"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have a coffee date this week...

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This cutie I sort of know (we have chatted a few times and have been meaning to meet up for coffee for a while now) that lives up the road from me went past my bedroom window earlier today and I smiled and waved at her so I sent her a txt saying 'that was you that I just waved too right?"
and she sent one back saying "haaa haaa good spotting so coffee this week sometime?...

I sent back, "yeah,maybe when is good for you? do you have a cafe in mind?"

and hers was cafe down the road is fine, text me this week okay!,"

Anyways I kind of like this girl and don't want to **** anything up so I am asking my fellow DJ's to guide me along, to be honest the last date/Woman I had put me off females a little as she was quite crazy and spoke off exes in bed :mad: ...

But yeah I want to get back in the dating game and I think this girl is keen...hmmmm...tips please...thanks

:cheer:

what does meeting up for coffee mean to a girl anyway?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What does meeting for coffee mean to her? It means you are meeting for coffee. She wants to see what you are all about.

Dress nice, smell good, open the door for her, make her laugh, and just act mentally stable.
Take an interest in what she is saying and try to be sincere. Leave her wanting to get to know more about you.
If things go well, offer her the chance to go out on a more action oriented date at a later time.

That's the simple stuff. The problem is more in your mindset.

You just can't let girls "put you off". 95% of them may be emotionally deranged, but if you worry about her problems, i can only imagine the amount of time you worry about your own.

Don't play the game "not to lose". How many sports teams do you think have been successful with that attitude? She's no better then you, treat her as such and just enjoy each others company. Don't think about failure, as its a recipe for, well.. failure. Ask anyone. Be positive bud. Good luck!
 
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Thanks for that I appreciate it, yeah well she sort of knows a little about me but I think you are right...I am a little excited now, she has really nice eyes.:cheer:
 
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lol after reading this post I had to check again if i wrote it, I was in the same situation a few days ago.

Primetime gave you some great advice, I'm going to finish reading the DJB before I hand out advice.. I suggest you read it too
 
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She flaked on me...it didn't even happen , I asked her today if Weds Night or Thurs Night would be good for her and she sent me a txt saying that this week is pretty hectic and that she will see....

So i sent a joking text that said well how about fitting me in your planner for next week? and then I got "sorry it doesn't seem to be working out it, too hard too find time...:down:

why do I keep metting these ****ing flaky non direct *****es?...I am almost ready to become a monk.

Keep in mind that she did have my home phone number...

what the **** happened here?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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