"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I got led on... ouch.

nroug7

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So basically, short story.
There was a gal I liked.
She gave clear IOI'S yet always refuses a date.
I'm sick of using my CP, She keeps mentioning she thinks she's a sociopath and now I'm starting to believe she is, and just using me for kicks.
Making it clearly known I won't be her friend is the right thing to do right?
(I've lost all interest in her as ltr material.)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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floydb25

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Obviously... Why would you be friends with a selfish bish who purposely led you on, and says she's probably a sociopath? At least you got out early. A lot of guys* would stick around and try to fix her crazy ass - only to complain that she's heartless and evil - despite being warned of this fact all along.

*Like me.
 

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Ya there are bishes like that and I hate ones wasting my time. Ur time is valuable man fvck her off
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nroug7,

the whole leading you on thing is common with women because of their ego and their strong need to feel desired. Add to that manipulating men, and it becomes a power trip to them.
It seems as if they feel its justified, considering the past abuse by men they've received, or the feeling of oppression by men, etc etc...

So leading men on , pretending to be attracted to them, pretending they find the men attractive, and manipulating affection and emotional investment is like a drug to these females.

Youre right, they are most certainly not worthy of any kind of relationship.
Certainly no LTR commitment. Ever.

Being friends is no option. There is no logic in that either.

If the woman has no real desire for a man, there no need for the man to pursue her or try to give her 'things' other than himself to please her, or get something our of her.

Unfortunately, women can mislead and fake IOI's. And that's one of the things that men dislike so much about the whole Courting rituals that we have to go through to be partnered with a woman.
The fact that, yes, it can all be a lie. She's just getting off watching you jump her hoops, nothing more.

An important take away is that being fooled by her is nothing for anyone to shame one for. Its why so many men are so cautious before moving further in the relationship, and taking the next step.

We don't want a female like that in our most vulnerable space, an intimate relationship, where we don't have to wear our Armor to protect us from the woman we Love.

So, even if we've been fooled, that doesn't mean we're not worthy of Love and affection, and a good romantic partner.
Don't let this affect your self esteem. Instead recognize the low character of the female and move on.
 

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The first thing a man on these forums needs to do is learn when a girl is interested in you, and when a girl is interested in having another orbiter. If you are not there yet then you have a long way to go.

Educational links are at the bottom of this thread.
 

nroug7

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I know the difference. Anyways, I'm going to play around with her a bit, since she's blowing up my phone everyday (upto 6 texts a day and Im not even responding)
I'm going to see if I can piss her off by replying with "I'm not interested in talking with a sociopath"

Meanwhile, more plate spinning!
 
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