"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I got rejected this morning!

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I walked into Subway to get a sandwich an hour ago and my god, there was a stunning beauty working there! I started talking to her and ordered. I got her name and gave her mine. She has an accent and she's from Russia.

I made small talk with the HB 9, and then to my dismay a fat cow of a woman protruded from the back room, I guess it was her manager. The heffer came out of the room like she wanted to observe what was going on.

So I broke out my phone and asked her how to spell her name so I can call her sometime and she said

"No! I'm going back to my country soon"

I tried to play it off but at this moment I decided to give up. A no is a no.

This girl could be a supermodel and I almost WANTED her to reject me because if she said yes, then I would be in AFC mode right now. She was that smoking hot.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don Juanabbe

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Tough one. She was probably worried about the manager hanging over her. Russian women are odd as well. I find alot of them to be money grubbers.
 
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Don Juanabbe said:
Tough one. She was probably worried about the manager hanging over her. Russian women are odd as well. I find alot of them to be money grubbers.

You think I should go back another day and try talking to her again?

EDIT: My god, AFC mode is kicking in already!
 

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No don't go back. You failed her **** test. You should've ignored her response and just say "oh thats cool, just gimme your number". If she is not allowed to give out her number at work she would've said so.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
You think I should go back another day and try talking to her again?

EDIT: My god, AFC mode is kicking in already!

I'm surprised you like women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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daygameguy

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getting the number is not the main aim. you have to establish some commanality. some rapport. you said a few words and wanted her number.. what is she supposed to think about that?

Go back, be cool about what happened, and start off another good topic of conversation, get her opinion on something - say your friend is moving to russia and wants some advice.. whatever... start demonstrating some value, and without making it sound like a date, talk about some event/location that you are thinking of going to, and she should tag along.

When a girl says "no", it sometimes means "not yet".. go do it again.
 

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Actually DonS from what I've heard and experience a lot of supermodel looking chicks don't get asked out very often or for their number. I once went out with a girl who was honestly one of the prettiest girls I've ever seen. Honestly I'm an ok looking guy but nothing special but she went out with me because she told me I was like the only guy to ask her out and I made her laugh. I've also heard of a lot of hot chicks saying the same thing. Thats why some hot chicks have to ask guys out bc the guys won't ask them out. Bc most guys think how you do, that she must get asked out a lot or shes too pretty to go out with you. From what I've seen the girls that get asked out the most are 6 and 7s.
 

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DonS and The Sperminator are right

some hot chick get hits constantly. depends on situation. In case of hire guns such as barmaid, waitress, or subway sandwich. they will probably get hits on a lot. Because guys go there to order food, drinks so they can use this occassion to ask for number, flirt etc..

Now see the same chick work at subway, bar..etc but now she go out dressing really hot in a club or bar. How many guys has balls to approach.

I met hot chick that complain that guys get intimidate by their looks, very few get to ask out. The guy assume she already has a BF or she probably date rich guy... But the guy that has balls to approach, she will give the chance to have a date with that guy. She said he deserve it, as long as the guy is not a jerk or ass.

So both are right depends on situation.
 

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You didn't get enough rapport / attraction built up with her, why she wasn't willing to give you her number. Also with the truck watching over her shoulder it would be inappropriate.

The good thing is at least your out there getting numbers. Thats ten times as good as most people here. Now keep at it and you'll eventually improve your rapport / attraction building and start getting more success.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Sperminator said:
From what I've seen the girls that get asked out the most are 6 and 7s.
The 8+'s get asked out a lot too, by guys who hope to get lucky. And they all get rejected. I've sometimes had to front like I'm rich to get these 10's, but the golddiggers get a quick kick to da curb. Don't be afraid to approach, and front if you must.
 

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Go back and get the fat cow of a woman.




Cheers!
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
I walked into Subway to get a sandwich an hour ago and my god, there was a stunning beauty working there! I started talking to her and ordered. I got her name and gave her mine. She has an accent and she's from Russia.

I made small talk with the HB 9, and then to my dismay a fat cow of a woman protruded from the back room, I guess it was her manager. The heffer came out of the room like she wanted to observe what was going on.

So I broke out my phone and asked her how to spell her name so I can call her sometime and she said

"No! I'm going back to my country soon"

I tried to play it off but at this moment I decided to give up. A no is a no.

This girl could be a supermodel and I almost WANTED her to reject me because if she said yes, then I would be in AFC mode right now. She was that smoking hot.
I appreciate you posting this. I have been in a situation where a hot girl put me in AFC mode. In the midst of me doing things exactly like you were doing in Subway, I got some into me and some rejections and before you know it I fell for one of them because she was the hottest piece off ass I had seen in awhile. Turns out I became and AFC, drifted far away from my friends, and ended up crushed in the end.

Some b!tches I wont even try to be persistent with. I'd rather live my life, if pu$$y wants to come along, fine, if not, fine.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
I walked into Subway to get a sandwich an hour ago and my god, there was a stunning beauty working there! I started talking to her and ordered. I got her name and gave her mine. She has an accent and she's from Russia. I made small talk with the HB 9, and then to my dismay a fat cow of a woman protruded from the back room, I guess it was her manager. The heffer came out of the room like she wanted to observe what was going on.

You should have scored for the date when you had her in isolation. You can't wait around for small talk thinking nothing is ever going to disturb you and her. You waited too long and outside factors influenced you closing.

So I broke out my phone and asked her how to spell her name so I can call her sometime and she said

Dude that is way too vague and you didn't even set it up. "Call her sometime?" To do what? To look at sky? To watch Friends with you? To read a book with you? You have to set it up and you have to have a reason to call her, and not just because you think she's hot.

You: "I hate to think you are going to be stuck in here all day when the weather is so nice. Why don't we go out for a quick coffee afterwards? You could tell me more about Russia"

"No! I'm going back to my country soon"

I tried to play it off but at this moment I decided to give up. A no is a no.

You have to play it off. Don't quickly change the subject and accept it. Tease her a little afterwards, make life a little difficult for her.

"Oh that's too bad, I was really looking forward to knowing more about Russia"

but not "Oh ok, see ya." What the heck? That means you think she's not good enough for you.

This girl could be a supermodel and I almost WANTED her to reject me

Ok that doesn't make any sense.

because if she said yes, then I would be in AFC mode right now. She was that smoking hot
Props for the small talk but you have to close and close quick. Three rules:

1) Isolate
2) Close quick
3) Get outta dodge
 
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