"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I met a girl last week when I was out with my friends. Things went well and I drove her home at the end of the night.

I took her out a couple of days later and we both had a great time, she displayed a lot of affection but no sex.

I called her to ask her out again and she tells me she's back with her ex BF. She was being appologetic but I played it cool and ended the conversation.

Did I do the right thing by playing it cool and not showing any frustration or emotion?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Honestly, man, you should've sealed the deal when you took her home that first night. It's true what they say - strike while the iron is hot. Hapenned to me a few times - met a girl while out drinking, sometimes someone I already kinda knew, had a chance to bang them that same night, then said "screw it, I'll seal the deal next time" - never got that chance again. Live and learn
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You are right, I should have sealed the deal right there on the spot. If/When she breaks up with her BF again and calls me up for comfort, I'll make sure to put the nuts to her.
 

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exactly..always go for it...and if it doenst work..then oh well u know then :)!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Always try to go for sex on the first date. If she's not letting you, PERSIST, PERSIST, AND KEEP PERSISTING!!!!.

It's most likely that you will get what you want, and plus this let's you both have a great time.

Heat things up by teasing her, and making her and you hawt. obv.~
 

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How did you go about driving her home the first night? Did you walk her to the door? If so, how did you go about it?
 

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She lives with her parents so I dropped her off and left. Called her a couple days later and went out.
 

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By sealing the deal do you guys mean asking her to be his girlfriend?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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****ing right off the bat is pretty much setting urself up for a one night stand...
 

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WTF?

"always go for sex on the first date"

I don't want to **** a girl I just meet. I don't know what god ridden **** could be in her *****.

She might be a crazy ***** that will show up with a knife if you break the next date.

I actually like to enjoy the date?

Have i had sex on the first date before... yeah I have, but not often, and not because I wanted to either, but I just felt a comfort level that allowed me to.

There have been plenty of times I could have, but I don't because I literlly, don't k now what I am getting into.


About your point though, she would have gotten back with him if you ****ed her or not, you didn't absolutly nothing wrong, it's just the way things work sometimes.
 

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That's why man invented condoms...

but anyways, um... persisting is bad. That's where building anticipation comes into play. You should never PERSIST a woman into having sex with you. instead, you tease the f*ck out of her till she's grabbing your crotch and kneeding your balls through your pants. I've always gotten better results that way than trying to "persist" her into having sex. :)

Uh, and before someone tells me I used the word persist wrong, when I hear the word persist, it tells me that you should keep trying to get her to have sex with you. This can be missinterpreted as talking her into having sex with you. Teasing is NOT persisting. To me, it's more fun to drive a woman crazy and piss her off by not letting her get what she wants... then when she waits long enough, and you give her a small bite again, she'll take the whole pie.
 

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persisting is one thing.

actually not wanting to have sex is another.

I don't persist or put off sex, I just don't want to. I get enough, or got enough, to wear every date wasn't an adudation to have sex later.

And a condom is goning to do anything about a theif (women sleeping with you and robbing you before you wakign up), a crazy ***** that is gone on the head, or just getting to emotinoally envolved with a women too fast.

And condoms dont' work ALL the time.

Like I said, you don't know what you are getting yourself in to... what's the r ush?
 

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If you take her home, you should at least go for a kiss...escalate until she categorically shuts you down, then smile and call it a night.

The ones who just want to F will let you go as far as you want. The ones who want something more serious will shut you down, but still have their heads spinning from the sharing of affection.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah you played it cool, but honestly, you probably are still frustrated?

Go out with a girl, have a great time, put your value and worth within you, and just have a great time! Get your kino, get your foreplay. If you happened to be rejected, because you value and worth is not in obtaining a girl, then you will not be hurt. If you want me to explain more, read my post titled, YOU HAD BETTER READ THIS.
 

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Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
I met a girl last week when I was out with my friends. Things went well and I drove her home at the end of the night.

I took her out a couple of days later and we both had a great time, she displayed a lot of affection but no sex.

I called her to ask her out again and she tells me she's back with her ex BF. She was being appologetic but I played it cool and ended the conversation.

Did I do the right thing by playing it cool and not showing any frustration or emotion?
Don't feel bad. You seem to have handled it perfectly. Like a real DJ would! Just thank the lord you didn't get played for seven years like I did!!!

.....and, as they say, NEXT.

I'm sure there's one right around the corner that won't go back to her boyfriend.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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