"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thedoc

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Basically, there's this girl in school. I'm a senior, she's a junior. I didn't even know she went to my school until last week, since then I've seen her once and it was outside of school, in an elevator. I kind of started a conversation but it was in a crowded elevator I felt REALLY awkward just talking. It didn't go particularly well but nothing bad happened.
I saw her in school some other time and she flashed a huge smile at me. That doesn't mean much but that's certainly not a negative.

Next time I see her, I wanna ask her out or SOMETHING. For the first time in probably a year I'm developing a one-itis. I don't even remember if she's hot or not, I just remember I thought she was cute.

So, next time I see her, what do you suggest my game plan to be? I have no problem opening and if I see her before anyone posts here I'm just gonna go for it and ask her out. I just need a yes or a no, and if it's a no I'll just forget about her, this uncertainty is killing me!

Thanks guys!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thedoc said:
Basically, there's this girl in school. I'm a senior, she's a junior. I didn't even know she went to my school until last week, since then I've seen her once and it was outside of school, in an elevator. I kind of started a conversation but it was in a crowded elevator I felt REALLY awkward just talking. It didn't go particularly well but nothing bad happened.
I saw her in school some other time and she flashed a huge smile at me. That doesn't mean much but that's certainly not a negative.

Next time I see her, I wanna ask her out or SOMETHING. For the first time in probably a year I'm developing a one-itis. I don't even remember if she's hot or not, I just remember I thought she was cute.

So, next time I see her, what do you suggest my game plan to be? I have no problem opening and if I see her before anyone posts here I'm just gonna go for it and ask her out. I just need a yes or a no, and if it's a no I'll just forget about her, this uncertainty is killing me!

Thanks guys!
Not exactly sure what you're asking for? If I were you I wouldn't let a oneitis develop..but if you want to ask her out, then do it. That's the whole point.
 

thedoc

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anx1ety said:
Not exactly sure what you're asking for? If I were you I wouldn't let a oneitis develop..but if you want to ask her out, then do it. That's the whole point.
I'm basically asking what I should say. I know it's not very important but still. The 30 secs part didn't really make sense. By that I meant I have almost to say whatever I have to say in between classes.

I don't THINK I saw her today, maybe I just didn't notice idk. She's not extraordinarily beautiful or anything. That's why this oneitis is starting to piss me off.

Oh well, 3 day weekend coming up! Time to forget about it and party it up!
 

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WHAT YOU SAY IS 10% OF WHAT SHE PERCEIVES.
WHO YOU ARE WHEN YOU SAY IT CONVEYS THE OTHER 90%.

Are you speaking in a relatively low and confident tone? Are you standing up straight? Do you have good posture? Are you smiling at the appropriate times?

Or are you an insecure little boy who she will just laugh at?

30 seconds is more than enough

I've answered this question over and over. I don't even feel like typing out the whole generic convo. Go look at some of my past posts. You'll find examples of how i number close. Simplest **** ever.

Remember: When you're walking up to her, she's thinking about how you walk, basically how you present yourself. When you open your mouth, she's looking at your lips and fantasizing. Assuming she's attracted to you...Otherwise, she has a pre-determined no in her mind...A slight amount of physical attraction IS necessary. When you begin to talk, she's not thinking about what you're saying. She's thinking about how she's going to respond and if you're trying to get her number.
 

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jeffthechef said:
WHAT YOU SAY IS 10% OF WHAT SHE PERCEIVES.
WHO YOU ARE WHEN YOU SAY IT CONVEYS THE OTHER 90%.

Are you speaking in a relatively low and confident tone? Are you standing up straight? Do you have good posture? Are you smiling at the appropriate times?

Or are you an insecure little boy who she will just laugh at?

30 seconds is more than enough

I've answered this question over and over. I don't even feel like typing out the whole generic convo. Go look at some of my past posts. You'll find examples of how i number close. Simplest **** ever.

Remember: When you're walking up to her, she's thinking about how you walk, basically how you present yourself. When you open your mouth, she's looking at your lips and fantasizing. Assuming she's attracted to you...Otherwise, she has a pre-determined no in her mind...A slight amount of physical attraction IS necessary. When you begin to talk, she's not thinking about what you're saying. She's thinking about how she's going to respond and if you're trying to get her number.
That's basically what I was looking for lol. I know for a FACT that personality wise, she only sees positives. Look wise, I'm pretty sure there's no big negatives either.
I was just unsure because of the lack of time to really do or say much. Although I have an idea of what to say I'll search through some old posts anyway.
Thanks a lot, I'll be sure to post on the outcome, whenever it is lol.

By the way, the thing you said about smiling caught my attention. I think I smile too much, but not in a bad way. People (including a teacher or two) sometimes call me sunshine :).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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