I have an important question. help

[moneyisking]

Ok. Thank you bros of SoSuave, since I joined this forum, I have developed
dramatically. Almost in all occasions, I am no longer in fear of talking to random girls, which I think is a great breakthrough. I am keep feeding my inner game, and I finally understand that obsessing over formulas masses you up. I am doing great, enjoying my days more than ever.

I have this one problem that I must solve; how to sexualize yourself. The answer is simple. Adopt your masculinity, the nature, the testosterone. I know, but it is so hard to internalize it. I no longer think about what I am doing when I talk to girls, so this male sexuality where a man is not afraid of showing his sexuality should come out quite naturally. I have problems with that I think. I must internalize the male sexuality and embrace it. But funny, feels like some external or internal domain is subconsciously holding me from doing it. I don't get it. I always get the great idea of what I should have done to present my sexuality AFTER the interaction is over. Please help me with this. With this mastered, I am going to step up into the next world, and you guys know how amazing and important that is; and if you can take a part of that in improving another man's life, how awesome and manly is that? Thank you in advance!!

 

[Scars]

One question, were raised without a father figure? A "mommas boy" perhaps? This could be subconsciously holding you back due to your inner programming as a young child.

Take a step back and think to yourself WHY am I afraid of showing my sexuality? We're all men. It is hard-coded into our genes to be sexual, the predators, and the provider. You can't rewrite thousands of years of history and biological programming. The next time society tries to bring you down for exposing your sexuality just remind yourself of that. There is no shame. Sexuality is natural. Sexuality is nature.

 

[moneyisking]

One question, were raised without a father figure? A "mommas boy" perhaps? This could be subconsciously holding you back due to your inner programming as a young child.

Take a step back and think to yourself WHY am I afraid of showing my sexuality? We're all men. It is hard-coded into our genes to be sexual, the predators, and the provider. You can't rewrite thousands of years of history and biological programming. The next time society tries to bring you down for exposing your sexuality just remind yourself of that. There is no shame. Sexuality is natural. Sexuality is nature.

ya my father worked day and night, so i never got to see him much during childhood and at puberty and adolescence, we never communicated much.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

ya my father worked day and night, so i never got to see him much during childhood and at puberty and adolescence, we never communicated much.

that, coupled with a strict religious upbringing can give you serious guilt issues when attempting to embrace your sexuality as an adult.

 

[Igetit!]

Ok. Thank you bros of SoSuave, since I joined this forum, I have developed
dramatically.

Really? Today is the 24th, You joined up here on the 8th of this month. You mean you've changed that much in just 16 days?


Wow. It took me years to finally "get it"...and I'm still learning.


Well I'm glad the forum has helped you. Maybe you can throw a little knowledge back our way to let us know how you changed so fast.

Almost in all occasions, I am no longer in fear of talking to random girls, which I think is a great breakthrough. I am keep feeding my inner game, and I finally understand that obsessing over formulas masses you up. I am doing great, enjoying my days more than ever.

Good to hear. Keep it up.

I have this one problem that I must solve; how to sexualize yourself. The answer is simple. Adopt your masculinity, the nature, the testosterone. I know, but it is so hard to internalize it. I no longer think about what I am doing when I talk to girls, so this male sexuality where a man is not afraid of showing his sexuality should come out quite naturally.

If by sexualizing yourself you mean being sexual with women and being comfortable being sexual with them,this is easy to do.


All you have to do is let a women know you're interested in her.

That's it. You do that,then in her eyes,you're now a sexual person.



It's really is that simple. Being sexual doesn't mean being vulgar. When you first meet a girl,if you're "sexual" with her,she'll either accept you or reject you,but you won't offend her by showing your interest.



Being vulgar,on the other hand will offend her.(Well,it will most girls.)


Don't get it twisted man. Being sexual simply means showing your interest to a girl,not talking about her anatomy,or what you'd like to do to her.

 

[littlebear]

Ok. Please help me with this. With this mastered, I am going to step up into the next world,

You will NEVER master anything, all of life is a continuous process of
developing proficency.

:moon:

 

[moneyisking]

Really? Today is the 24th, You joined up here on the 8th of this month. You mean you've changed that much in just 16 days?


Wow. It took me years to finally "get it"...and I'm still learning.


Well I'm glad the forum has helped you. Maybe you can throw a little knowledge back our way to let us know how you changed so fast.



Good to hear. Keep it up.

If by sexualizing yourself you mean being sexual with women and being comfortable being sexual with them,this is easy to do.


All you have to do is let a women know you're interested in her.

That's it. You do that,then in her eyes,you're now a sexual person.



It's really is that simple. Being sexual doesn't mean being vulgar. When you first meet a girl,if you're "sexual" with her,she'll either accept you or reject you,but you won't offend her by showing your interest.



Being vulgar,on the other hand will offend her.(Well,it will most girls.)


Don't get it twisted man. Being sexual simply means showing your interest to a girl,not talking about her anatomy,or what you'd like to do to her.

well, i had been delving into bunch of PUA books and what not crazy things. But I never GOT it before, and I didn't understand the problem, UNTIL I READ BOOK OF POOK.

This is the thing. Glucose, Fructose, and Galactose all have same number and type of atoms, but all the difference is that they are differently arranged. You know what I am saying? I had all the knowledge, but something in my head, mentality, attitude, inner side was twisted and screwed up. But they all cleared up once I was introduced to right teaching and mindset by reading book of pook. That is why I thank this forum and amazing mentors like you sir not for situational advices, not outer game advices, but for INNER MENTALITY and MIND. I just was not introduced to the right mind.

I am very happy about your advice, that presenting sexuality is all about simply letting her know that you're sexual and showing her interest, then she knows you're sexual. That is so simple yet so insightful. How have I not thought about that before? What matters if she doesn't want me sexually? All that matters is that I LET HER KNOW that I am sexual, and I embraced my masculinity and sexuality. As always, Igetit, thank you for your inspiration!

 

[Jonblood]

Then how do you show that you're sexually interested without corny compliments, etc? Kino?

 

[Igetit!]

Then how do you show that you're sexually interested without corny compliments, etc? Kino?

Easy....




ASK HER OUT.




Jonblood,I told you this is your own thread...


WITHOUT THE RISK OF REJECTION,THERE CAN BE NO DATING.


You're not going to take a girl out on a date without the risk of rejection,YOU CAN'T.



As long as your tiptoeing around her,buzzing around her head like a knat WITHOUT letting her know what it is you want with her,you'll stay in the state of confusion,which is ridiculous.



Tell me...how is she supposed to know you like her without you showing your interest? And if you just continue hanging aound her and hanging around her and hanging around her,yeah,she might figure out you like her on her own,but even that is a strike against you.



By being around her all that time and not asking her out,you just showed her you're too scared to go for what you want,which is a turnoff for women.




That's why you're in the situation you're in (Jonblood).



You almost wet yourself last night because you checked what you thought was her facebook and it said she she was in a relationship,then it turned out you mistakenly read another girl's profile.



If you'd simply ASK HER OUT,you wouldn't have to be all nervous,anxious,and wondering like an expectant father-to-be pacing up and down the halls while his wife in the the delivery room giving birth.




Forget the women---sometimes WE MAKE things harder on OURSELVES than they need to be.

 

[Jonblood]

Easy....




ASK HER OUT.

I did ask her out. The first time I met with her before class I invited her to a BBQ , she must know I'm interested. I mean, how do I show interest when I'm actually with her ?

 

[Igetit!]

I did ask her out. The first time I met with her before class I invited her to a BBQ , she must know I'm interested. I mean, how do I show interest when I'm actually with her ?

So the "BBQ" is the date?

Well when you invited her,did you invite her directly? What I mean is,were the two of you alone together when you invited her? Or was it her and a few of her friends together and you invited the whole bunch of them?



Because the feel I get is that you invited her to a social gathering and you're trying to classify that as a date.



A date is one on one. "Me and You" time...alone. (Boy this is ridiculous. Now I actually have to define "dating".)




So which understanding does she have? Does she think it's just a group of people socializing,or does she think a man (you) is romantically interested/sexually attracted to her?


My guess would be the former,however,you may be able to turn this around into a good thing. You can simply ask her out at the BBQ...but AFTER IT'S OVER. And ask her out directly.


She may take you inviting her to the BBQ as a sign of interest,but she may also take it as you just being friendly. I mean you invited other people as well,right? So why would this girl take the invite as you being interested in her,while ALL THE OTHER PEOPLE you invited just take it as you being friendly?


You see what I'm say?



You keep saying,"She must know I'm interested". Ok,how? Because you invited her to the same place you invited 30 other people?


You said the same thing to her as you did to them,so why would she take it differently than them?



Let me show you what I mean. Check out this field report of mine here. You don't have to read the whole thing,just see what I said to the girl,then tell me if you think she had any misunderstanding or confusion about my intentions.



Moneyisking--My apologies man. We didn't mean to take over your thread.

 

[Jonblood]

Sorry for not being clearer. We were one on one when I invited her and I didn't mention anything about her bringing anyone else. It sounded just like us two going together. But, I was planning on calling her saturday and telling her to come by my place with her friends and then well go to the BBQ.

I think it could be classified as a date in her mind and she would know I'm interested. no?