The following is an article by CR James:
Turning Platonic Friends into Lovers using Jealousy
I’m going to get straight to the point. If you want to exit the platonic zone, you need to
focus on two things.
Number one, it can be done. And number two, you must make her jealous. If you have
any moral hold ups or any mental roadblocks that will prevent you from doing it, then
continue to listen to the girl of your dreams yap about some other dude that makes her
horny. No self-respecting man should allow such emasculating events to occur, but it
happens all the time.
Like I said, it can be done. I’ve personally been on both side of the equation and I have
personally experienced the effectiveness of it. Meaning I have had women that I regarded
as not sexy enough to be romantic with, only to have them make me jealous to the point
where I ended up sleeping with them or in most cases trying to without any success.
In these cases, the women weren’t intentionally trying to make me jealous, but the
effectiveness of doing it has nothing to do with whether the person was “actively trying”
to do it or not.
It has everything to do with sexual value. Making someone jealous is one of the quickest
ways to reestablish your sexual value. In the platonic situation, she is use to you showing
her attention. Even if she isn’t feeling you, she still will be getting some good feelings
from the attention you show her.
Therefore, by showing that your interest in elsewhere (making her jealous), you are
cutting off the platonic friend’s good feelings. She will be drawn to you on some level in
a way she can’t explain.
For some reason, female friends love to talk about other guys to their male friends like he
is one of their girlfriends. Not only is this a fact, it's an indication that you have zero
sexual value in the eyes of your female friend.
Here's how to reverse that.
The key is to bring up another chick or a past experience with a chick with great detail. If
you do it the right way, you will feel the momentum switch back your way.
Women want MEN. So remind her that you are a man. If you are giving her advice on
how to approach the guy or seduce the guy, then you basically have the energy of a
female. If you want this female friend, it should offend you when she yaps to you about
another dude.
The next time she does it just remain calm. You don’t have to externalize your emotions.
You will be more successful if you just calmly let her speak. Then when it feels like it’s
your turn to talk, you can calmly mention your story. Be extremely descriptive - to the point where you can sense that it is making her uncomfortable. This is where most of the
points are scored. If you blurt out your story, cut her off, or show that you are frustrated
with her talking about some guy, then you are not accomplishing anything.
The idea is to increase your sexual value. Acting over-emotional will not accomplish that.
The idea is to reclaim your sexual value. And it is universal. This works…
1. If you are just protecting your balls even with a female you don’t even care about
2. If you want to increase your perceived sexual value in the eyes of a female friend you
are interested in
3. If you want to increase your perceived sexual value in your relationship (often a
current girlfriend or wife may mentioned an ex-boyfriend in an uncomfortable fashion –
keep in mind, the energy is the same)
Here’s how to be real effective at the golden reversal.
1. Be extremely descriptive in your story. You want your story to run through her head.
Remember women love fairy tales, so they often exercise their imagination power by
daydreaming and fantasizing.
2. Be calm. Let her talk. Let her get it out of her system. Don’t over-react by screaming at
her to never talk about other guys to you. Just let her talk and be calm. You'll get your
turn.
3. You can use it to send other important messages (for example, you can talk about how
a girl you are seeing seems like she can’t get enough sex from you. You get the idea.)
You will know if you were successful if:
1. She accuses you of giving too much information or being too graphic – maybe you
went too far, but you still got the job done
2. She appears kind of withdrawn or there is a moment of silence – she is reflecting and
absorbing
3. She attacks your story or the girl in some way. It’s a defensive mechanism Keep in
mind, the art of making her jealous works and it is very powerful. You can actually make
a girl jealous within seconds of meeting her. Statistics have shown that jealous wives tend
to be more sexual towards their husbands and will often make an extra attempt to look
more beautiful.
Remember, this a just a tool that is very effective in reclaiming or establishing your
sexual value. If you have no sexual value women will not want to sleep with you. The power of this technique when applied to the platonic friend is that she will not expect
it, so you end up communicating a lot of powerful messages. You can perform the art
of jealousy in both directions.
Cultivating jealousy is kind of like strengthening your arms. You got to work the biceps
(pull movements) and triceps (push movements). Therefore, the target female has to be
jealous of your interest being displayed towards (pushing out) another female as well as
being jealous of another female showing interest in you (pulling in).
Keep in mind, the beauty of jealousy is that the events can be perceived or loosely
supported and they will be just as effective. I told my girl the other day that I had this
weird dream that I had sex with the lady across the street (who is super sexy). It worked
like a charm. Afterwards, it appeared as if she resented the woman, as if the woman
actually had sex with me. She obsessed over it the whole day. Later on that night she put
on an amazing sexual performance.
I remember one time I was working at an old job. I wasn’t in a relationship at the time,
but my female coworker was. She was talking about her boyfriend and how wonderful he
was, so then I started talking about this girl I was seeing.
I didn’t necessarily take offense to the talks of her man, but shortly after describing the
events with the girl I’m seeing, the co-worker appeared to get jealous. It was obvious. At
the time I wasn’t trying to make her jealous, but shortly after we finished talking she
scheduled an “appointment” in her book for us to hook-up.
Obviously nothing is guaranteed, but to greatly increase your odds of success you want to
make sure that the friend is getting something out you sweatin’ her. For example, if she
smiles very hard, after a compliment, then that is an indication of her getting something
out of it - even though she may be rejecting you on some level.
You want to maintain these good feelings she is getting from you over a certain period of
time. This will get her addicted to those good feelings (and addicted to you, being that
you are the owner of those good feelings). Then you want to cut off those feelings
instantly and place them elsewhere. In other words, you want the friend to gain
knowledge that you are perusing someone else. And it is more effective if the friend
learns that some other female is perusing you.
Once your female friend starts showing interest in you, don't be so quick to run in her
arms like a lost puppy does when he's reunited with his owner. There's plenty of
resources out there that explain how to keep her interested, but the main thing you want
to focus on is being nonchalant. That should take you pretty far.
SuperHappySex.com CR James
