I HATE this ...

[faiNt`]

You know when you talk to someone (usually a girl from my experience) that you know, but don't really KNOW? When she's an acquaintance rather than a friend, I guess. For me, the convo always starts like this:

"Hey X"
"Hey faint"

"How are you?"
"(depending answer)"

That's what I HATE. I know that these people don't actually CARE what I'm going to say, it's what most people call "small talk." I f*cking hate small talk. It's like .. talking just for the sake of talking.

So how can I fix this? I don't know what to do when people try to pull this crap, and yes, that's what it is to me. It's crap. It's so fake.

Especially passing in the hall ways etc, these fake sh*ts pop up all over. Oh, and I can TELL when someone actually means it, because it's not always fake.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

the true way to get over it is to turn the subject of the conversation into something interesting.

man you gotta get past the small talk to really get into a true discussion.

open-ended questions are great! really turn what your saying into something she can relate to, and this is where you add elements of DJing.

all in all... if you can't get her to talk about something interesting, leave the conversation and try again with someone else. btw you can't get into a real convo unless you start with small talk.

"what's up?" is a classic opener and from there they'll say "nothing much" (or maybe they will get right down into the convo), then it's your turn to bring up a topic you can experiment with.

 

[Five To One]

Yea small talk is pointless but I enjoy it and you shoud learn to enjoy it too.

I enjoy talking to people who I have never met before, usually stuff about them. I enjoy making small talk and they enjoy talking about themselves, even if it is with a stranger.

 

[SinJester]

1. Learn to enjoy it. It is an important part of life.
2. Break through the small talk. Be DIRECT. Say what you are really thinking. People will find it refreshing.