I had a dream

[backbreaker]

I don't know why, last night, i really could not sleep. i laid in bed next to my woman and for some reason I was just thinking about old high school dates I had. I had no problem getting tail in high school. Usually had them lined up. white, black, Mexican, didn't matter. Girls jerking me off in the movies lol, girls letting me take them behind the office max and have sex with them, girls letting me sneak in their house at 2 in the morning while their dad is sleep next room over. best friends, identical twins lol, managers at work, I just had a problem getting the particular piece of tail that i wanted. When I really did not care, I had no problem but once i caught feelings it was a wrap lol, the AFC in that young one was strong. I remember when I was 17 in about a 3 month period I ran through virtually every attractive girl at best buy. I'm pretty sure my manager wanted to **** me if she wasn't in her mid 20's.

I got to thinking...

WHAT the **** happened lol

I mean i'm okay now.. but, when did we have to become these great men just to get *****? I was cute, handsome b ut i wasn't smoking hot or anything and i wasn't rich, i wasn't built hell i was135 soak and wet. I didn't have a sweet ride, i drove a 92 honda accord. i wasn't a shell of a person I am now and consantly keep 1 or more women around. never had a problem finding a date. What happened between ... i will tell you



absolutely nothing happened. It's a mindset. I expected to get laid. And I got laid. I expected to go on dates with attractive women and I be damned if I didn't do so. I mean I ovbiously i had my issues, iwo uld not have been here, but women weren't this, big ****ing mystery or antyhing, you saw one you liked you flirted with her and got her number, took her out and hopefully had sex lol. what's hard to understand about that.

someone here once said, this site isn't teaching you anything, it's unteaching you the stuff you have learned over the years. I think that is so true. I have not learned anything here now that i didn't already on a subconscious level know. Hard to get? I remember Jennifer when I was 17 came by house when I was 17 years old one day, ltiarly begged me to go to the waffle house with her (i.e let's go fool around) and i told her to get lost, because i was still attached to my ex GF at the time. drove her ass wild to the point where she basically raped me lol. Then I catch myself 5 years later, dealing with her best friend, my oneitis, and i'm having to stop myself from picking up the phone to call her.

absolute nothing happened, nothing changed, but my mindset. to show you how powerful the mind can be, the same mind 5-6 years later would have me convinced the only way i could get laid is through drugs.

we put way too much pressure on ourselves to get laid, to be perfect. this **** isnt' that complicated. stay in good shape, have a good wardrobe, and learn how to flirt, you won't have a problem getting laid.

 

[synergy1]

to some people its effortless, but there is the other end of the spectrum where its more difficult. What reasons? combination of their own inability to handle people, stress, etc. So yes, in that essence it is a mental game. To give you an idea, I was closer to the bad end of the spectrum, so a site like this ( this site didn't change me as much as one particular thread on a bodybuilding forum) proved very helpful. We advocate changing mindsets here, or at least accepting things for as they are. While its easy in some regards, real change takes a long time to do. I still have my "weird" tendencies appear from time to time, and still get shot down by girls a lot more than a smooth type. However , I am in decent shape so how I look actually compensates for that, and might even be considered a crutch.

Speaking of dreams, when I am getting a lot, do you notice your dreams are always on about how much you get? When I am in a dry spell, the dreams tend to gravitate slightly towards frustration and the inability to close. That could be specific to yours truly Like the other night, I had a dream I was going after a chick and her friend and was most definitely going to get a threesome with two chicks. let me tell you, thats an AWFUL dream to wake up from...

 

[Mike32ct]

I got to thinking...

WHAT the **** happened lol

What happened between ... i will tell you

absolutely nothing happened. It's a mindset. absolute nothing happened, nothing changed, but my mindset. to show you how powerful the mind can be, the same mind 5-6 years later would have me convinced the only way i could get laid is through drugs.

we put way too much pressure on ourselves to get laid, to be perfect. this **** isnt' that complicated. stay in good shape, have a good wardrobe, and learn how to flirt, you won't have a problem getting laid.

Not to get off topic, but I feel like sometimes too, even in a MUCH shorter time frame (i.e. weeks or months instead of years). In November, I hooked up with a 7 and an 8.5 in the same week. I was on fire. (Plus, there were two more I could have closed if I was more aggressive.) However, just over six months later, I'm in a dry spell and wonder if I'm even the same person and can do it again.

Logically, I know I didn't go from smooth and decent looking to creepy and ugly in that short time, so it must be the mindset. Sometimes your inner game slips and you look back and ask, "How the F did I do that? Why can't I do that now?"

I have to return to the "I did it before; I can do it again" mindset.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Mike, you hit it spot on. I go through the same thing! And right before I read this thread, I was thinking that I'm not get the results I want because of my mindset. I'm not thinking like I was a few months ago.

But what makes it irritating is that there isn't some quick and easy method to returning to your previous mindset. You don't remember exactly what you were thinking when you were receiving results, so you struggle in frustration until you realize you don't really care anymore. Then next thing you know... BOOM!! Your back.

Maybe its carelessness and indifference. Maybe its your renewed sense of sexuality. Whatever it is, its back, and the cycle continues.

So for me, and maybe for others, what do we do to maintain, or regain our mindset? How do remind ourselves of something we don't remember? I think we must set a base for our thoughts. A place in our minds that reminds us of what we should be thinking about in order to stay consistent in this area of life.

I say all this, but in the end, best results come from the I don't care mindset. Somethin to think about.

 

[st_99]

I had no problem but once i caught feelings it was a wrap lol,

still fall victim to this at my age. i wish i could just turn it off.

 

[Jitterbug]

Just wondering, BB, if your high school date stories are the same as your story of squatting the world record lift for your weight class for 20 reps.

 

[backbreaker]

to some people its effortless, but there is the other end of the spectrum where its more difficult. What reasons? combination of their own inability to handle people, stress, etc. So yes, in that essence it is a mental game. To give you an idea, I was closer to the bad end of the spectrum, so a site like this ( this site didn't change me as much as one particular thread on a bodybuilding forum) proved very helpful. We advocate changing mindsets here, or at least accepting things for as they are. While its easy in some regards, real change takes a long time to do. I still have my "weird" tendencies appear from time to time, and still get shot down by girls a lot more than a smooth type. However , I am in decent shape so how I look actually compensates for that, and might even be considered a crutch.

Speaking of dreams, when I am getting a lot, do you notice your dreams are always on about how much you get? When I am in a dry spell, the dreams tend to gravitate slightly towards frustration and the inability to close. That could be specific to yours truly Like the other night, I had a dream I was going after a chick and her friend and was most definitely going to get a threesome with two chicks. let me tell you, thats an AWFUL dream to wake up from...

funny thing is i rarely have dreams about women. I dream about stupid **** like penguins and my fish aquarium and me being a character on street fighter or some **** like that. lol you ever have a dream and it's good and you go back to sleep to finish the dream, only to find out you had a different dream lol? that pisses me off.

 

[Die Hard]

I dream about stupid sh*t like penguins and my fish aquarium and me being a character on street fighter or some sh*t like that.

:crackup: :crackup:

A little while ago, I dreamt about being in a club with Mystery! OMG WTF?!?! That's almost as bad as a little kid who wants to be a great fighter after he watched Enter the Dragon, then dreams about meeting Bruce Lee and kicking ass alongside him...

Fortunately, the context of my dream was of a more mature nature, haha. During our adventure in the club, I was feeling quite insecure in his presence, I was just walking in his shadow while he was doing his thing... But there was one girl he tried to pick up and she just wasn't into him... However, she was into me! Mystery was visibly dissapointed and frustrated by his inability to pick her up but then went on to pick up a whole group of 5 chicks on his own, lol. But that one girl, she chose me over him.... And it actually messed with Mystery's confidence, even though it was just for a short moment. Kinda reminds me of that Poker movie "Rounders", where Matt Damon bluffs and gets Johnny Chan to lay down his hand. It showed him that he had greatness inside of him, if he could just harness it.

The dream taught me the same thing, I guess. Funny thing is, not two weeks after this dream, I had sort of a similar experience in real life. I was at a party and one of the hottest chicks there was being pursued by many of the alpha guys in the place. To my surprise, she ignored those alpha's and decided to pursue me instead!

 

[Boilermaker]

backbreaker:

you seem to have a lot of time in your hands.. and your post count oscillates between 6990- and 6999 ...

try reading some books, dude.. are you one of those guys who cannot shut up for a bit ? ..

that's not very alpha.

Regards,

Boiler

 

[Sue Madre]

backbreaker:

you seem to have a lot of time in your hands.. and your post count oscillates between 6990- and 6999 ...

try reading some books, dude.. are you one of those guys who cannot shut up for a bit ? ..

that's not very alpha.

Regards,

Boiler

half of the 6,000 posts are crack induced.

 

[backbreaker]

I just had a dream, we were all, we i don't know what is but we were all babysitting kids at hwa semes to be my dad's old house while he was out of town and my old two best friends were over there with their girlfriends and i had my girlfriend there. not my real girlfriend or a girl i knew, just some random kinda chubby hb 5.5 with ugly feet. anyway everyone knept having sex and she kept asking me when we were going to have sex and i kept putting it off. then she went and rented a hotel room and i went to school and played soccer. why soccer i don't know. then she showed up to sheer for me and some ddue asked her was she ****ing anyone, and she said no one in particular and i got mad and broke up wtih her.

 

[Sue Madre]

I just had a dream, we were all, we i don't know what is but we were all babysitting kids at hwa semes to be my dad's old house while he was out of town and my old two best friends were over there with their girlfriends and i had my girlfriend there. not my real girlfriend or a girl i knew, just some random kinda chubby hb 5.5 with ugly feet. anyway everyone knept having sex and she kept asking me when we were going to have sex and i kept putting it off. then she went and rented a hotel room and i went to school and played soccer. why soccer i don't know. then she showed up to sheer for me and some ddue asked her was she ****ing anyone, and she said no one in particular and i got mad and broke up wtih her.

Cool story bro.