"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm a junior at a large university and on top of being a student, I work representing the university as a recruiter at a community college. I work close together with a group 20 students who are my mentees (I'm their friend/counselor/person to go to, etc). Now the issue is: there is this HB8.5--a 19 y/o freshman at the community college--who is one of my students. She's about 5'6" cute face and eyes, incredible rack and booty; when we meet during out appointments, she gives me FME's (fuck me eyes) throughout our meeting; she kinos me, makes jokes, gives me compliments and sends me lot of smiley faces and "haha's" through emails.

Just so that you guys get an idea of her IL, she waited an hour just to ask me this really silly question (to which she obviously knew the answer). Last time, even after I answered her questions, she started to hangout next to me and just seems like she wants to be near me. She stayed 1.5 hours AFTER her appointment ended just sitting there talking to me and will not leave until I kick her out (playfully), which she loves.

In conclusion, I would fuck this girl with my eyes closed if she weren't my student. But when I got trained for this job, my boss said "you are in a position of leadership; you are going to represent a major university and some of your students are going to come on to you. Any of you dating one of your students is grounds for immediate termination." I needed to let this out. What do you all think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The sad thing about this whole situation is you could of easily ****ed her awhile ago and it's good that you didn't make your move. Think in the long term about your future, one warm snatch is not worth it. Politely turn down this girl and say to her remember I'm here to menter you and this is a serious matter you need to tone it down just a little, I'm sure we can be good friends. ***** is never worth your future, rememebr that.
 

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Any other takes?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How long is the mentoring for? If it's a semester long, just hold out till after. Keep low-key contact, get her out after you stop mentoring her.

If it's longer than a semester of mentoring, then I'd not go for it. Not worth the risk.
 

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Robyn923b said:
"Any of you dating one of your students is grounds for immediate termination." I needed to let this out. What do you all think?
Well, which one do you want more? The job or the girl?

Never trust a woman to keep her trap shut. If shit goes south, do you really think any promise from her to keep things on the down-low will be kept? Too much risk for my liking...

Any plans from her to move to the university?
 

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Robyn923b said:
I'm a junior at a large university and on top of being a student, I work representing the university as a recruiter at a community college. I work close together with a group 20 students who are my mentees (I'm their friend/counselor/person to go to, etc). Now the issue is: there is this HB8.5--a 19 y/o freshman at the community college--who is one of my students. She's about 5'6" cute face and eyes, incredible rack and booty; when we meet during out appointments, she gives me FME's (fuck me eyes) throughout our meeting; she kinos me, makes jokes, gives me compliments and sends me lot of smiley faces and "haha's" through emails.

Just so that you guys get an idea of her IL, she waited an hour just to ask me this really silly question (to which she obviously knew the answer). Last time, even after I answered her questions, she started to hangout next to me and just seems like she wants to be near me. She stayed 1.5 hours AFTER her appointment ended just sitting there talking to me and will not leave until I kick her out (playfully), which she loves.

In conclusion, I would fuck this girl with my eyes closed if she weren't my student. But when I got trained for this job, my boss said "you are in a position of leadership; you are going to represent a major university and some of your students are going to come on to you. Any of you dating one of your students is grounds for immediate termination." I needed to let this out. What do you all think?
The girl who apparently wants you so bad could be your bosses niece sent to see if you would break his rule so he could fire you.

Always assume people have ulterior motives. Stay away.
 
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