"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I guess i put her in her place

DJsparky

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So my gf was going with a guy friend to the cinema, but they ended up going back to her place to watch dvd's naturally that peed me off because i didnt know the guy. Anyways i tell her about it and she gets all b!tchy with me i say well you need to get more involved with me and organise stuff because basically she never hardly does anything with me.

Anyways were on the phone shes being all b!tchy and i cant take it anymore so i jus say look Fook Off and put the phone down on her. Bout 10 mins on msn shes all apoligising to me, kissing my a$$ saying she was talking to her guy friend about me all the time bla de bla, i was on the verge of nexting her.

Now if i act aloof she doesnt bother about stuff, but if i threaten to walk out she comes running, i seriously dunno how to play this one and im not going to next her am going to conquer this one, does anyone have any tips?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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00Kevin

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DJsparky said:
So my gf was going with a guy friend to the cinema, but they ended up going back to her place to watch dvd's naturally that peed me off because i didnt know the guy. Anyways i tell her about it and she gets all b!tchy with me i say well you need to get more involved with me and organise stuff because basically she never hardly does anything with me.

Anyways were on the phone shes being all b!tchy and i cant take it anymore so i jus say look Fook Off and put the phone down on her. Bout 10 mins on msn shes all apoligising to me, kissing my a$$ saying she was talking to her guy friend about me all the time bla de bla, i was on the verge of nexting her.

Now if i act aloof she doesnt bother about stuff, but if i threaten to walk out she comes running, i seriously dunno how to play this one and im not going to next her am going to conquer this one, does anyone have any tips?
Don't go back on your word!

1. Lay the law down.
2. Demand respect.
3. Tell her she is gone if she fails to show you respect.
4. Don't put up with any complaints from her. If she calls you insecure you tell her this is an issue of respect and you are not going to listen to any other arugment.

There is nothing to play here. This girl either shows you the respect that you SHOULD get as a man or she doesn't


she either IS a good girl for you or she isn't.

there is no game here. you are a MAN not a boy you don't play games.
 

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Yeah. Keep your current standing...Just keep it as she needs you more than you need her.

If she gives you ****....Next her. If not. Agree with her on sorting out the **** thats bothering you.....

Also. Get to know her male friend. Its not a crime to want to meet her friends? Im sure after you have met him and talked to him abit you will be able to smell a rat or not. Be nice to him...
 
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