"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have a gf but I want something different...I want different girls

eaglez1177

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Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well the RIGHT thing to do would be to be honest with her. Perhaps you two could work out some sort of "open relationship" deal, but that might be a tough pill for her to swallow.

I think it's morally wrong to cheat, and to think that just because she may have in the past gives you justification to do it yourself without any proof is wrong IMHO.

Despite all this, you could always cheat on her until she finds out. Kill two birds with one stone.

You have a couple options here. 1.) Open relationship. 2.) Dump her. 3.) Cheat on her until she dumps you. 4.) Continue being faithful to her.

That's something you will have to decide for yourself my friend.
 

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No point on keeping a relationship if you're not happy with it; besides, it'
s HS, it's not like you'll get married to this girl. Although on the other hand, it may be worth keeping her. Personally, I'd switch it up.
 

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So can anyone give me some more advice? Please?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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eaglez1177 said:
Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.

Go to her and say you heard from a few people that she cheated on you and tell her you'll mention no names.
 

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Ok well shes obviously gonna deny that lol. And prolly get even more annoyed that I wont tell her the names. She like never admits to a lie.
 

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eagle, be honest and tell her you dont want to continue the relationship anymore.
Youre very very young. This will probably not be a lasting relationship anyway.

You are too engulfed in your hormones and ego to be a good bf anyway.

So cut her loose and go do what you want.

Dont do anything behind her back, just tell her youre not happy and dont want to be in an exclusive relationship.
 

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eaglez1177 said:
Hey everyone. I've been going out with this girl now for about 4 and a half months, and Im gonna be honest with you all, I think im really starting to get bored of her and the relationship. Its just that I want more girls, and better looking girls. Not only that, but I want change in my life rather than always doing stuff and having sex with the same girl. Im starting to get tired of her, and I want something different, something more exciting and fun to spice up my life. Im not saying I wanna break up with her and try to get with the hottest girls possible, im just saying that i want something different and some more variety rather than just the same girl every time.

On top of this, a few of my best friends have always been good at getting girls and getting hookups, and they usually go out at least once every weekend to hang out with some random girls and get ass. Well recently, I've been having some really strong urges to just go out with my friends and hang out with the girls they're with (which obviously includes cheating on my girlfriend).

Despite all this, I really do still care about my girlfriend. I still do have strong feelings for her, but I just feel like I dont wanna be with her as much and that I want something different.

Another factor that comes into play is the fact that I always have those thoughts in the back of my head that my girlfriend has cheated on me before. I mean I know for A FACT that she used to be a slut like last year and freshman year (we're juniors in highschool), so thats also always in the back of my head and makes me wonder if she's still the same person or if shes trying to turn over a new leaf by staying loyal and going out with me. So I guess that because of this, It gives me a little justification that I can cheat on my girlfriend, as I already have some indication that she mightve cheated on me.

Can someone PLEASE help me with this and give me advice? I really need to get my head straight and figure out what I should do.
Seems pretty simple from my point of view: finish the relationship and see if the grass is greener on the other side. (Hint: it's not always.)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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