IF you wanted to know about her as a friend you would 1. not be on this forum and 2. would not care either way about how to approach her. Your anxiety is caused by the fact that you want to sleep with her and don't want to get rejected. YOu can probably lie to your friends at home about **** like this but not here.
The point I was trying to make is, this is the AFC circle jerk in action right here. This right here is how it starts
you start off trying to figure out a way to get to know a chick. You are looking for a buffer beucase you dont' want to risk out right rejection. So you want a soft land.
So you ease in as easily as possible, you show as little masculinity as possible, you try to befriend her, and then you wonder why she doesn't see you as a sex toy or a guy to actually date but rather (Gasp) a friend.
Then you start making 10 thousand posts about how to get the girl at work and start posting about every little thing she does as a sign of IOI's, and at the end of the day, she still doesn't like you.
So you finally realize thta your problem is that you weren't man enough at the beginning so now you try to overcompensate for it. You come to work wearing one of those Jaffe things from coming to america
http://www.starwarped.net/files/oth...er/Coming-to-America-King-Jaffe-Joffer-12.jpg
with a caveman club in the other hand beating your chest just to show how macho you are. Every other word now out of your mouth has a deeper meaning. now you have to show her that you are manly. Now you weren't doing nothing this weekend now you were playing vollyball with a few black bears and then you decided to chop down a tree.. with your bare hands. Now you just look silly and even so, it's too late.
Then you see her with some dude who you presume is a bad boy / jerk / alpha male and she can't stop talking about him and then you come to sosuave, sign up under a new handle and start making 10 posts a day about how women love bad boys, and how only jerks can get women. Beucase "this has been your experience" when
in reality if you had just grown some balls at the beginning of the relationshiop, started it off righ, you would not be in this particument.
This is what you do. Go up to the woman, grab your balls (not literally) and just smile and say excuse me, I'm X and I don't normally do this but I would kill myself if I passed up this opportunity, I think you are just the prettiest girl (never call a girl cute to her face, it's almost insulting, you are basically saying she's not pretty) I've seen in a long time and I would seriously like to get to know you more, I want to take you to do "X" on this day.
Wait for her to respond. If she says no, then just says no, just smile and say okay well my name is X if you change your mind I work right over here. Have a great day
Being a DJ does not mean you have to ride a motorcycle or have huge muscles or have a large bank account, or do drugs or treat women with disrespect but it does mean that you are honest with yourself and take real action. Guys think that women like the jerks and guys because they are jerks but it's the lesser of two evils. they want a
man. . Someone who is not afraid of their testosterone to steal a line from pook. Right now you are treating your testosterone like it's the ebola virus. There is nothing wrong with wanting to sleep with an attractive woman. there is nothing wrong with letting a woman know you want to sleep with her in so many words as long as it's done with respect as the above does.
BE Okay with rejection. it's going to happen. She might have a BF, she might have a lot of things, she might not be into you but don't let that deter you from making a bold move.
