I was pretty much a douche to her and she got mad at me and I deleted her number. I really thought this girl was going to be my gf. I've gotten to the point where I can't do anything, sleep, or even talk to other girls anymore. Getting on facebook just makes me feel ****** because we have like 8 photos together and it just makes me feel like ****. Also, when I see her name it makes me cringe. Every little thing reminds me of her now, and it just makes me feel like ****. I almost cried today and by the looks of it I will be balling my eyes out in 2 days. I went and hung out with friends, but was just depressed and in a ***** mood. I almost cried in front of them too. This is awful because I never cry and haven't cried since 6th grade. It's hard for me to meet new girls because I"m trapped in an empty house with no car. My town is only full of tweens too. I don't like to make threads like this, but I have no other hope. Can't even look at porn anymore. She also made me this gift that has her name and my name on it and it makes me feel worse.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have ebola version of oneitis right now, getting my ass stomped at the moment
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If seeing her photos on facebook **** you up, why do you have them on there? Delete them. Go No Contact. Its ok to feel like balls after getting your heart torn out. Feel the pain. Allow it to be. Cry. Feel the depths of loss and allow it to resonate. Tell yourself it is over. Believe it.JPlaya said:
In your moments of clarity think about who you are and what you want to become. Answers are obvious when outside of the emotions.
If where you live sucks, move. If you have no money, get a job and save....
So...I guess you ****ed up. I cannot tell you how much I have grown from my ****ups. If its meant to be she will contact. If not, it was already over.JPlaya said:
I would begin to prepare mentally and physically for the breakup ASAP. This is for your own sake.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
my fascination of the ebola virus made me laugh at this headline.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
after going no contact for about 6 months cured me off my oneitis girl. though it's still there a little bit for me, since i haven't had anyone else. once i do it will be gone
JCballin88
Senior Don Juan
OP I just went through something similar...had an epic fling with this chick, but ultimately it just didn't work out, mostly because I had to move far away from her for a new job and she got kind-of crazy and insecure.
Best thing I can tell you is that you have to hit rock bottom before things can look up. I was there - I shed some tears, got angry, frustrated, confused. But from that point on, things got a little better every day.
I hit the gym, took care of myself better, ate better, slept better, and sure enough things started turning around to the point where I'm now actively trying to game some new girls who I realized are a much better match for me anyways.
Best thing I can tell you is that you have to hit rock bottom before things can look up. I was there - I shed some tears, got angry, frustrated, confused. But from that point on, things got a little better every day.
I hit the gym, took care of myself better, ate better, slept better, and sure enough things started turning around to the point where I'm now actively trying to game some new girls who I realized are a much better match for me anyways.
JohnChops
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J, this happened to me... deleted her number, couldnt talk to other girls anymore, even if i saw her name id be pissed off. Honestly it takes time just dont contact her ever. And seriously use that anger you got to get shredded in the gym.. its the best motivation. And I agree with @JCballin88 once you start feeling better about yourself (ie. hitting the gym, sleeping better, looking better , etc) you will regain everything you lost and start hitting on better woman 