"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have a date with a 9.5 next week. I can't wait :)

The_411

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This is going to end badly ...


Numbers are used to gauge level of attractiveness, hotness but you have to be realistic. 9.5 is basically Jessica Alba, Alice Eve, etc. So while this girl may be attractive I rather doubt she's a 9.5.

Stop with I'm available nonsense. You tell her what's up by not making yourself available for when it's convenient for her.

Texting is garbage. Call to set up a date. Texting is good for a small one ofrtwo text exchange, anything more than that and you're acting like a woman.

If a girl is 9.5 then you neg the hell out of her and basically act aloof/indifferent. She needs to realize that you're not a lap dog like the 99 guys before you and that you're not going to fall prety to her looks or get p-wipped before you've even hit it. (Note you should never get p-whipped)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Target_100

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This happened:

We set up a date at so and so day to go have dinner together. I told her "tell me when you want me to pick you up".

She replyed with "sure :)"

So next day came and no sign of her. After a long time I texted her that I had gone to the gym and that I'd like to meet her another day. She was "very sorry" etc. etc. and "really wanted to meet another day".

So I texted her (Should have called of course), a few weeks later with no response.


So to recap:

I screwed it up because I did not have the ballz to call her on the phone.


A very good prospect in the garbage because I am a WUZZ! And of course she was not a 9.5.

Probably just an 8.5 but she could have easily have been a cover girl.
 

f283000

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This is what happens when we put women on a pedestal (in our minds).

You can put a woman on a pedestal through your actions or in your mind. When we start putting them on a pedestal in our minds and just start getting anxious about seeing them, obsessing about how hot they are, what we want to do on the date, what we're going to say....THEN SHE FLAKES!

Most guys don't realize that it's not just actions but it's also a mental state.

I find it ironic how the law of attraction supposedly rewards us for thinking about something so much...except with women!

Women seem to be the exception. The more you think about a woman the farther away you actually get from getting her it seems. I only have to look at the players that have women on the palm of their hands and how indifferent and non-caring they are to them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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