i got flaked ... and felt good about it

[zeidrich]

i met a girl i met 2 weeks ago.... it went okay. I arrange a date yesterday and called he 30 min before the meet.. she said "okay i`ll be there but gonna be late" ... and even with that she didnt came.... tried calling her 15 min`s after the arranged time but she didnt answer..

the thing is, if im not visiting this site... im pretty sure ill be angry at that girl but seems like it didnt even bother me a bit... at least i have 1 less girl ill be paying my attention with...



hmmm got a text a while ago.. "she`s saying im sorry , im too tired etc etc" .. told her its no big deal. nevermind about it.
then after an hour she said sorry again for not coming.. etc etc.... and wants to set up another one.... havent replied yet..

Im just wondering if I did took the right response.. and what response will i give her?

 

[NobodyCares1]

What a sh!tty excuse, if she was tired she could've said it to you earlier instead of making you wait for her like a d!ck. Don't respond to her, she had her chance NEXT.

I mean usually I do the three strikes rule, but that is when they cancel before and not make a d!ck out of me (actually I never got really stood up, I guess I had luck to meet at least semi decent girls). If she stood you up NEXT her immidiately.

 

[zeidrich]

thanks mate.... thats what im planning.. all the interest that i have from her arealmost gone anyway

 

[Bushmaster]

What's worked a few times is if they text that they will be late or preoccupied or distracted, I text right back and tell them, "that's okay, let's do it another time", funny how the dynamic changes when they show up.

 

[SgtSplacker]

She really has to do something nice to win you back after this one. Like BJ in the nearest bathroom nice...

 

[lamobatsman]

Next!

 

[zeidrich]

update: got 2 more text and the last one is a long chunk of excuses on why she did not go and its because of work... also been asking if im angry because of not replying to her text.

so i called her... and set up another date on sunday. and now its near my place...... * i did offer this place last week which she originally refused , but now she`s fine with it now* .

 

[lamobatsman]

I think ur wasting ur time. Remember actions speaks louder than words bro!

 

[zeidrich]

Are you only texting this one girl? If you are, you should find another girl that you can hangout with if this one flakes. Also don't plan hangous/dates more than a day or two in advance, they should be spontaneous,( unless you both have a big work schedule then it is understandable).

i dont really like texting. but im dating at least another woman at this time.
she just texted me 4x.. thats why i called..then she said she wants to arrange another date and she did offer friday but im busy at that time so i did offer that im okay this sunday but im doing something during the morning... and thats when that plan comes up..

im not that into her anymore and i think she`s crazy and do whak decision`s but hey she`s the one offering this date so why not?

 

[Fatal Jay]

a b*tch will be a b*tch

 

[Plutoman]

Keep it low investment with the only goal being to screw her. Being stood up? Definitely not worth anything else. The reaction was probably more guilt than anything else.. I'd expect a second flake if I were you, but you might luck out. Plan to do something else that evening, too, and if she flakes, I would suggest ignoring her entirely.

 

[PlayHer Man]

After one flake she is officially worthless outside of sex. As a general rule its best to forget she exists and move on.

If you do plan something else.. make sure you have her meet you somewhere you will be anyway.. so if she flakes it doesn't affect you. Also, don't wait around for her.

Lets say you go to a bar with friends and invite her. Let her show up. If she flakes.. who cares... you're out with friends anyway. If you want to move to a new location, don't wait for her.. just go. If she is late.. too bad for her.