Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I haTE!!!!hate hatE!! myself(im tired of this s*#t)

Badmannaz

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I'm so ****ing pissed off i'm just tired of it all im tired of not getting any women i fel like a total loser every girl i see it seems like i couldn't mean a thing to her....i never approach girls cuz im a sad piece of ****....and the last time i had a ****ing real relationship with a girl was............NEVER!! over the past year ive had 4 come-on's by girls and i always blew them off becausee i thought they would think im too Big........i hate being alone the sh*t doesn't feel good, it feels like im in jail in lockdown in solitude. i simply hate it,yeah i know im venting but somebodies gotta see this..my life has been like this forever....My presonality is pretty funny...when i talk to women i come off extremely confident but what alot of people who know me don't know is i have problem with self doubt and it stops me from doing everything to fix everything wrong. I go away to college next year but right now i just feel ****ty...i smoke weed so that it helps me feel like i have someone...it helps me feel like im not alone...so of course i like it...i was going to the gym and losing weight but i just don't feel like it....(im going today) i have to go to the gym....b/c if i don't i'll stay ****ing miserable. I hate being lonely i just want one girl don't wanna be a player or nothing... i don't even care...im pissed and im venting but i just incredibly hate not getting any women i actually like.........i hate not havin that.....and i hate being addictet to the simple pleasures in life that limit me from my despiratley needed long term goal


i'm sorry if you can't understand alot of stuff if my typing is off because im kinda high right now but everything im saying is totally real...i really just don't care but i had to right this down.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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When I was depressed, my therapist told me to get regular exercise and enough sleep. That would probably help you out. Also, you don't get women without approaching and crashing and burning dozens of times. It's all a numbers game

Also, even though I like weed, when you're depressed it doesn't help at all (I think it's a waste when you feel ****ty), so maybe try to not smoke as much until you're feeling better.

If you wanna lose weight, you should eat your greens, less refined sugars (no soda, candy, and light on the pasta and breads) and also do at least 30 mins of cardio a day.

As for the women man, you just gotta keep the right frame of mind. You weren't born with a woman attached to your hip, and you aren't gonna die with one either. Actually, monogamous relationships are just a social construction...anyways, somebody said this better than me, just look for the tip "The One" on the tips forum.

Feel better, man.
 

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Dude you just need to make some good male friends.
 

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it seems like what i want i will never be able to get it because i will always be there to tell myself that i can't do it.....i'm kinda high but F*ck this sh*t i've decided this train aint stoppin till it reaches destination...im so f*cking tired of not getting any I gotta go improve on someting....if i want anything in life i gotta take it by the balls...(or something like that)



























it' time.................................:rockon:
 

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Dude, don't fcking waste peoples time by posting your whine, go do it on livejournal or some dumbass blog.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Also your goals might be too high. If you expect to get a girl thats way hotter than you are you probably wont have a fighting chance. You should aim a little lower this should help you with your self esteem issues.
 

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Are you done crying now?

My guess your in your twenties and never had a GF.

Well Stop bittching and be glad.

Your at college man you don’t need a GF.

You got plenty of hos that are willing to suck and fck anything with a penis or pvssy.

You just need to be at the right parties.

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You need to do this RIGHT NOW!!!

And that is...

Start going to the gym 4 times a day. Mon – Thurs.

Start eating right less junk food.

Ease off the weed.

Go out on Friday and Saturday nights

Buy some new clothes with a new sense of style.

Go to a nice barbershop and get yourself a haircut. Tell her something new, cool, GQ style something different then the usual.

Meet new friends that are more out going then you.

Get out of your element and comfort zone and break up the usual routines.


And let go of the past! Look towards the future and never look back.

Feeling sorry for yourself will never help you. It will only bring you even more down.

Find something other then a woman to be happy. You don’t need a woman to be happy. If you need one to be happy then your priorities are in the wrong place. A Woman should only enhance your happiness. Remember she should try to fit into and keep up in your exciting and happening world not the other way around.

Again GET A LIFE, have some GOALS and STICK to them.
 

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nobody wants to read this stuff bro. I didn't even read your post because of the negativity.

I know my outlook changed completely and I felt much better when I eliminated negative self-talk.

Never, ever, ever allow yourself to think negatively about yourself. And quit saying and typing negative things as well.
 

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You should take a step back from the whole thinking about getting girls right now, and concentrate on your mental health firstly. If you're in a real downward spiral emotionally, and only you know if you truly are or not, a part of that is that you won't feel like you like yourself very much. (Incidentally the title to your thread was something like, "I hate myself", more or less, wasn't it?) Well, when you're really really down on yourself that way, how can you expect yourself to do well with women? Even if you come off as self-confident when you're talking with a lady, it's really just a thin front you put up over your inner turmoil and sadness. So, my best sincere advice to you would be to get in to see a doctor (psychiatrist might be best, but they're very expensive and will probably need to see you several times). You might need some type of anti-depressant type drug. Not necessarily, but maybe. (Hint; pot is NOT it....it's actually a depressant, like alcohol. Temporarily uplifting or soothing but 12 to 24 hrs later, crash and burn time again). There are several drugs called "SSRI's" (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) such as Paxil, Welbutrin, Lexapro, etc, which are relatively low-side effect (unlike the old school anti depressants of , say, 15 yrs ago ) and can help with not only depression, but also problems such as "OCD" (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), and generalized "social anxiety" disorders. Also, for some people, good old Prozac works like a charm. So take things one step at a time. Personal physical / mental health first. Then, once you're feeling much better in the mental health area, starting to look around for a g/f, and or just girls in general, whatever you're looking for. There are plenty out there who will like a guy like you, it's all a matter of lucky timing, running into each other at the right time in each of your lives. Good luck ! ~Dino~ :cool:
 

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Good Book

A GREAT book to read for this kind of self-image problem is psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. It's basically a set of exercises and insights that can rapidly change your self-image and sense of possibility. Ever wonder why some guys just seem to get girls without any effort and don't have great looks? It's their SELF-IMAGE. Get this book, it'll help considerably, and get the original, not the later versions by other people. Read Reviews here:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/cu...09345-5382338?_encoding=UTF8&n=283155&s=books
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Dude you just need to make some good male friends.

i came to the conclusion that some friends make you more depressed.
 

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dont worry man, u'll get plenty a$$ in college. Just strap up tho.

just think. no parents, no curfew, no i have to be home at such hour, no holds barred.

now if you dont get laid in college then come back and tell us about it.

a lil harder to get laid in high school. u've prolly established ur social status as LAME. plus all the chicks pretty much grew up with you knowing that.

go to college with a different mentality. DO NOT take that weak $hit to the university. Seriously.

Just be laid back and ur funny self. dont try to get laid out of ur league. and when you get a girlfriend, dont be perfect to her. they seem to like to fight every once and a while.
 
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