"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I hate my friends.

Berlex

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I seriously hate my friends. They are always blowing me off :cuss: I think I'm going to be a loner for the rest of my life.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BacardiGuy said:
Time to find real friends?
i see how this can happen to him. it might be hard if you're still in HS.. you gotta see them every weekday and if you have no real friends there.. *shrug*
 

diablo

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If you're in college, and your 'friends' always blow you off, the odds are good that they really aren't your friends. After all, if they were, they would more than likely enjoy your company and want to have you around. The fact that they don't indicates that you may be better off finding other people who actually want to be around you.

Of course, there could be other issues at play here. For example, if you don't bathe on a regular basis, many people aren't going to want to be around you. If you have some huge physical deformity, chances are that people might make excuses not to hang out. If you're a normal guy, go out and meet different normal friends. You don't need to have people hanging out with you in order to meet new people... just go out, be yourself, and see what happens.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scrumtulescence

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yeah I've recently come to the conclusion that my "best friend" has become a lame-ass who never wants to do anything. He uses the excuse that he's always tired from work, but he just works 35-40 hours a week and doesn't even have to get up until 9 or so. Didn't feel like doing stuff friday night, and doesn't feel like doing anything tonight because "it's raining". Well we're not gonna flying kites, dumbass!

ugh, I need a social circle. :(
 
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