Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'm glad someone got it...Obsidian said:lol@Francisco
I'm glad someone got it...Obsidian said:lol@Francisco
Yes, it's a lot harder to make bounds with other people since you only have very short periods of contacts with the other students, and in impersonal contexts at that. I joined a few clubs so I guess that in the end it isn't that bad, but often I'd like to be able to just go outside my room, recognize people I know and go out to do something with them. In these current conditions, when there isn't a club reunion, I can't really leave my apartment unless I have shopping to do. Most of the "friends" I have are more like acquaintances, so we're not going out or becoming really intimate friends either. So in many occasions you don't feel any less lonely even when you're surrounded by others.Damocles said:Ungodly amounts of homework... when you're in the dorms, you can just walk out into a common area, and usually see someone you know. When you're in an apartment, however, it's not as easy to walk out to the kitchen or wherever and take a ten minute break to visit with a buddy.
HAHAHAHA!!!Francisco d'Anconia said:How often do the gaurds come by so that you can go out into the yard? It must suck being forced to stay in your cell all the time, not allowed to go out and do the things that you want to do. I bet you wish that you could leave and see other people if you wanted to.
The problem is is that he is a great roommate. We rarely argue over anything, but I just want my own damn room.Mctwist4 said:CR, your situation doesn't sound too bad. You can't just expect him to leave at your convience. He's paying to live there too. Maybe try talking to him about it. Sharing such a small space with anyone is a pain in the ass, and I don't think your going to find the perfect roommate.
You'd actually follow this rule?I am considering staying in the dorms but one thing does concern me. Most of the school's that I have looked at don't allow overnight guests. It makes since so you won't inconvenience your roommates, but it still sucks.
my thoughts exactly.just so suave said:You'd actually follow this rule?
I had problems with my roommate freshman year. We got along well enough, but she was always there. Always. At any given hour outside of class, she was there. I couldn't bring friends over because she was always there and would try to hang out with us (I don't mean that in a cruel/catty way, but you know how it is when you want to just be alone with your friend and your little brother keeps following you guys around...that kind of thing).comic_relief said:The problem is is that he is a great roommate. We rarely argue over anything, but I just want my own damn room.
I am at the point where I dislike living in the same small place as someone else. I don't have to work anything out or anything, and the only real complaint is that I am tired of having a roommate in general. I just want to be able to have a place of my own that I can retreat to.
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Extra to live off campus?! I pay $3000 a Semester right now, the apartment I have setup for next year will cost me $248 a month (without utilities). Also, my dorm is a suit (6 person dorm) there are 3 seperate rooms with a living room connected to each. My roomate is never around thank god.Francisco d'Anconia said:I'd pay the extra money to live off campus.
I think that about my roommate. Personally, I sleep in my room a max of two times a week. It is pretty damn nice too. I believe that the amount of times that someone doesn't sleep in their own room is in direct proportion to the amount of friends/people they hang out with UNLESS everyone hangs out in their own room.Francisco d'Anconia said:I swear, some of you guys should be homeless just because when you get a roof over your head you act as if there's no door available for you to leave. It would be better socially for you guys if it weren't so easy for you to act like a hermit and hold up in your cave away from everyone.
Yes, there are many things going on, but first, not many of them cater to young adults, and also, as I said in the previous post, these things don't seem to lead to anything else than the creation of acquaintances and other shallow encounters that you never get to interact with outside of the goal-oriented activities. It's not that these persons don't like you or that they're indifferent to you, but since everyone is very busy, it's hard for you who is just a mere acquaintance in their eyes to spontaneously gain prominence, and prevail upon their pre-established schedules. Not only that, but you sorta have to make a big commitment to these organizations/groups/clubs, it can represent a significant chunk of your weekly time. And, it's a commitment that is hard to shy away from when you discover after a short while that it leads you nowhere and that it's a futile waste of time.comic_relief said:I think that about my roommate. Personally, I sleep in my room a max of two times a week. It is pretty damn nice too. I believe that the amount of times that someone doesn't sleep in their own room is in direct proportion to the amount of friends/people they hang out with UNLESS everyone hangs out in their own room.
I have found out that I am not alone in disliking my roommate. A couple people won't come hang out with me at all because they dislike him. One said that they were told by my roommate to "get out." and another one is scared of him.
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btw if someone is unhappy with how their social life is then all they have to do is get involved within your community. There is always something going on such as not-for-profit groups around the area.
Have you ever tried to go out to the bar with them afterward? Or have tried to do anything with them before? My brother is friends with people from groups/organizations around his house.Kaim Argonar said:Yes, there are many things going on, but first, not many of them cater to young adults, and also, as I said in the previous post, these things don't seem to lead to anything else than the creation of acquaintances and other shallow encounters that you never get to interact with outside of the goal-oriented activities. It's not that these persons don't like you or that they're indifferent to you, but since everyone is very busy, it's hard for you who is just a mere acquaintance in their eyes to spontaneously gain prominence, and prevail upon their pre-established schedules.
It's only a "futile waste of time" because you make it that. I have only learned from my "organizations/groups/clubs." It is only as big or small of a waste as you want it to be.Kaim Argonar said:Not only that, but you sorta have to make a big commitment to these organizations/groups/clubs, it can represent a significant chunk of your weekly time. And, it's a commitment that is hard to shy away from when you discover after a short while that it leads you nowhere and that it's a futile waste of time.
When I did this, although the people were definitely willing and had good intentions, they ended up flaking all the time on what we had agreed to because they had other priorities. Got tired of running after other people after a while and didn't want to seem desperate.comic_relief said:Have you ever tried to go out to the bar with them afterward? Or have tried to do anything with them before? My brother is friends with people from groups/organizations around his house.
So what if they don't catar towards young adults anyways? Just getting involved is more important. Currently, I'm involved with a diabetes foundation for fundraising money. It may not be stressed at my age group but I make it a big deal and it suddenly it became very important.
Plus, if someone happened to do a search on the web, they can find some group or organization that would spark your interest.
As to the meeting of people, how do you make friends to begin with? I know that I become acquaintences with a person then get their number to hang out with them, then become friends with them. It is the same damn thing.
It's only a "futile waste of time" because you make it that. I have only learned from my "organizations/groups/clubs." It is only as big or small of a waste as you want it to be.