I don't say this often and I don't say it lightly, but in this case I want to.
BrWnSugaMan, I think that you are totally wrong if you believe that some apects of our behaviour are beyond our control. That's as good as giving up -"I've always been like this, so I'll always be like this, what's the use of trying to be any different.."
I know from my own experience that this particular difficulty around affection can be changed. If you missed out on something in childhood, finding a way to get it today can go a HUGE way towards changing your life for the better.
You can't change what happened in the past, but you can change what you do now. In fact, it's the only thing in life that you can change. If you give up that right, you've got nothing left, and you'll always feel like a victim of circumstance.
bp1974
BrWnSugaMan, I think that you are totally wrong if you believe that some apects of our behaviour are beyond our control. That's as good as giving up -"I've always been like this, so I'll always be like this, what's the use of trying to be any different.."
I know from my own experience that this particular difficulty around affection can be changed. If you missed out on something in childhood, finding a way to get it today can go a HUGE way towards changing your life for the better.
You can't change what happened in the past, but you can change what you do now. In fact, it's the only thing in life that you can change. If you give up that right, you've got nothing left, and you'll always feel like a victim of circumstance.
bp1974