Yesterday seen the ex with new bf. I without a better mindset got steaming mad, jealous, angry, all of it. I didn't know whether or not to just crash my car into a tree or throw a few punches at the guy! Then I rembered "today is just the same as yesterday, nothing changed!" I'm still the bigger man and I can handle anything life throws at me. So I want some advice on what you guys do when you feel the same way. Im guessing I can't get over her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I hate feeling jealous!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
persiangino
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wow. Jealousy is reserved for women. Grow a pair.
We've all been there. The key is to keep yourself under control. Realize that she is now with someone who is a fraction of what you are. Definitely her loss. Take a break from girls and take the time to realize how great you are. Go out with your boys, hit the gym, watch your favorite TV shows. Put in extra hours at work and make that money. If you are in school, catch up on your reading. Life should go on. Push her out of your psyche. Easier said than done, because I'm still dealing with it. But as soon as you catch a cute girl checking you out, you'll remember why you are the shizzle. Peace.
Time will do the trick... or if you can get another female. Whatever comes first.COMPTON said:Yesterday seen the ex with new bf. I without a better mindset got steaming mad, jealous, angry, all of it. I didn't know whether or not to just crash my car into a tree or throw a few punches at the guy! Then I rembered "today is just the same as yesterday, nothing changed!" I'm still the bigger man and I can handle anything life throws at me. So I want some advice on what you guys do when you feel the same way. Im guessing I can't get over her.
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Remember she just went from first class to coach.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Yeah, but what if he comes across a guy with two pair?persiangino said:wow. Jealousy is reserved for women. Grow a pair.
I saw the ex-gf at the bar about 10 days ago with the 'new' boyfriend. I smiled, winked at her, then later when she came up to me blathering about something or other I just completely blew her off and walked away without saying much of anything.
She's texted me 3 times since then and i still haven't replied to any of them.
Who gives a damn?
This is the same guy she's already broken up with once since me and during the break was texting me how she dreams about my sex and how "that guy" wasn't very good.
What's to be jealous about? She downgraded and would probably drop him to get laid by me again.
What do i do if i feel jealous? I make myself awesomer so that i don't have to feel jealous of anyone ever again because i'm always better and i make sure i always have something planned right around the corner so there's something to look forward to at all times.
or i just go do some deadlifts and collapse into a heap and sleep it off
She's texted me 3 times since then and i still haven't replied to any of them.
Who gives a damn?
This is the same guy she's already broken up with once since me and during the break was texting me how she dreams about my sex and how "that guy" wasn't very good.
What's to be jealous about? She downgraded and would probably drop him to get laid by me again.
What do i do if i feel jealous? I make myself awesomer so that i don't have to feel jealous of anyone ever again because i'm always better and i make sure i always have something planned right around the corner so there's something to look forward to at all times.
or i just go do some deadlifts and collapse into a heap and sleep it off
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Give the man a break. Jealousy isn't something you can turn on and off. It comes from ****ty self-esteem. If the original poster takes steps to raise his, he would feel less jealous. But telling him to simply "grow a pair" is like telling a suicidal person to just "cheer up". It'd be great if life were that simple.persiangino said:wow. Jealousy is reserved for women. Grow a pair.
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I used to be jealous.. terribly jealous with regards to this girl I wanted to fuuck. Of course, she wouldn't and I, as a sap, stayed "just friends" with her. Bad move on my part. Then she started dating some guy, and the jealousy was bad!
Wanna know how I cured it? I had no game, I was just a "friend" to all of em, so meeting other girls was out of the question. So, I hired a call girl, and got laid for the first time ever. Said "friend" left my mind the minute I cummed into the Ho! Needless to say, jealousy gone, self-esteem up!
Wanna know how I cured it? I had no game, I was just a "friend" to all of em, so meeting other girls was out of the question. So, I hired a call girl, and got laid for the first time ever. Said "friend" left my mind the minute I cummed into the Ho! Needless to say, jealousy gone, self-esteem up!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.