"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I hate thieves - Dealing with post anger

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So my gf's car along with another one in the same parking lot were broken into a couple nights ago. They got her radio and took some ID's and gift cards from her neighbor's car.

It's gotten my blood boiling and I've been battling internal fits of rage and desire to track them down and inflict warranted pain. But I know this wouldn't happen and I'm not the violent type at all so it's been a mental fight to just let it go. It's not even about the radio it's about the mere act and my gf feeling violated and how it makes her feel.

Anyone have any tips for something like this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Go lift weights and take up mma, martial arts or something. What you are feeling is rightful indignation and powerlessness.
 

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I had some speakers stolen out of my truck in my driveway a long time ago. I remember feeling the same way. Just assume it was some 12 y/o kids.
 

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Had a car stolen once, then insurance company tried to rip me off by telling me all the changed out parts were that way to start with after they recovered it. Come on, a blue steering wheel in a gray interior on a two year old car? Took them to the state insurance board over that and won.
You just have to rationalize it in the best way possible and move on to the next deal life throws your way.
It will not be the only time life will test your inner frame.
Personally, I think you are over reacting as it was not even your car.
 
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I think it's the not knowing who and not being able to do anything about it aspect
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In these instances I wish I knew how to hook up a car HOT /touch it and they get shocked. Perhaps an electric fence charger like farmers use to contain their herds. My dad knows how...

I'd love to have the results on video LOL!!
Would make a great party video...
 

Who Dares Win

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Think about the very possible fact that sooner or later they will get caught from the owner or from the police, hopefully a sociopathic man or a violent cop.

There is a good chance it will happen so its not just a desire.
 

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Think about the very possible fact that sooner or later they will get caught from the owner or from the police, hopefully a sociopathic man or a violent cop.

There is a good chance it will happen so its not just a desire.
One can only hope. I placed a Craigslist as saying there have been robbieries and the perps have been caught on security cameras (lied to hopefully cause fear if they happen to be trying to sell on Craigslist)
 

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you are letting a event you can't control go over your mind, you can't do much just accept there are people who are idiot enough to do this kind of thing and move on
 

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you are letting a event you can't control go over your mind, you can't do much just accept there are people who are idiot enough to do this kind of thing and move on
I know I think it's the "what if it happens again" aspect that's getting to me
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You do what you have to do to protect your stuff. Don't leave nice stuff out in the middle of the open for people to get. Beyond that, just accept that there are cowardly thieves in this world.
 
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