Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I got LJBF thing the other day...this is what I said

Zunder

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...I said "sorry, I can't be friends with a girl I want to bend over and fvck her brains out".
She replied that I was "disgusting" and that I was also "selfish" because I just didn't want to be friends.
We haven't talked since, and I really don't care if we don't.

And no, this wasnt the chick I banged in her beamer that I talked about in a recent post. This was a chick that I figured that I was just becoming an orbitier. So I thought stuff it, I will get right to the point with her.

Yeah so anyway, got rejected, got called disgusting and selfish.

Anyone else been called similar when they tell a girl that they just dont want to be friends?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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jophil28

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"..you are disgusting and selfish.." is a compliment sometimes BUT only if she has some sexual interest in you. If not, she is calling you a gross creeper.
I would not have said what you said because it told her that you were hot for her and fed her ego even though she had told you that she only wanted you as an orbiter.
IF a woman says LJBF you best shrug it off, say "OK, no problem" and walk away.
Then you make yourself scarce when she calls and wants you to take her out because she has no bad boy in her life.
 

Razor Sharp

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This is why its a good idea to pre-emptively LJBF sometimes. If you get the vibe that this chick is wishy-washy or flakey about the deal, or she's just not responding to your persistent flirting/kino, drop the LJBF bomb on her.

"I really like you, but it's obvious we can never be anything more than friends. This would never work out - we are too alike! We'd just end up fighting all the time, and having crazy make-up sex, up-down, hot-cold, ugh I'm just not ready for all those emotions. So glad that we can just be pals"
Right after that I just continue flirting, sending more conflicting messages till her brain eventually short-circuits and we end up doing things that are forbidden amongst friends, the taboo factor makes the sex that much better.

Now if she "friends" me first, I do exactly what jophil suggested. There is no upset, no whining or bargaining. I'm seriously 100% cool with it because that's just a free social proof pass to f*ck her hot friends. Sometimes I will even tell them that flat out. One time I told this girl "Whew, thats a relief, now I can go for your homegirl Melissa, she's REALLY hot!" We ended up f*cking literally within minutes.
 
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