"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I hate my friends.

Berlex

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I seriously hate my friends. They are always blowing me off :cuss: I think I'm going to be a loner for the rest of my life.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BacardiGuy said:
Time to find real friends?
i see how this can happen to him. it might be hard if you're still in HS.. you gotta see them every weekday and if you have no real friends there.. *shrug*
 

diablo

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If you're in college, and your 'friends' always blow you off, the odds are good that they really aren't your friends. After all, if they were, they would more than likely enjoy your company and want to have you around. The fact that they don't indicates that you may be better off finding other people who actually want to be around you.

Of course, there could be other issues at play here. For example, if you don't bathe on a regular basis, many people aren't going to want to be around you. If you have some huge physical deformity, chances are that people might make excuses not to hang out. If you're a normal guy, go out and meet different normal friends. You don't need to have people hanging out with you in order to meet new people... just go out, be yourself, and see what happens.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scrumtulescence

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yeah I've recently come to the conclusion that my "best friend" has become a lame-ass who never wants to do anything. He uses the excuse that he's always tired from work, but he just works 35-40 hours a week and doesn't even have to get up until 9 or so. Didn't feel like doing stuff friday night, and doesn't feel like doing anything tonight because "it's raining". Well we're not gonna flying kites, dumbass!

ugh, I need a social circle. :(
 
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