I have a problem.....

[Spirit_Fingers]

I recently just moved back from vegas to southern cali becuase I broke up with my gf of 2 yrs, and just last night I went to my friends house cuz he was having a kick back.

Well the night was going great for awhile, everyone was having a good time and such until a few girls came (which mind you should be a good thing). Well everyone started drinking and smoking and **** and I kinda started to fell like the awkard loser guy at the party. I didnt approach any of the girls there, didnt have alot to drink, nothing at all.

I felt like the guy that was there but shouldnt be there. Having more girls there made me extremely nervous, all I could say was "excuse me". I tried to strike up a conversation with one of them but she like barely noticed me.

I want to know if any of you guys could help me get over this whatever it is. It's eating me up.

Thank you in advance....

 

[Spirit_Fingers]

can some one please respond to this....and not just view it...

 

[Tinsil]

Sure.

What's bothering you about it? You didn't talk to the chicks when you wanted to? Was it like a group convo type thing just sitting around and you didn't work your way in? If so, try making jokes directed at specific people (your buddies) and **** like that..

Then afterwards if it dies down a little.. You could just gauge interest of girls and go for one?

If it was just like a random party.. What were you doing the whole time? **** happens man. Even bad ****. Sometimes I think you just gotta recognize what you could've done different (aka talk to girls).. And do it the next time. Don't let it eat you up.

Are you not into drinking/smoking and you're somehow bothered by that around other people? You shouldn't be.. It's what makes you, you.. And I doubt every woman is gonna act like youre a chump just because you dont drink/smoke heavy.

You gotta decide what it is though.. If you're new read the DJ bible, etc. Look around. I think we can help give general advice.. But its just saying things that have been said. Probly would help giving you advice if you were more specific. It doesn't even sound like you know exactly what's wrong? cause you say "whatever this is".

 

[Romjuan]

If it were me, I would think about what I could have done differently and learn from it. I would go home and think of openers and good topics to talk about when I'm in the same situation. I would write them down and memorize them. Next time I'm at a similar situation I have my openers and topics to talk about. I know its kind of old now but I use to talk about how I'm addicted to reality tv and bring up jersey shore. Girls usually get into the conversation and won't shut up about all their different shows. Girls love talkin bout that and celebrities. After a couple routines you should feel loosened up to talk about anything and then just have fun. If you sense a girl feeling you, isolate her by asking to take a shot with you. Hopefully your buddies have liquer not just beer.

 

[moneyisking]

Read the DJ BIBLE. It will help you mentality and attitude, which is EVERYTHING in game and LIFE