"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I hate where I am in life.

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I've finally come to terms that I loathe where I am in life. I've got it great compared to how my life could be, but I can't deny that I hate it.

Last year of college and classes are stressing me out like mad.

Tired all the time, weak at the gym, and have almost no incentive/motivation to workout anymore. It used to be my passion, but now just thinking about the gym exhausts me.

99% of the women I talk to are bullsh!tters, attention wh0res, or a combination of the two. It's stressful and extremely frustrating, especially due to the fact that I'm a guy who would need to masturbate or have sex every 1-2 hours of every day to be even remotely sexually satisfied.

23 with little money and even less independence. I live at home because I'm in college and can't afford my own place. These factors make the dating game 10x worse. You can see the disappointment in a woman's eyes when you tell her you don't have a solid job/career.

Year-round sinus issues and I'm VERY self-conscious about the massive and constant rings under my eyes. Having surgery in December to correct my deviated septum (second time).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Let me know when you are willing to give up your ego. I can absolutely help.
 
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Korrupt said:
Tired all the time, weak at the gym, and have almost no incentive/motivation to workout anymore. It used to be my passion, but now just thinking about the gym exhausts me.
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How often do you work out? All I need is an hour a day, four or five days a week. Anything else would be overkill.


Korrupt said:
23 with little money and even less independence. I live at home because I'm in college and can't afford my own place. These factors make the dating game 10x worse. You can see the disappointment in a woman's eyes when you tell her you don't have a solid job/career.
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One year to go? You'll hopefully have a good job and a place? Nothing wrong with what you're doing. Yeah, I'm sure there's guys that started working right out of high school and never went to college that have there own place, or guys that took out loans, or are getting money from Mommy and Daddy. It's easy to envy that when you're where you're at. I think the way you see your living arrangements is effecting you more than it is the women. Try presenting it differently: "I'm saving money so when I graduate college next spring I can get my own place and be debt free." Try saying it like that. You're taking care of business, looking ahead to the future, being responsible. A place of your own would be nice, but you don't need one to impress a chick.:up:


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Year-round sinus issues and I'm VERY self-conscious about the massive and constant rings under my eyes. Having surgery in December to correct my deviated septum (second time).
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Same thing as above. This is a limiting belief. Nobody's perfect.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
How often do you work out? All I need is an hour a day, four or five days a week. Anything else would be overkill.



One year to go? You'll hopefully have a good job and a place? Nothing wrong with what you're doing. Yeah, I'm sure there's guys that started working right out of high school and never went to college that have there own place, or guys that took out loans, or are getting money from Mommy and Daddy. It's easy to envy that when you're where you're at. I feel the way you see your living arrangments is effecting you more than it is the women. Try presenting it differently: "I'm saving money so when I graduate college next spring I can get my own place and be debt free." Try saying it like that. You're taking care of business, looking ahead to the future, being responsible. A place of your own would be nice, but you don't need one to impress a chick.:up:



Same thing as above. This is a limiting belief. Nobody's perfect.
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Dude,
I'm beginning to believe you are my Anti-Christ.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dude,
I'm beginning to believe you are my Anti-Christ.
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Ha I didn't see you posted on here until after I posted.

We were pretty much saying the same thing, your delivery's just a little different than mine.
 
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Get some pe$os. That'll cure your problem. What's your class schedule? If you have the time you definitely need to get a full time job and just stack a little paper up. Get your game up playa. It's fall/winter time. The season of wealth dog. Focus on that paper.
 
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Korrupt said:
I've finally come to terms that I loathe where I am in life. I've got it great compared to how my life could be, but I can't deny that I hate it.
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Well, I guess it is time to some inner game s**t for you pal.
Also some spiritualization will help you along the way. I highly recommend Budhism!

If all else fails, you better check a shrink, and eventually a psychiatrist.
There is sometimes that we have to reccur to some professional help, and it looks like that you are clearly depressed.

But it is all in you. If you don't like hitting the gym, go do some other stuff. Hiking, Soccer, Swiming, some Martial Art.
If you don't like the girls you are hitting, hit girls in a different social setting.
Allow yourself to change. You are only 23. You could not be any younger!

Don't complain as if you were an old man!

Best of luck!
 
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Man I kinda feel for you I'm at the same spot but just keep going and dont have any expectations cause that's makes it worse just keep going it has to be one real girl out there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Meh, sounds understandable. Last year of college, you're worn out, you're on the home stretch now. Just focus on your classes for the moment if that's what you need to do, the other stuff will still be there when you graduate. Priorities.
 
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Just came back from Moscow.

Be fvcking happy with what you have. It could be waywaywaywayway worse. I know its difficult to put in perspective sometimes but trust someone who just go it put first hand.

And that's not even the poor part of russia
 
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