I am not a "nice guy." I don't act needy, do desperate things or become clingy. People don't walk over me. However, I'm too nice. I don't know if it's a result of many prior rejections/flakes/mistakes by others, but nothing really irks me to the point that I show emotion. Rarely do I show frustration, I never yell or get upset, and I'm always optimistic about things. Basically, I'm very logical and not too emotional. This works great in the professional world, but not really with girls. Combine this with the fact that I'm very muscular/buff and I can't dance to save my life, and you have a robot on your hands.
I feel that in order to have success with anything, you need a quick taste of it first, a "preview." I don't have this with girls (relationship or sex at least...I've hooked up before though). Perhaps this is why it's always very tough for me to escalate. I always prefer trying to get a date together than going for a ONS. I don't know why.
This all came to light last night. I went to a frat-like house party my friend was throwing. I almost forgot what these house parties were like because I've simply been to bars for almost a year (I'm 21). I had a good time. However, some of my realizations include:
-It's better to be at this type of party with a group of friends. Mine included a roommate who wasn't into it and is afraid to approach girls, and my buddy who was with his gf.
-I can't relate to attractive slutty drunk chicks. Go ahead an laugh, but I have trouble trying to game them. While saying "I wanna do you" may be a little too forward, that may actually work with these girls. I don't usually get drunk - buzzed maybe - while they're plastered, so opening could be an issue. I do get kino'ed a bit, but that's not success.
-It chronic: at these parties, I seem to always go for the girl who is attractive, but is least likely to have a ONS with anyone. It's good that she has her act together, but at the same time, nothing is happening that night. I did get this girl's number and will call her, but I have no expectations.
Through these examples, I think you can see that I have a tough time escalating...or that these parties are not my ideal setting when getting girls. I'm too "friendly" because I'm sexual enough. I kino and there's physical contact, but after that I hit a lull. When hitting on a girl, I become Larry David on "Curb Your Enthusiasm," bringing up the first topic that will generate a real conversation, no matter what the topic is. I can neg and have some wit, but I use them after a girl says or does something, not as a opener.
I realize this is post is somewhat confusing, but I need your advice on:
1.) How to correctly show emotion. I don't get shaken much, which is good, but girls run on emotion and I don't show much.
2.) At parties, why am I not going after the attractive slutty/drunk chick and pursuing the one who is cute, but also won't result in "getting lucky?" I know I prefer a relationship to a ONS, but I don't go to parties expecting to find a relationship.
3.) What are some quick tips on escalating or being more sexual without coming off as creepy or awkward?
I feel that in order to have success with anything, you need a quick taste of it first, a "preview." I don't have this with girls (relationship or sex at least...I've hooked up before though). Perhaps this is why it's always very tough for me to escalate. I always prefer trying to get a date together than going for a ONS. I don't know why.
This all came to light last night. I went to a frat-like house party my friend was throwing. I almost forgot what these house parties were like because I've simply been to bars for almost a year (I'm 21). I had a good time. However, some of my realizations include:
-It's better to be at this type of party with a group of friends. Mine included a roommate who wasn't into it and is afraid to approach girls, and my buddy who was with his gf.
-I can't relate to attractive slutty drunk chicks. Go ahead an laugh, but I have trouble trying to game them. While saying "I wanna do you" may be a little too forward, that may actually work with these girls. I don't usually get drunk - buzzed maybe - while they're plastered, so opening could be an issue. I do get kino'ed a bit, but that's not success.
-It chronic: at these parties, I seem to always go for the girl who is attractive, but is least likely to have a ONS with anyone. It's good that she has her act together, but at the same time, nothing is happening that night. I did get this girl's number and will call her, but I have no expectations.
Through these examples, I think you can see that I have a tough time escalating...or that these parties are not my ideal setting when getting girls. I'm too "friendly" because I'm sexual enough. I kino and there's physical contact, but after that I hit a lull. When hitting on a girl, I become Larry David on "Curb Your Enthusiasm," bringing up the first topic that will generate a real conversation, no matter what the topic is. I can neg and have some wit, but I use them after a girl says or does something, not as a opener.
I realize this is post is somewhat confusing, but I need your advice on:
1.) How to correctly show emotion. I don't get shaken much, which is good, but girls run on emotion and I don't show much.
2.) At parties, why am I not going after the attractive slutty/drunk chick and pursuing the one who is cute, but also won't result in "getting lucky?" I know I prefer a relationship to a ONS, but I don't go to parties expecting to find a relationship.
3.) What are some quick tips on escalating or being more sexual without coming off as creepy or awkward?
