Roober
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 2, 2016
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A couple questions...
1. She kind of just moved herself in? How does that even happen? Didnt she have rent and bills to pay? Us she educated? Does she have a solid income near or as much as yours? I have a hard time with this one as you explained it because it seems that you desire for easy sex trumped your standards.
2. The commitment. Is your lack of the commitment a fear of failure or a just not the desire to do so? Look deep because the answer to this question is not easy to find. If it's the former, then face the fear head on and sort it all out. If it's the latter, then should you really be committing yourself to this woman? I would think there should be a burning desire to commit long term, but a man would hesitate out of fear allowing plenty of time to properly evaluate his partner. If they cannot wait for you to be ready, then they are probably not the right person.
3. Her significant commitment to you and your well-being. It sounds as though her life revolves around you and she treats you like a king. This is great and it feels really good. But my question is, do you treat her like a queen? As relationships develop, there has to be some sort of equalization of intimacy and affection. And I am not talking about sex at all. Women will still give more, but eventually she will need more in return. otherwise, resentment builds and eventually kills the relationship. I would think that is one of the biggest killers in relationships these days; mens failure to adapt to women in the workforce. You cant expect a woman to raise a family, work, take care of the house, and be an awesome partner while you just work and act like a mediocre partner. She might as well be a single mom and buy a vibrator. Women dont need men for sex, they need them for soooo much more and many men fail to recognize that...
And please stop with the "theory". While your ideas have merit, your high score is merely an unproven hypothesis.
1. She kind of just moved herself in? How does that even happen? Didnt she have rent and bills to pay? Us she educated? Does she have a solid income near or as much as yours? I have a hard time with this one as you explained it because it seems that you desire for easy sex trumped your standards.
2. The commitment. Is your lack of the commitment a fear of failure or a just not the desire to do so? Look deep because the answer to this question is not easy to find. If it's the former, then face the fear head on and sort it all out. If it's the latter, then should you really be committing yourself to this woman? I would think there should be a burning desire to commit long term, but a man would hesitate out of fear allowing plenty of time to properly evaluate his partner. If they cannot wait for you to be ready, then they are probably not the right person.
3. Her significant commitment to you and your well-being. It sounds as though her life revolves around you and she treats you like a king. This is great and it feels really good. But my question is, do you treat her like a queen? As relationships develop, there has to be some sort of equalization of intimacy and affection. And I am not talking about sex at all. Women will still give more, but eventually she will need more in return. otherwise, resentment builds and eventually kills the relationship. I would think that is one of the biggest killers in relationships these days; mens failure to adapt to women in the workforce. You cant expect a woman to raise a family, work, take care of the house, and be an awesome partner while you just work and act like a mediocre partner. She might as well be a single mom and buy a vibrator. Women dont need men for sex, they need them for soooo much more and many men fail to recognize that...
And please stop with the "theory". While your ideas have merit, your high score is merely an unproven hypothesis.