"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I got girls starring at me All day!? WTF am i not doing with a chick??

Badmannaz

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idk...call it cold feet from the last flakes i got...idk i get so dis-interested i WANT A F*CKIN WOMaN!! but it's like im afraid of falling into that "drama" sh*t...you know...idk who you are and how much of a player you think you are...we all turn AFC when your fallin out of love...Don Juans only get chicks there not really attracted too that's why there so smooth. (not saying the women isn't hot) Real men are AFC's so don't be ashamed....

well this is me

i walk tall
very muscular
i am tall
i guess handsome (by what women say)

and i mean all this is because i was hitting the gym so i put on some muscle and all that..but now i got women every day all day just looking at me..idk i get put in these situations. I really wanna approach but there's always obstacles...

-see a whole bunch of friends
-my defensive way of thinking
-fear of falling for the wrong person (again)

Any suggestions on turning any of this around??:cool: :cool:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dude, don't tease us... Post up pics of your self!
I'm being kinda sarcastic but it'd help back up the talk...
 

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Badmannaz said:
I really wanna approach but there's always excuses...
Fix'd.

Seriously guy, if you REALLY wanted to approach these girls, you wouldn't let stuff stop you. I guess you just don't want it enough...
 

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This question is similar to "I'm rich enough to afford 10 meals a day, why am I starving to death?"
 

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Hmm...
Sucks to be you huh?

You're lacking in confidence man... Excuses are not excuses for being unable to approach, they're excuses for low self-confidence. You're still afraid of messing up.
Whereas, I've learnt that there is no possible way of messing up. Nothing is permanent. And, it can actually pay off to mess up (think about that).

What you need to do, is realise that you are hot. You're tall, you're handsome, you're muscular. That means you're hot, period.
And, because you are... You can choose whatever girl you want.

They need to meet your standards, not the other way around.

If you're afraid of falling for the wrong girl again, examine as many girls as you can and choose the one that you think is most likely to be the right one.
That's the way we all do it... we just need to learn what we want and need.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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YOu either too picky(like I tend to be) ...


...pissed off at women at something that happened before/generally dislike women as people..(like most men do yet won't admit) & like showing off your looks but never approach or reject them to hurt them as a result...


Or just fear rejection.

I know how you feel as I hate when women look at me like they want something yet act cold when I approach them.

Really that's why I go after guys I know want sex just as bad..
 

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do something in a ****y and funny voice like "i couldn't help notice you were looking at my hot sexy body (start touching yourself here and make lots of pornstar like facial epressions)like i was a piece of meat" and bust on her from their
 

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VSTbeserk said:
do something in a ****y and funny voice like "i couldn't help notice you were looking at my hot sexy body (start touching yourself here and make lots of pornstar like facial epressions)like i was a piece of meat" and bust on her from their

Bad advice. He doesn't have the confidence for this. He's way too in his head and serious. Coming from a hot guy, this will sound too arrogant. If they are constantly starring, they are already slightly intimidated.

He could pretty much open any way he wants and create conversation. Smooth lines, and funny banter, c/f is a way to open and create initial interest in girls who would normally judge you by your looks and wouldn't normally give you the time. He already has that value, so they will cut him more slack, because the girls will be thinking of what they're gonna say.

I better tone it down, too much Keyboard Jockey'in can be hard work.
 

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I am not going to tell you how to proceed with the hotties, 'cause you seem to have a issue you need to work out first.

It seems in your writting that you got burned. You have to get over that before you move on or you will attach your current feelings with the new girl and it will set you up to get attached real fast.

I say Take some me time, get out and do somethings you love to do and recharge, than go out and have fun with all these HB's that are scoping you out and have fun with it.

Oh I guess I wound up telling you anyway>!?
 

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Tha Realnezz said:
Really that's why I go after guys I know want sex just as bad..
Hold up.....So you're saying that you're bisexual?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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-fear of falling for the wrong person (again)
That sentence belongs in a Meg Ryan movie.

do something in a ****y and funny voice like "i couldn't help notice you were looking at my hot sexy body (start touching yourself here and make lots of pornstar like facial epressions)like i was a piece of meat" and bust on her from their
So you start masturbating in front of the girl and then ejaculate on her?
 

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Badmannaz said:
idk...call it cold feet from the last flakes i got...idk i get so dis-interested i WANT A F*CKIN WOMaN!! but it's like im afraid of falling into that "drama" sh*t...you know...idk who you are and how much of a player you think you are...we all turn AFC when your fallin out of love...Don Juans only get chicks there not really attracted too that's why there so smooth. (not saying the women isn't hot) Real men are AFC's so don't be ashamed....

well this is me

i walk tall
very muscular
i am tall
i guess handsome (by what women say)

and i mean all this is because i was hitting the gym so i put on some muscle and all that..but now i got women every day all day just looking at me..idk i get put in these situations. I really wanna approach but there's always obstacles...

-see a whole bunch of friends
-my defensive way of thinking
-fear of falling for the wrong person (again)

Any suggestions on turning any of this around??:cool: :cool:
i hate to say it, but i am in the same boat... i have many women of all ages look at me, not bragging in the least bit, i too have a problem approaching, and even making small talk or long eye contact. it's not that i can't think of anything to say or anything of that nature, i honestly think it is from countless flakes, and girls that play games. i am so sick and tired of immature girls that play phone games, etc. as an example i am 20 years old, dated a 27yr hb8 teacher over the summer for a short amount of time, and got so sick of her fvcking stupid games that i deleted her number and never called her again. she called and i would answer, but she got the point after a few weeks. it amazes me that after 27yr of life girls still pull this ****, and it is all ages. not everyone of my gf's did this, but 75% pulled it once in a while. i guess what i am saying is that after countless experiences like these it takes the drive away for us men seeking women, i mean i see a hb8 walking and two years ago i would most likely approach, but then i think "why" it is probably another flake. and that sucks because not all women are like this, and this thought has to be forced out for those good women that you could've like alot, but you let her go because she looked like a flake. i am in the process of forcing this out and getting my old self back...for good. hope this helps!
 
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why the hell are u asking us this question, u should be asking urself this question...we can't go out there and get a girl for u..go out there and take what is yours man!!!!
 

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This guy has got to be kidding. Lot's of women look at me every day - but not
necessarily because they are "interested" in me.
They could be looking at someone because they are wierd, interesting, amusing , scary, in front of them... not necessarily because they are attracted to the person.
 

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Badmannaz said:
well this is me

i walk tall
very muscular
i am tall
i guess handsome (by what women say)
I didn't even read the rest of your post, this is the only part I looked at. I can tell you right now that you need to work out your insecurities and build up confidence. Either that, or exactly how tall are you? They could be just staring at you saying "What the f*ck that guy is a giant"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lol they probally think your ugly.. you won't know unless you TRY something.
 

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wats poppin my nigga. Just get in the field and it will sort itself up. Once u force yourself out there, you will kick yourself for taking so long to approach, regardless of what happens
 
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