I Have Anger Problems/I Don't Know What To Do

[LiveFreeX]

The only poster who usually responds to me like that is Jaylan. The other type would be a woman. Which are you???

 

[Tictac]

The only poster who usually responds to me like that is Jaylan. The other type would be a woman. Which are you???

I am something you could never understand Pee-Wee.

And I don't need groupies.

Take a hike.

 

[LiveFreeX]

I am something you could never understand Pee-Wee.

I rest my case.

The only users who would defend American women ARE American women.

 

[Tictac]

I rest my case.

You'd have to have a room temperature IQ to know what a case was.

You don't

 

[LiveFreeX]

That was 10 seconds after I posted it, greetings program...

Either I'm talking to a bot or you are hitting that refresh button faster than an anorexic hits the salad bar.

 

[exhausted]

I do, they are bad, and they are all mainly coming from my dealings with women.

They say the AFC is the "frustrated" chump, but his frustrations are usually related to not getting laid. Those aren't my frustrations, my frustrations are in relation to the QUALITY of the god damn relationships I keep getting and just being still pissed off with women from my early interactions with them.

#1.) Relationship Quality

I'm stuck on a fvcking merry-go-round. Every single chick I get, there's always a major fvcking problem with her. Either she has weight issues to the point of when she's naked I get turned off, or the bytch is a gold-digger and constantly tries to get me to give her money, or the chick has financial issues which means she has to ask me to help pay her $30 Metro PCS bill, or the chick is just flat out fickle as hell and you don't know if she's going OR coming.

Listen, I've tried to keep a positive attitude and just keep "spinning plates" of these chicks, I can't fvcking do it anymore. I'm going insane here and I'm afraid that I'm going to SNAP. I'm being honest. I have been flat out going off on women for years now and when I go off, I GO THE FVCK OFF. I haven't physically hit anybody (YET), but I'm cursing her out and doing all types of verbal abusive shyt. So you can say I'm a verbal abuser.


#2.) Early Interactions

In addition to the above, I'm sorry, but I'm still pissed off based on what happened to me during my actual "AFC" days in high school and my very early 20's.

I'm black so the majority of women I deal with and have dealt with are black women, okay? And back then the black women would pick flat out losers, bums and thugs over me because I "spoke like a whiteboy and was too smart".

STILL TO THIS DAY, when I think about that shyt, it pisses me the fvck off when I think about how fvcked up the black community is and how fvcked up black men are in general, and how these stupid bytches helped to create that.

One minute, it's we need black men to get their shyt together, then the next minute, the stupid bytch is deliberating picking a DOPE DEALER over the black dude on his way to fvcking college? How the fvck does that make sense??


I'm About To SNAP

Listen, I'm worried about myself, okay? I have been going off on women and verbally abusing them for at least 5 years straight now, off and on. IF I don't do something quick, I'm afraid the next step is I'm about to physically assault one of them and then I'll be in jail, having worked my a.ss off from nothing and have it all thrown away in an instant.

So, in a way, I'm reaching out for help here. I have tried talking to counselors and all they do is provide bullshyt Walt Disney like advice that I get nothing out of. None of the blue pill guys in my social circle can assist, tried talking to them and nobody even comprehends WTF I'm going through because they are all like, if you are getting laid, why do you care about all this other stuff?

I don't know what to do but if I don't do something, my life is going to get fvcked up.

Stop caring so much to the point where you are destroying yourself emotionally, mentally and spiritually. If I have to be that upset with a female then I will go get a different female.
Start training your mind and heart not to be so attached, maybe a year together and you can start to let your guard down, but if you are flipping out on chicks then that shows they are not worth your time and stress. Save that for your wife, no one else is worth being that upset or bothered by. If a female is ruining your days and causing you unnecessary stress and anxiety, she isnt worth it.
Lower you expectations for these terrible women and then when you find one worth while you will know it. Life is too short to be flipping out on women who arent going to be your life partner.

 

[LiveFreeX]

 

[Tenacity]

Wanted to update this thread with a couple of notes:

#1.) Foreign Women

I've been looking into my boy Live Free's recommendation to consider more foreign women, I will have an update on that soon.


#2.) The Chick I Really Want

I outlined the type of girl I really want and what I would define as "quality", for reference you can check out the initial post.

After looking back over the previous 5 - 6 years, I believe that I actually DID get girls that fit this criteria but I just sort of fvcked up the relationship. As I mentioned I had been "going off" a lot, and usually when I went off on certain girls they wouldn't tolerate it, they would immediately cut ties, while some girls would stick around after the "episode". I think (looking back) at least a good 6 girls fit the "quality chick" criteria that I'm looking for.

- As a result, I'm going to zone in solely on looking for women that fit my criteria and I have/I'm in the process of cutting ties with the other women that don't fit it. The reality is that I'm 32 and I only get ONE LIFE, if I'm going to go for this shyt and zone in on it, I have to do it now.

- My plan is to only entertain chicks that fit the criteria I have listed, if this doesn't work out, I will just go back to dealing with the chicks that don't fit my criteria because they are ABUNDANT in supply. They aren't going no where and it's easy to find them. The type of chick I'm looking for is number one, more difficult to find and number two, she doesn't tolerate some of my "shyt" like the other girls do so I'm going to clean that up a bit.

- I'll keep this thread updated with information. I would post pictures of the chicks but I'm afraid it might come up in the search engines. While I have no quarrels about having my identity on here, I don't want a chick to know I'm posting her pictures on websites for other guys to judge her.


#3.) For The Anger Issues

I think it's time I incorporated back into my life aspects of the New Thought Movement. I'm not giving up my REALIST approach to life, but I'm going to incorporate more of the "positive outlook and positive feelings" stuff back in because the honest truth is that at times....I go overboard on the negative shyt, I do. Doesn't mean my analysis on the market is wrong, but I think that I have the capabilities, character, personality, etc. to get what I'm looking for in spite of the market.

As I told you guys before, I was a part of church ministry for 6 years and all they focused on was the New Thought Movement. I was the happiest and most at PEACE during that time of my life, than ever before, even though I was financially broke as hell.

I believe I can get that internal PEACE back through connecting back with my spiritual connection like I did once before.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

Hmm, I wonder if your post is of genuine intent--or the good ol' reel them back into this thread and deride em'.

 

[Tenacity]

Hmm, I wonder if your post is of genuine intent--or the good ol' reel them back into this thread and deride em'.

It's of genuine intent, like every one of my posts are. I was asking you guys follow up questions and getting clarification on a couple of things that didn't make sense. I got clarification on some things and others not so much, but the updates above are what I'm doing.

I must admit, it's been a little hard even though it's been a couple of days. I've been forced to just "make" myself not entertain the women I've been entertaining and focus on the type of chick I want, but the lack of attention is already starting to affect me a little. I'm just used to always having a chick around, even if I don't really like her that much.

 

[Tenacity]

Just wanted to update this thread. So I'm wondering, to the guys who talk about targeting more quality women (those without kids, good finances, good looks) I'm just wondering do you guys notice what I've been noticing, and it's that a lot of times they are more DIFFICULT to manage?

It's like, the chicks who have something wrong with them, such as bad finances or maybe two kids, or maybe weight problems, it's like they have better behavior or something? It's like it's much easier for me to control the frame, move the chick forward, and the whole nine yards.

The more "quality" chicks usually always take longer to fvck, they are harder to fvck, they don't communicate as QUICKLY as the other type of chicks do, they are more likely to be fickle, more likely to cancel a date at the last minute, etc.

Do you guys think this is just the way it is, or might I be doing something that's causing this? When people like T.O. say that my personality might be totally off, I just don't see it? The chicks are laughing, having a good time, the traditional "seduction" stuff such as ****y/funny, kino and elicting values are all incorporated into my "natural" personality, but maybe I'm missing something that I'm doing wrong and don't know it? OR, are these chicks just more of a pain in the a.ss in general??

 

[Desdinova]

They're more of a pain in the ass.

If they fvck easily, they've got other 5hit wrong with them. If they seem to have their 5hit together, they're harder to fvck. Finding that balance is a rarity. You're gonna go through a ton of chicks before you find one that has a decent balance, and even then she won't be perfect. The best girl I ever dated had what appeared to be a developing drug and alcohol problem. Everything else about her was great.

The only way you're going to get satisfaction is to find a great girl while you're in high school and stick with her. We're all way past that now, and fvcking high school chicks is illegal. We get all the damaged goods that fell off the back of the graduation truck.

 

[ChrisFloyd]

Never let anything steals your joy.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's like, the chicks who have something wrong with them, such as bad finances or maybe two kids, or maybe weight problems, it's like they have better behavior or something? It's like it's much easier for me to control the frame, move the chick forward, and the whole nine yards.

Why do fat girls suck a good d!ck?

Because they have to.

 

[Slickster]

Just wanted to update this thread. So I'm wondering, to the guys who talk about targeting more quality women (those without kids, good finances, good looks) I'm just wondering do you guys notice what I've been noticing, and it's that a lot of times they are more DIFFICULT to manage?

It's like, the chicks who have something wrong with them, such as bad finances or maybe two kids, or maybe weight problems, it's like they have better behavior or something? It's like it's much easier for me to control the frame, move the chick forward, and the whole nine yards.

The more "quality" chicks usually always take longer to fvck, they are harder to fvck, they don't communicate as QUICKLY as the other type of chicks do, they are more likely to be fickle, more likely to cancel a date at the last minute, etc.

Do you guys think this is just the way it is, or might I be doing something that's causing this? When people like T.O. say that my personality might be totally off, I just don't see it? The chicks are laughing, having a good time, the traditional "seduction" stuff such as ****y/funny, kino and elicting values are all incorporated into my "natural" personality, but maybe I'm missing something that I'm doing wrong and don't know it? OR, are these chicks just more of a pain in the a.ss in general??

Now we are getting somewhere!

Think about the observations you are making here. It's not that quality chicks are more difficult. They are more selective and picky. It makes sense. They have the option to choose better for themselves. This goes for quality women and men.

A low quality chick will make it easy for a guy. She has to. How many guys fall for that sh!t looking for an easy piece of a$$ and end up frustrated with the results? Most do.

A higher quality chick may go through the motions and react positively to all the classic seduction stuff but when push comes to shove if she senses you aren't the real deal then you get resistance and what you perceive as difficulty. I am NOT saying that you need to jump through more hoops to land a high quality chick. However, if a girl is really interested in you she WILL make it easy for you. You may not be doing anything wrong but you may not be creating any real interest in these higher quality women.

When it comes to seduction, I think a lot of male/female interaction ends up being just fluff. You can lay down all the seduction skills and attributes that we know work with women but that will only take you so far. With a low quality chick it will get you laid or even married. With a higher quality chick it may not get you anywhere. She has the option to be more selective.

While most interactions start off with "fluff" at some point it needs to get "real" for things to get to the next level. THIS is where I think most guys have a problem when it comes to higher quality women. They can't get over this hump because they don't have it within themselves, or they don't even realize it is there. They end up choosing the easy path and fvcking around with lower quality chicks who don't require this step.

I've spoken in the past about making genuine connections with genuine people. Think about those two requirements. Ask yourself when the last time you experienced that during a seduction. People are like onions. We have layers or walls around us. This is especially true in today's dating scene. What we show on the outside is not necessarily the people we are. I believe that being great at seducing women is learning how to get past those outer layers that we all have and expose the insides. It goes both ways too. If you are not willing to go there then I don't think you will EVER make a real connection with a quality person. In fact you won't even recognize ANYONE as being quality. Sadly I think this is a problem that plagues many.

Sure some onions look fine on the outside but end up being rotten at the core. Others look awful but end up being sweet. That is the interesting part of meeting new people. If you don't get past that fluff stage and peel back the layers you never really get to know anyone and people don't really know you. Getting past our outer layers is how real or genuine connections are made. You certainly don't do that with c0cky + funny routines, kino, push/pull techniques or any other seduction fluff.

I have buddies who complain about not meeting quality chicks too. Yet when I hang out with them, their primary goal is to get laid. They don't give a fvck about anything else and it's obvious to chicks even when they are trying to act genuine. How the fvck do you expect to meet a person of "quality" when you don't possess (or don't show) those qualities yourself? It's laughable.

We've all heard it said before that men and women tend to pair up in relationships with others who are of similar looks. (ie. 7's get with 7's. 9's get with 9's.) I believe the same can be said about people's class of character or "quality". If you aren't attracting the quality of woman you desire then you need to examine your own qualities. Maybe you don't have or don't exude the "quality" that you believe you possess.

I can remember one night way back when. I was getting ridiculously hit on by a very sexy (and slvtty looking) blonde at a bar one night with my drunken buddies. I could've easily banged this girl and it was tempting but it was obvious to me that she was bad news. I played along for awhile but eventually shot her down. I received a tongue lashing from the boys that night about how I was breaking some sort of guy code or laws of nature. Fvck that! I choose not to have stuff like that in my life. Is it really any different than choosing not to do bad drugs at a party? Sure you could indulge and have a great time in the moment but in the morning you would regret it and wonder why you lowered yourself to that level.

I also believe that choosing the high road or demanding higher quality for yourself (in everything not just women) tends to be a self fulfilling prophecy. You kind of create a reputation for yourself and this attracts better quality women by default. You can't roll around in the ditches with the slvts and low quality women all the time and then expect to suddenly move up in the world when you finally meet quality. This reputation doesn't happen over night either. It's something that you grow into and it emanates from you. Higher quality women sense it in you and lower quality women know that you are out of their league.

I think you are starting to make progress here Ten. Keep going brother.

 

[Tenacity]

Slick,

I need to make this clear to you though, because you and T.O. (and HitHard) keep talking about some generic "low level" chick I've been talking to all of this time. I need you guys to understand that I have NOT now and have never been, talking to "low level/ghetto" chicks, every chick I've been spinning/dating/fvcking has been:

- Age 24 - 35
- Mostly black women
- In college or graduated from college
- With some type of job or career
- Not ghetto, ratchet, and doesn't do serious drugs

Their income levels vary, their looks vary, their weight levels vary, the amount of kids they have vary, and their attitude/personality/level of fickle-ness varies.

When I refer to a chick being "low quality", I'm talking about women FROM THIS PILE, who either:

- Have more than 2 kids and are having financial issues on top of it, or they might just be having financial issues period. To me a person having financial issues is someone who lives paycheck to paycheck, I might be being too TOUGH because Millennials in general (especially black Millennials) are indeed struggling financially right now.

- She has weight issues and that's it. Nothing else is wrong with her, just that she looks pretty good with her clothes on, but when she takes them off, you can see all of her "rolls" and it's just a turn-off to me. But she's "cute" with her clothes on.

- Or, she might have no financial nor weight issues, but her attitude is fvcked up. What do I mean? She's usually high maintenance, or requires you to jump through all of these hoops, or she might have stupid requirements that you be 6'5, make $150k a year, have a 13 inch dyck, know how to sing, know how to dance, and all other types of insane shyt.

So I need to make that clear to you and everybody reading, I DO NOT and HAVE NOT been dating low level, ghetto, ratchet, chicks. I've been dating what's stereotypically considered the "good girl".

Now, when I say I'm targeting higher "quality" women, I'm basically looking for just one chick who has everything I want. That is a chick with no weight issues, no financial issues, and NO attitude/personality issues. Just a nice balanced chick. That's it. Nothing special, nothing glamorous, THAT'S all I want.

As I look back over my previous 6 years of spinning plates, I think about 3 or 4 women fit this criteria but they honestly just got LOST in the shuffle because keep in mind I've been dating/fvcking well over 100 - 150 women over the previous 6 years. So out of all of those women, only about 3 or 4 fit this criteria, and I'm on a quest now to find JUST ONE MORE of those women now that I know who I want.

 

[Slickster]

When I refer to a chick being "low quality", I'm talking about women FROM THIS PILE, who either:

- Have more than 2 kids and are having financial issues on top of it, or they might just be having financial issues period. To me a person having financial issues is someone who lives paycheck to paycheck, I might be being too TOUGH because Millennials in general (especially black Millennials) are indeed struggling financially right now.

- She has weight issues and that's it. Nothing else is wrong with her, just that she looks pretty good with her clothes on, but when she takes them off, you can see all of her "rolls" and it's just a turn-off to me. But she's "cute" with her clothes on.

- Or, she might have no financial nor weight issues, but her attitude is fvcked up. What do I mean? She's usually high maintenance, or requires you to jump through all of these hoops, or she might have stupid requirements that you be 6'5, make $150k a year, have a 13 inch dyck, know how to sing, know how to dance, and all other types of insane shyt.

So I need to make that clear to you and everybody reading, I DO NOT and HAVE NOT been dating low level, ghetto, ratchet, chicks. I've been dating what's stereotypically considered the "good girl".

I did not say anything about ghetto.

Your description above is what I would call low quality. I would add slvtty and promiscous girls too.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm on a quest now to find JUST ONE MORE of those women now that I know who I want.

That's quite the pedestal you'll be placing that woman on. It sounds like you would be defining your success and happiness by whether or not you have her. It's a big strain to place on a relationship.

 

[BeExcellent]

Keep at it Tenacity. You can see in review of your own experience that you have come across the rare girl who meets all your criteria but as you said, you were not actively filtering for what you know now that you want. You can also see from your own numbers how rare she is. But you have run across it before. Now you are ready to actually filter FOR that type of woman. Your odds are going to increase. You have to trust that they are. Don't get discouraged. I know its a new experiment for you but honestly stick with it. You are not even a month in. It may take time but keep at it. You might consider some young professional type organizations in your area. Rotary, young entrepreneurs, etc. You may be pleasantly surprised who you meet.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

I'm on a quest now to find JUST ONE MORE of those women now that I know who I want.

Tenacity, you confound cause and effect. The goal is not to find the unicorn. The goal is to be the unicorn. When you raise the bar of quality within yourself, you will find these "quality" women--all of a sudden--become more abundant in your life.

When you have a shortage of "something" in your life, understand this to mean you have a shortage of this "something" in yourself. Herein is the reason WHY these "quality" women are not readily available to you.Tell me who you are attracting, and I will tell you who you are.