I have a gut feeling that GF of 1 year is cheating but dont have proof..?

[JohnnyCrow]

been with this girl for just over a year now, and over the past few months ive just been really paranoid and have a strong gut feeling that shes cheating but i have no proof whatsoever...

she texts me first every single day, says she loves me alot and all that, she gives me access to all her social media accounts and whatnot even tho i never check them, and she never has a problem letting me go thru all her texts and **** even tho she could just easily delete the bad ones but still.

the reason i have a gut feeling shes cheating is because she isnt as sexual as she used to be, she pretty much refuses to give me a ******* for the past few months and it seems like she hesitates to kiss me alot of the time and when she does its usually just a peck with her eyes open...

what do I do guys? what do you guys think of this situation?

 

[pyros]

it sounds like she's signing off this relationship, and this is why she's hesitant to be affectionate/sexual; she doesnt have to be cheating already, at least physically.

 

[El Payaso]

Pull back. When a woman gives 40, you give 20.

 

[jurry]

Why the fvck are you going thru her texts or having access to her social media?

But yes, pull way back this one is on the way out.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Dump her. Even if you aren't 100% percent sure she's cheating denial of intimacy is absolutely unacceptable behaivior for a woman. That's about the only plus side being in a relationship has for a man. And if she's denying she needs to be cut like a angry chef.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Her emotions are flat lining because you are being a boring, predictable, one-trick beta and she knows she has you. Time to pull back HARD and make her think SHE is losing YOU to get her chasing again.

Then - follow the below and step your sh!t up or you'll be on the No Contact thread very soon.

Taken from a previous post of mine...


Women want to be led by a man not chased around by a boy. They base their actions on emotions; not logic. This is why you will never win an argument with her: you must appeal to her feelings. When she acts up; withdraw attention. When she behaves; reward her sparingly and intermittently. COVERT COMMUNICATION IS KEY. She knows she is irrational and will forever test your strength to make sure your integrity is not compromised. She wants to feel your masculine energy push back against her. Always remain the immovable oak tree in the face of a hurricane. The more you act like a cool, calm, secure, self-assured man the more she will be an adoring, love-sick, feminine woman.

Pay attention to what she does, not what she says. Start dominating her instead of asking her permission or reassurance. Grab her hand and tell her where you are going. She is a guest in your world and you will continue on with or without her. She wants it that way. Never lose your frame. Never overly talk about your feelings or get emotional; that is for women. You are a man. Never take advice from ANY women on how to treat women: they do not know what makes them tick. Be hot and cold, push and pull, don't text back right away or at all all the time. Look her dead in the eyes and say something outrageous. Tease her. Challenge her. Push her out of her comfort zone. Keep her guessing. Keep her wondering. Never supplicate. Make it known that you have options. NEVER forget who the prize is.

The more you can take her on an emotional roller coaster (happiness, anger, wonder, dread, relief) the more she will become addicted and attracted to you. The more she will think about you and desire you. The more she will "love" you. It's not about money, looks, or what you do for a living. She may ideally want those in a man but they are completely irrelevant if she is not attracted to you. LUST IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN LOVE. Women want excitement, they want drama, they want unpredictability, they want to FEEL. Make them jump through hoops for you THEN show her you appreciate her. They don't want everything handed to them on a platter. WOMEN WANT TO EARN YOUR LOVE. THEY WANT TO FEEL THERE IS SOMETHING MORE TO CHASE...FOREVER. It is ingrained in their DNA. Give them that opportunity by being the intoxicating confident jerk with a sprinkle of nice guy here and there. Open then door for her and slap her on the @ss as she walks through. Bring her to the verge of deeming you uncatchable and then do something sweet for reassurance time and time again. Don't be afraid to show her you like her every once in a while. Always do things she may appreciate without expecting anything in return. Always make her believe the best is yet to come.

She will be yours forever.

 

[KingBeef]

Dump her. Even if you aren't 100% percent sure she's cheating denial of intimacy is absolutely unacceptable behaivior for a woman. That's about the only plus side being in a relationship has for a man. And if she's denying she needs to be cut like a angry chef.

THIS...

A good man should never tolerate bad female behavior...

 

[logicallefty]

+1 pull back. It's your only hope to saving it.

 

[skinnyguy]

You need a side chick my friend.

 

[gravityeyelids]

First off, it's generally a good sign if she doesn't care that you look at her phone or whatever.. Unless she's being extremely conniving and has a separate account or phone or something. A good way to test is check her phone in front of her if she's cool with it (don't check like you're nervous she's cheating...wait for an opportunity. like if your phone dies and you two are going out to eat, be like "hey can i look up places to eat on your phone?). If she gives a nervous glance when you take her phone like "oh sh!t did i delete those texts?", then it's suspect. But otherwise i'd rule cheating out unless you have better reason because it's just going to weaken your frame and make you more paranoid.

Regardless, she's definately showing reduced interest. The relationship is getting stale. You're over the first few months of honeymoon period, and you're past the year mark which probably means your sex life has gotten vanilla.

1) PULL BACK - just like everyone has said. If she grows even more distant you're going to need to scare her into thinking you're going to break up with her and you have to actually mean it. Either that or flat out dump her before she does it to you.

2) Spice things up - hang out less frequently, but the times you do hang out you NEED to remove both of you from common environments or activities that you normally do. You tend to fall into a rut in relationships where you two are hanging out almost as a service to each other. She's starting to associate boring things with you because whenever people dating a year into a relationship hang out typically the spark and excitement is gone.


Throw her against the wall in a semi-public place and grab her hair and give her the most animalistic, intense makeout session she's ever experienced for only like 10 seconds and then slap her ass and walk away and make her catch up to you and ask why you've stopped.

Take her to the beach or go climbing on some dunes.

Grab her hand when you're doing something boring (like watching Netflix) and bring her to your car and drive off with her to some place completely random and fun without telling her ANYTHING.

This is your relationship. Take fvcking control of it like a man.

 

[Soolaimon]

Women will cover their tracks to make it look like they are not cheating.

They won't show you the "bad stuff" so you won't be the wiser. But still hide the "bad stuff" from you that they are doing.

Some chicks will give boyfriends access to their media and phones.

When they don't know how to dump the guy they will let him see the evidence of her with some other guy. The easiest way for them to cause the break up.

I wouldn't say she is cheating but her affection has gone down to nothing.

That is a sign she is getting ready to head out the door.

Also she doesn't have to communicate on media or phone to be cheating.

She can know the guy from work or where ever and communicate in person with him still cheating.

If she isn't sexual as she was before you need to think about leaving the relationship cause without anything sexual it isn't a relationship anymore.

Pulling back doesn't always work when her interest and feelings are gone.

Don't think you can pull back and things will be like it was before.

Don't initiate anything with her. Phone calls, texts, sex.

Leave it up to her and see if she does it.

If she doesn't initiate anything sexual with you then it's time to end things before she does to you.

If you aren't getting a real relationship no point in putting in any effort to get nothing in return.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

If this isn't a troll, this guy is in for a rude awakening. The overtone in his voice is as blue as the theme of this forum...

 

[JohnnyCrow]

just want to say thanks to EVERYONE who posted in this thread so far.

damn this situation must be way worse than i even thought, i mean i guess i shouldve known that the lack of intimacy was a huge deal but i was blinded by love like a little ***** i guess...

the funny thing is im not needy at all, and she texts me constanlty all day everyday and when i ignore her she gets really need, why is this if she lost intrest/attraction for me?

either way it dont matter, ive decided im just going to break up with her..

whats the best way to do this? do i do it now? or in a few days? and how do i do it?

btw we have a trip planned together in 2 weeks, should i wait till after that to break up with her or just go ahead with it?

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Don't break right up. You can get the pu$$y you desire if there is any inkling of wanting to please you inside of her. Sometimes a woman shuts you off because she knows she can and she knows you won't go anywhere. It fills them with power over time like a greasy pig being a "troll".

So what you do, since you would still like to slay if she would knock it off is tell her: "Your going to have to put out, or GET OUT", there is no way around it. No way you are having a GF who you are not sexual with.

Give her a choice, break up with her if she does not comply.

But don't just break up with her, because she might've been really happy giving you all the sex that you needed.

 

[zinc4]

**** this ***** ...break up with her lack of kiss says everything

 

[pyros]

call me crazy but...why havent you asked her why you're not having sex? have you asked her if she's alright?

jeez...