I got NEXTed. I shouldn't care, but why do I?

[cootielicious]

Thats your natural reaction, and I don't think its positive or healthy to tell yourslef that you shouldn't feel, or you should be some standard other than the best human you can be.

You make a good point. On the other hand, you do not want to give others too much power over you.

What if the woman who nexted Stormwriter(SW) told a friend about him. Afterwards, this friend decided to approach SW and she never reveals her relationship to the former woman. Later, they both hook up for a few dates and afterwards, she decides to ignore him. In his present character, SW may feel terrible.

Next, the latter woman tells another friend. The same situation occurs; SW feels terrible again.

The above example is a bit over-the-top but it stills demonstrate an important message:

Refuse to let other people control you with behavior that you cannot control.

Dust yourself off, Stormwriter. We have all been there. Don't stick around.

 

[OddTech]

Originally posted by squirrels
Ego.

Problem is, you're hinging your own self-worth on your success with women. It's unrealistic to expect every girl to be into you. Some just don't know what they've got, and this one you're talking about seemed like a real winner to begin with.

You're like me...you tend to forget that this is just one big game. You're not going to make every shot, you're not going to score on every drive. Sometimes you put up an honest effort and get shot down by pure fate.

All you can do is learn and improve. Take pride in your abilities and your potential. Women come and go. YOU will be with you for the rest of your life.

I'm going to bump this thread because there are some very solid points here. Too many guys get depress over their success (or lack of it) with women.

The problem is that I sometimes do it too. And I realize that my problem is that I'm constantly comparing my self-worth with the worthiness of the girl. I would pity myself because I would ask how a great guy like me could get dumped by an unworthy or ugly girl. It just pulls my self-worth down. Don't do it.

 

[Legend]

first of all what kind of a disease does she have?

You know what man it sounds like she just did you a favor, i doubt that its over though. Just because she does'nt call in a couple of days, she could be waiting for you to call.

Dont call.....she is damaged goods and does'nt sound like a person i would want to have a relationship with.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Originally posted by Legend
first of all what kind of a disease does she have?

Um, I would like to know the answer to this question too.

I've been in this situation before, it's all ego. I once met a girl that wasn't even attractive. She showed me a picture of her ex-boyfriend, the guy wasn't even close to competing with me, but she had no interest in me. She eventually NEXTED me, but I barely noticed......

Six months later she calls me on my birthday and what do I do? I'm still trying to set something up so I could try to sleep with her. I didn't want to sleep with her, I wanted to know she wanted me. This girl was dumb, insecure, chubby, bit her finger nails, wore to much makeup, had a kid and was only 21. After this I knew I had more work to do on my ego, I think I'm passed all of this now.