"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I got an e-mail from HBwithBF, how do I handle this situation?

Leojim

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Hey guys! I've decided to make public a private e-mail that I got from HBwithBF. I decided to do this to get the advice from more experienced guys in the lair, because I'm not sure what to do in this situation. She's not the only girl taht I'm dating right now, but I think we have a good connection and I'd like to know her better. We've been together only 2 times, kissing and touching each other, and spoken by the phone about 3 times and we got some texts messeges between us. We haven't had sex yet. I did not fall in infatuation with her, but as I said I'd like to know her better and have sex with her, but the problem is: she has a BF. Thanks, leojim


E-mail:
So things are definitely going
to get very difficult for us in the next couple of
weeks because I am going back to school and I will be
taking classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays in the
morning before I go to work...I enjoyed the time we
spendt together but my life is too complicated right
now to be anything more than a friend to you...I do
still want to meet up once in a while when we can both
find the time but I don't like having to sneak around
and do things behind his back...I do love him a lot
and it's not really fair what I am doing and, while I
am with him, I will never be able to feel anything
real with you...You are a very fun person to be with
and you make me laugh a lot...I am actually going to
be alot busier today at work than I thought because
one of the trainers had to have surgery on his mouth
so he is not coming in tonight and I have to cover for
him, so if you call or text me and I don't answer,
that's why...I probably won't get back to you tonight
cuz I'll be home at 10 and then going right to bed cuz
I have to be up at 4:30 tomorrow morning so I will
call you tomorrow...Let me know when you'll be able to
talk....I finish work tomorrow around 2...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cordoncordon

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She is politely giving you the brush off. Sounds like she had her little fling but it is now back to reality for her. At least for now.....work and her bf. But she'll probably be back.

If I were you I would just stop contacting her and if/when she breaks up with her bf (which she will if she is already cheating) and she has a high enough IL in you, she will contact you. For you to keep contacting her while she is going through these thought processes in her head will only drive her away from you and into the arms of her already preexisting bf. Not to mention it will save you quite a bit of drama by letting her come to you when/if she decides to.

But don't hold out hope for a LTR. She is already cheating on one bf, you don't want to be the next.
 

KontrollerX

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Go get your own girlfriend out of the millions of women out there.

This chick will just stab you in the back like she's doing to him with you eventually.

She is of low character and quality.
 
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