"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I hate my body.

SharinganUser

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I hate the way I look. I hate being fat. I hate being reminded everyday that I am fat. I hate that it's caused problems between me and my parents. I hate that it's made me to embarrassed to go out this year and see my friends. I really hate my body, and I cannot accept it as it is now.

I upped my work out routine today and so far I've only had healthy things to eat. I will continue to punish my body relentlessly until I am in a lot better shape and can look at myself in the mirror with pride.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Warboss Alex

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It's good that you want to change yourself for the better but don't hate yourself - strive to improve daily but don't waste energy on intense negative emotions like that. Fat loss and muscle gain always comes quickest when you at your least stressed. Lay out your plan, stick to it consistently, and DO NOT GIVE IT ANOTHER THOUGHT (other than eating and training properly).

Don't weigh yourself or look in the mirror or anything for a few weeks, and after a while of dedication, suddenly you'll see rapid changes. If you hate yourself you'll be checking probably every day to see if you've improved, and you will not see changes on a day to day basis. You need to think in terms of months (not weeks).

Start a journal and write down all the food you eat, and all the exercise you do. :)
 

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"Punish my body relentlessly" is probably not the best way to get results. To expand on WBA's very good advice, consistency is the key. If you go too hard out of the gate, you're most likely not going to stick with it.

Set progressive goals and work towards them step-by-step. You'll get there.
 

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Losing fat is ridiculously easy.

It really is.

All those people on tv just have no idea what they are doing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SharinganUser

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Thanks guys, I've just been going through a rough time lately. Part of the reason is that before I broke my hand 4 months ago I was stronger than I was ever before and still making gains. I was doing 200 push ups a day, up to 60-70 push ups in a row, but since then I am 40lbs over weight and am lucky to get 25 in a row.
 

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Pushups are good and all but I hope you're doing cardio too like exercise bike riding, real bike riding or jogging for 30 minutes to an hour a day.

Thats what burns fat the best and the fastest.
 

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What does your diet consist of?

What is does routine look like?

What kind of cardio do you do?

What are your stats (height, weight, bf)
 

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What is does routine look like?

hmm, last two days for breakfast I had a bowl of rice crispies mixed with a cup of strawberries, and either a glass of milk or OJ.

What is does routine look like?
Lift weights 3-4 times a week, 3 sets of ten of arm curl, kick back, and military press and bench press if I can.

What kind of cardio do you do?

Walk/run up a big hill, do two sets of around 20 push ups(at the top), horse stance 3-5 minutes. Jog back down.

What are your stats (height, weight, bf)

6'1", 226lbs, not sure about my body fat % but I don't think it's good.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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well, you haven't actually told us what you do yet. diet is the single most important aspect of losing weight successfully and you've only told us what you eat for breakfast.

tell us what you eat all day, not just one meal.

btw your breakfast could be better. strawberries are great but orange juice and cereal should not feature regularly on a weight loss diet, and the same goes for milk. a better alternative would be some eggs and meat or cheese (or both). feel free to have your strawberries, add a dollop of cream on them if you like. :D

the basics of weight loss are outlined in forty's thread, take those and apply them to your daily diet.

your lifting routine could also be better but first things first: nutrition. help us and we can help you!
 

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wait. in this thread, you hate your body, and you haven't drawn the straight line connection between your terrible eating habits & your extra bodyfat. but in another thread you're telling others that meat is full of transfats, then justifying such nonsense by saying "hey at least i'm not telling them to drink lard"???

which raises two more strictly rhetorical questions:

why would anyone want to drink lard?

and

what's wrong with lard? (pork fat is good for you, and has been unfairly demonized for many years)
 

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http://stronglifts.com/strongliftsc...-building-muscle-losing-fat-getting-stronger/

Example Diet.
Here's how your diet looks like when you apply the above rules. This diet works great if you want
to build muscle while losing fat.
• Breakfast: whole eggs with veggies, orange, green tea
• Snack: cottage cheese with apples
• Lunch: chicken, bok choy, tomato, chicory, apple, olive oil
• Snack: tuna, salad, tomato, bell pepper, peer, olive oil
• Post workout: ground round, rice, mixed veggies, banana
• Dinner: chicken, spinach, pasta, pineapple
• Pre-bed snack: cottage cheese, berries, ground flax seeds, fish oil

(from Stronglifts pdf)
 
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