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I have a gf but I want something different...I want different girls

eaglez1177

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Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.
 

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Well the RIGHT thing to do would be to be honest with her. Perhaps you two could work out some sort of "open relationship" deal, but that might be a tough pill for her to swallow.

I think it's morally wrong to cheat, and to think that just because she may have in the past gives you justification to do it yourself without any proof is wrong IMHO.

Despite all this, you could always cheat on her until she finds out. Kill two birds with one stone.

You have a couple options here. 1.) Open relationship. 2.) Dump her. 3.) Cheat on her until she dumps you. 4.) Continue being faithful to her.

That's something you will have to decide for yourself my friend.
 

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No point on keeping a relationship if you're not happy with it; besides, it'
s HS, it's not like you'll get married to this girl. Although on the other hand, it may be worth keeping her. Personally, I'd switch it up.
 

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So can anyone give me some more advice? Please?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eaglez1177 said:
Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.

Go to her and say you heard from a few people that she cheated on you and tell her you'll mention no names.
 

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Ok well shes obviously gonna deny that lol. And prolly get even more annoyed that I wont tell her the names. She like never admits to a lie.
 

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eagle, be honest and tell her you dont want to continue the relationship anymore.
Youre very very young. This will probably not be a lasting relationship anyway.

You are too engulfed in your hormones and ego to be a good bf anyway.

So cut her loose and go do what you want.

Dont do anything behind her back, just tell her youre not happy and dont want to be in an exclusive relationship.
 

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eaglez1177 said:
Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.
Seems pretty simple from my point of view: finish the relationship and see if the grass is greener on the other side. (Hint: it's not always.)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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