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I had 4 dates tonight, all 4 canceled at last minute

Zircon916

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Has anybody had something like this happen?

I have girls flake on me all the time of course, but for this friday I covered my ass pretty well and make 4 dates with 4 different women for today, knowing that at least a few will flake and no matter I'll have a date this friday.

Low in behold, its 5:40 on friday and ALL FOUR GIRLS flaked on me. 3 of them actually canceled, the other I never heard from and is not picking up her phone.

Man, what the fvck is up with women? How many dates do you have to make to ensure you have someone to go out with on friday? This is kinda fvcked up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Zircon916 said:
Has anybody had something like this happen?

I have girls flake on me all the time of course, but for this friday I covered my ass pretty well and make 4 dates with 4 different women for today, knowing that at least a few will flake and no matter I'll have a date this friday.

Low in behold, its 5:40 on friday and ALL FOUR GIRLS flaked on me. 3 of them actually canceled, the other I never heard from and is not picking up her phone.

Man, what the fvck is up with women? How many dates do you have to make to ensure you have someone to go out with on friday? This is kinda fvcked up.
all 4 girls?

are you serious? damn lol

I mean i had 2 flake on me this week, but 4 in one day?

damn, my dude, just keep pushing
 

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Man, I'd be inclined to flake too. It's friday, I wouldn't want to be on a lame date, I'd be out partying it up!
 

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You're not alone man...I've been having Friday night flakes since I started this whole DJ thing a few years ago. And this is even from girls who I'm 99% sure had high enough IL in me. I'm honestly thinking (probably because I've been guilty of stupidly doing this in my past) that maybe some women are so self conscious about their appearance to others, that they don't want to go out with a guy on a Friday because it makes it seem like they're available on a Friday night rather than having a Paris Hiltonesque social life. Psychotic I know, but this is why I started moving onto non-weekend dates and my success rate has been quite a bit higher.

On a weird personal note, I called or texted up like 4 of my girl friends today, got machines, and not a single one even called/texted back! :crazy: Maybe today's "fvcking ignore WhitePimp" day??? :p

This is why you can't even let this sh!t bother you anymore. It sucks that we can't do something as simple as go out with a girl on a Friday night without all this BS posturing and whatnot, but that seems to be how it ends up. It's not just you mate. :rockon:
 

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WhitePimp said:
You're not alone man...I've been having Friday night flakes since I started this whole DJ thing a few years ago. And this is even from girls who I'm 99% sure had high enough IL in me. I'm honestly thinking (probably because I've been guilty of stupidly doing this in my past) that maybe some women are so self conscious about their appearance to others, that they don't want to go out with a guy on a Friday because it makes it seem like they're available on a Friday night rather than having a Paris Hiltonesque social life. Psychotic I know, but this is why I started moving onto non-weekend dates and my success rate has been quite a bit higher.

On a weird personal note, I called or texted up like 4 of my girl friends today, got machines, and not a single one even called/texted back! :crazy: Maybe today's "fvcking ignore WhitePimp" day??? :p

This is why you can't even let this sh!t bother you anymore. It sucks that we can't do something as simple as go out with a girl on a Friday night without all this BS posturing and whatnot, but that seems to be how it ends up. It's not just you mate. :rockon:
Haha thanks bro that actually makes me feel a bit better to know I'm not alone :)

Yeah man girls are bytches and flakes, it really sucks. It sucks even more that even knowing that I still want them :( Oh well I guess I'll hit up the bars tonight and try my luck there.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Friday and Saturdays are not for dating. They're for getting laid and picking up new women. Save the dates for Mon- Thurs. The ONLY dates that occur on a weekend are those that guarantee sex, such as women who you've already had sex with and wants some more.
 

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Nutz said:
Friday and Saturdays are not for dating. They're for getting laid and picking up new women. Save the dates for Mon- Thurs. The ONLY dates that occur on a weekend are those that guarantee sex, such as women who you've already had sex with and wants some more.
Ok so what does it mean when you talk to a woman and shes the one who want to go out on friday night? Does that mean she intends on flaking on you from the start?
 

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Friday and Saturdays are not for dating. They're for getting laid and picking up new women. Save the dates for Mon- Thurs. The ONLY dates that occur on a weekend are those that guarantee sex, such as women who you've already had sex with and wants some more.


I concur

hence I'm going out to tommrow night

can't wait

:whistle:
 

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Update--

Well the 4th girl that I never heard from just called me and claims she tried to call me earlier (yeah right :rolleyes: ) and still wants to go out. So at least I'm saved in that respect and maybe I'll hit it. Whatever I don't even care at this point I just want to go out and have a good time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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what you could do is offer two days:
"Are you free Tuesday or Thursday?"
 

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Zircon916 said:
I have girls flake on me all the time of course, but for this friday I covered my ass pretty well and make 4 dates with 4 different women for today, knowing that at least a few will flake and no matter I'll have a date this friday.

Low in behold, its 5:40 on friday and ALL FOUR GIRLS flaked on me. 3 of them actually canceled, the other I never heard from and is not picking up her phone.

They probably all made 4 dates too and had their dates flake on them, which is why they flaked on you, they are angry their dates flaked on them.
 

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Zircon916 said:
Has anybody had something like this happen?

Man, what the fvck is up with women?
It's not the women, it's your approach.

It sounds like you've had this problem for quite some time, but haven't done much in terms of changing your "game", rather you're going the numbers route and thinking at least some will stick.

You have to look at how you are interacting with these women, and find out where along the interaction did you mess up? What is the root cause of the problem?

There is something wrong with your game, and instead of focusing on what it is, you are doing the same thing over and over and hoping that the more times you do it, the more numbers you get in, there will be a few that will stick.

This is a huge waste of time, energy and effort and certainly not worth it. Think about what you are doing that's causing the flakiness and address the problem at it's roots.
 

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They could just be playing their game.. the game of hard to get. a few of the girls i dated would always cancel on the first date, i guess to see if the guy is really interested enough to pursue them further. girls do that alot from what i've heard.

Just play it off cool and don't even mention the past or what happened and ask them out again later. Let them know u didn't even noticed that they flaked on you. see how it goes from there.
 

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What were these dates going to be? 4 in one night?

I've done two before, but 4 is a lot.

Really sucks they canceled on you, but maybe you should take a look at what your doing. 4 dates all ditching last minute seems more then just bad luck
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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