"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have a confession...."I'm married".

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Met a gal through Match and exchanged numbers and went to a bar for a drink and pool. 31y, hb7, in physical therapy school, 36DD, size 8, just moved from Texas to up here. Kisses closed and the next few days she got super flirty and started sexting with me and nudes and eventually she came over last night. Hot sex for a couple hours ensued and we cuddled for awhile. She was a bit fidgety and finally came clean saying "I have a confession, I'm still married and my husband is in Texas while I finish school". She also hinted at wanting a fwbs while away from home.

Mentally my jaw dropped the floor, but what came out of my mouth was "I don't judge, it's not my place, if there's a spark, I can't deny that".

Now my gut feeling is to run fast and hide, but the sex was good and she's kinky and hot. I have this melancholy feeling because I've known this happens a lot due to the red pill, but have never actually been a part of it. Do I keep boinking her and let her deal with her marriage or just back away all together?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Enjoy it until she goes to live with her husband and don't get attached to her. It's his own fault for getting married, everyone should know it's a dead end at this point, especially when they don't even live in the same area it's a dead giveaway that there will be infidelity but he turned it into a relationship anyway and keeps it up. For all you know he's doing the same thing she is and then they'll go live happily ever after.

Humans are not monogamous, which means that relationships are for reproduction.
 

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I'm split down the middle on it. If it wasn't you, it would be someone else. It's hard to turn down free p*ssy from a really hot woman. In a more practical sense, she now knows where you live. What happens if she has a flood of guilt or an argument with hubby and confesses? This can happen even years after the fact. And he could come for you - because for him, it's fresh. Always a risk. Step carefully.
 

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I personally would not knowingly enter into a triangle. Way to much of a possibility that someone will get hurt emotionally and/or physically.
Question would be is getting married poon worth your life if he comes at you with a gun when he finds out. It can and does happen.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Plenty of single women around. This situation could end with much unwanted drama. You could also become attached. Better to just next her.
 

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remember the rule, always follow your gut feelings, if it tells you to run, run!

I would really not make anything with her, if you are on a dry spell and want that confidence up, its ok to play with her some, but understand, she can and will try to **** you up in one way or another, plus serious if you are really doing what you should be doing you would have more usefull plates to use and wouldn't lose sleep or even miss that puss, you would already have too many to care about ONE.
 

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Do I keep boinking her and let her deal with her marriage or just back away all together?
Get clear on some boundaries before you continue. Don't let it slide without talking to her about these boundairies. Establish clear FWB "rules."

This may kill the "spark" but it's better than getting involved in a bad situation.
 

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remember the rule, always follow your gut feelings, if it tells you to run, run!

I would really not make anything with her, if you are on a dry spell and want that confidence up, its ok to play with her some, but understand, she can and will try to **** you up in one way or another, plus serious if you are really doing what you should be doing you would have more usefull plates to use and wouldn't lose sleep or even miss that puss, you would already have too many to care about ONE.
I'm with you in that one. I'm basically bored with the 2 plates I have right now and want to get better ones, but they're submissive and sexually open. I think time has run its course and I'm looking for some new strange
 

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women like this need a good kick to the curb....I would walk away from her completely without saying a word to her. It could backfire big time if you continue with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd disappear on her.
 

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This happens to me frequently. Especially lately, married chicks coming onto me. They really don't try to hide that they are married. I don't judge other men for this, because it is just women being women they just can not help it. Many are just starved for attention that they are no longer getting from their husbands. Attention for women is like drugs for an addict. You can always accurately rationalize that if it's not me it will be someone else, and you would be correct. If you don't fvck her she'll get it for somewhere... it is not you that is breaking up the marriage it's her.

Okay, having just said that, I wouldn't go for it. It's just not worth the trouble. About a year ago I had this AWESOME hot women that wanted me bad, she was freaking PERFECT from my perspective. But she was married and I passed... that was the CLOSEST I ever came to hooking up with a married chick.... but I backed off and put her in an Uber and sent her home.....

A couple of months later I hear through the grapevine that she got 'raped' and that she pressed charges against the guy that supposedly raped her. I don;t know this dude at all but I do know some people that claim to know him, and all this seems very strange the opinion is that she is lying. But you know what... in this culture... it doesn't fvcking matter if she is lying, you are not innocent until proven guilty, you are a rapist, and even if you are acquitted, then you are just a rapist that got off. It doesn't help at all that she is hot, and he is only average looking... because people will think there is no way she would agree to sex with an average looking guy. His life is already screwed up. I feel like I might have dodged one there, she likely got caught and is lying to cover up her behavior.

Be warning when you mess with a married women the possible bad sh!t that can happen to you MORE than outweighs getting your rocks off. She could catch feelings for you and then you'll have angry husbands and bullsh!t breathing down your neck.
 

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I suggest you trust your got feeling,because if she trusted hers and went on an emotional blast and you were on the raduis,you are going down too.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Never forget if she did it to him, she'll do it to you.
It would be strictly fwb and nothing more. But on the other end of the spectrum, the chance she's not just seeing me adds another dose of STD chance and an angry husband in Texas.
 

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It would be strictly fwb and nothing more. But on the other end of the spectrum, the chance she's not just seeing me adds another dose of STD chance and an angry husband in Texas.
Just make her hate you(act like a complete AFC) and that should repell her safely
 

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She could also be the wife of some crazy mob boss.
 

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Met a gal through Match and exchanged numbers and went to a bar for a drink and pool. 31y, hb7, in physical therapy school, 36DD, size 8, just moved from Texas to up here. Kisses closed and the next few days she got super flirty and started sexting with me and nudes and eventually she came over last night. Hot sex for a couple hours ensued and we cuddled for awhile. She was a bit fidgety and finally came clean saying "I have a confession, I'm still married and my husband is in Texas while I finish school". She also hinted at wanting a fwbs while away from home.

Mentally my jaw dropped the floor, but what came out of my mouth was "I don't judge, it's not my place, if there's a spark, I can't deny that".
Bro you meet up and have sex with a 31 year old woman who is still in school. After having sex with her, she tells you "I have 6'2 husband that I gave vows to in a church in front of close friends, family, relatives, 5 bridesmaids, and 500 other close people that I will always love him, cherish him, and take care of him for better or worse till death do us part."

And you reply "The spark and chemical attraction between us is more powerful than anything?" :eek:

I would have replied "This is the first time I am hearing this and wouldn't have done this if I knew you were married. I suggest you get your clothes and leave. Don't forget to write."

Now my gut feeling is to run fast and hide, but the sex was good and she's kinky and hot. I have this melancholy feeling because I've known this happens a lot due to the red pill, but have never actually been a part of it. Do I keep boinking her and let her deal with her marriage or just back away all together?
Come on bro, the sex is that good that you are considering getting involved with a 31 year married woman? THINK ahead. What happens if he finds out? What happens if she blackmails you? What happens if he is a gang? What happens if she doing this with 10 other guys?

Sometimes we are so happy to have sex with an OK looking woman we don't think about the repercussions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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