". a lot of asian kids are short. women love tall dudes. hell women like big dudes.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Are you really 6'2? if you're 6'2 because the guy on the far right is taller then you which would make him 6'3. You look around 5'9-10 max. As for bones, yes I think you have thicker bones then normal asian but big bone has it advantages so it's not necessary a bad thing. What you do have that is bad is alot of fat which makes your head big and wrist even bigger. The only way to fix it is to loose fat, no other way.
 

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Analytic said:
Are you really 6'2? if you're 6'2 because the guy on the far right is taller then you which would make him 6'3. You look around 5'9-10 max. As for bones, yes I think you have thicker bones then normal asian but big bone has it advantages so it's not necessary a bad thing. What you do have that is bad is alot of fat which makes your head big and wrist even bigger. The only way to fix it is to loose fat, no other way.
No, trust me I am 6'2 I appear shorter because I was hunching over slighty. What's the best Cardio excersise for fat lose?

I have slot of body fat on my upper body, how long ( on average) does it take to lose about 10-20lbs of fat?
 

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michaelhctam said:
I have slot of body fat on my upper body, how long ( on average) does it take to lose about 10-20lbs of fat?
10-20 weeks, although maybe a bit quicker because of teenage metabolism. This is assuming everything is done correctly.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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