"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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my ex and I broke up like 3 or 4 years ago and we went to the same college last year and Now i transferred to another school. This year we have talked a lot more and sorta are cool with each other now, and she will sometimes want to only talk about sex with me and ask me what i've done with other girls, and other times she will try to be like we are just "FRIENDS" and so its clear that she is tryin to play some games. I want to know how beat her at her game...

last night we were talking and I asked her what she was doing thsi weekend because i might be driving home and she said that she had work (she works a couple of jobs she says)...and then comes right out and asks me how many girlfriends i've had, and i told her that since her none but i've been with other girls that were not serious, she said started talking about how i dumped her on valentines day and getting upset because I was not interested in talking to her about what she had been doing, and then I tell her that we should drop all this talk of the past because its putting a damper on our relationship, and she says "look XXX you and I are good friends and I wouldnt change it for the world, but do me a favor and let go of the past because we have a great FRIENDSHIP" or something to that effect, then i said for her to not get her panties in a twist because I dont like her anymore, and then she said she had to shower and left.

what is the deal?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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i appreciate the help man, but dont get it twisted, i dont have oneitis for this girl, i just want to exert my dominion...i ignore her for the most part and i'm not phased by it, but I would like to understand whats going through her head....
 

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Originally posted by doodool
and she will sometimes want to only talk about sex with me
Of course she does. She want’s you to want her bad and regret that you dumped her.

Originally posted by doodool
ask me what i've done with other girls
Thanks for the new ideas sucker now I can tell my BF or other dudes that I’m fuking to do the same to me.

Originally posted by doodool
and other times she will try to be like we are just "FRIENDS" and so its clear that she is tryin to play some games.
Oh of course she says that she wants you to hurt. She wants you to get all hot and bothered and wishing you could be back together but you can’t cause your FRIENDS now.

Originally posted by doodool
I want to know how beat her at her game...
You won’t your just playing in to her hand.


Originally posted by doodool
and then comes right out and asks me how many girlfriends i've had,
She wants to see after all this time have you MOVED ON. To see if your still stuck on her.

And boy did you just play into that one.


Originally posted by doodool
she said started talking about how i dumped her on valentines day
This is the whole reason why she still has contact with you. She’s hurt. Damage goods.

Originally posted by doodool
and getting upset because I was not interested in talking to her about what she had been doing,
Of course she is she wants you to know how much it hurts. She wants to tell you how many guys she fuked and suked. She wants you to know how good you had it.

Originally posted by doodool
and she says "look XXX you and I are good friends and I wouldnt change it for the world, but do me a favor and let go of the past because we have a great FRIENDSHIP"
Another words this is what you want so don’t think were getting back together. So do YOURSELF a favor and get a LIFE and MOVE ON!.

Originally posted by doodool
then she said she had to shower and left.
I said my peace now go dream about how good I look naked in a shower rubbing myself.

Originally posted by doodool
what is the deal?
She’s hurt. Ain’t nothing like a scorn women just read some of these threads.

She wants payback.

She’s telling you all these things to let you know how great her life is and how she moved on.

She wanted to know if you have moved on or still stuck on her quite obvious you still are hung up on her.

And now that she has you hooked she tells you well you can never have her again.
 

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thanks for your help

i appreciate the help dude, but I know that stuff, I mean i'm not looking to just drop her because she is roomates with a very close friend of mine and so i see them frequently, but what i want is to basically have the control... or if i cant do that, then I need a way of dropping her without causing problems...feel me?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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