" I hate him, hes horrible" they all seem to cry?

[betheman]

re a guy at work! now he isnt a DJ or a gamer/pua, however, this guy is married but he seems to really wind the girls up big style without even trying, so many of his traits are DJ, takes no ****, isnt rude or nasty just doesnt back down and really plays these women, Im not sure if he even knows hes doing it?
personally I dont actualy like this guy much but I do have a lot of respect for him professionally and for the fact he produces this reaction with women consistantly.
my question is this, all these women saying they hate him, cant stand him etc...is that code for ...i want to jump him? he isnt particularly good looking, hes mid 50's comesto work, goes home, hes a bit arrogant and aloof, I suspect he could actuallly bed a lot of these women if he wanted to

 

[DJDamage]

my question is this, all these women saying they hate him, cant stand him etc...is that code for ...i want to jump him?

You can really tell a woman's true feeling about a man with the way she interacts with him.

One thing he is doing well, is the fact that he isn't being ignored. You always come of better when a group of women actually discuss something about you either good or bad which is much better then them laughing at you or ignoring your existence.

 

[jophil28]

re a guy at work! now he isnt a DJ or a gamer/pua, however, this guy is married but he seems to really wind the girls up big style without even trying, so many of his traits are DJ, takes no ****, isnt rude or nasty just doesnt back down and really plays these women, Im not sure if he even knows hes doing it?
personally I dont actualy like this guy much but I do have a lot of respect for him professionally and for the fact he produces this reaction with women consistantly.
my question is this, all these women saying they hate him, cant stand him etc...is that code for ...i want to jump him? he isnt particularly good looking, hes mid 50's comesto work, goes home, hes a bit arrogant and aloof, I suspect he could actuallly bed a lot of these women if he wanted to

Are you thinking that you might try to emulate some of his behaviors if we tell you that the office women are secretly hot for him?

 

[Falcon25]

He is married and successful, what do you think? If you have a ring on, they will jump you. They think you are a great catch because you may have found a fool to marry you. They will overlook a single guy in his thirties with modest income and ok looks and call him a creep, but will swoon over a married man in his thirties with average looks and good money. THEY WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE. THEY WANT SOMETHING THEY CAN GET SOMETHING IN RETURN FOR.

 

[jophil28]

You can really tell a woman's true feeling about a man with the way she interacts with him.

One thing he is doing well, is the fact that he isn't being ignored. You always come of better when a group of women actually discuss something about you either good or bad which is much better then them laughing at you or ignoring your existence.

This ^^.

Being the regular topic of discussion at the girls' table in the cafeteria is certainly preferable to being ignored and shunned.

 

[jophil28]

You can really tell a woman's true feeling about a man with the way she interacts with him.

Indeed, but you also need the skills to interpret her actions.

One quick way to check for female attraction is to observe how close she stands to him. Women automatically stand closer to a guy who makes her tingle- they can't help herself.
DO the office chicks 'sidle up' to this guy. Do they compete for his attention or make attempts to start convos with him?? Any goo goo eyes ?
IF they do (even subtly ) then attraction is 'in progress'.

IF they just whine and harp on and on about him, then he is genuinely disliked and regarded as the office boor .

 

[betheman]

Are you thinking that you might try to emulate some of his behaviors if we tell you that the office women are secretly hot for him?

if they worked yes!!!
fact is, now its been mentioned, the women keep out of his way, he does get them to do work for him which they prob wouldnt for others but I supect that is because of fear/intimidation/reputaion? but no he isnt someone who has women swooining around him, i get that more than him

 

[jophil28]

if they worked yes!!!
fact is, now its been mentioned, the women keep out of his way, he does get them to do work for him which they prob wouldnt for others but I supect that is because of fear/intimidation/reputaion? but no he isnt someone who has women swooining around him, i get that more than him

Then it is YOU who are triggering their 'gina' tingles . Him, not so much. Nice job.
WE have a word down here for guys like the one you described - "Boofheads" .

 

[f283000]

If a woman says to you "i hate him, he's horrible" in reference to the guy she's still with that means he is doing something right

 

[betheman]

dont know about triggering their 'gina's'! did meet may last ex at work and she wa shot in the sack, nutjob otherwise! there is one woman, who I feel no attraction for whatsoever, keeps brushing against me, she has huge tits and they come into contact with me once a week at least.
Im a bit of a joker and a flirty one at that, the thing is with this, the dirtier it gets, the more the women seem to like it, has to be controlled though.
I do still admire some of the other guys standoffish/dissmissive traits, I ned some of that to add a bit of mystery and confusion