I got a problem

[AlexTheGreat]

Alright, this is the third first date this happens : I get the perfect occasion to kiss-close a chick, and I either can't get the guts, or don't "feel it" .... WTF is going on ?? On the second date, no more problem, I kiss her without even thinking about it. But the first is different .... I donno why, but I just can't get myself to kiss her.

I mean, I can easily get to kino-ing her, and I know that she's interested (we went on a movie date, and we were holding hands and ****, she was laughing at everything I said, eye contact ...), but when it comes to the kiss, I just can't do it. I donno, it's like I'm afraid to do it or something .....

Someone help me get this kissophobia out of my system !

 

[penkitten]

who says you must kiss her?

less is more sometimes.

if you dont feel like kissing her, dont.

if you want to kiss her , but you are just a little scared, wait til the end and give her a peck on the cheeck and walk away.

make her want to kiss you.

let it all build up.

 

[AlexTheGreat]

Originally posted by penkitten
who says you must kiss her?

less is more sometimes.

if you dont feel like kissing her, dont.

if you want to kiss her , but you are just a little scared, wait til the end and give her a peck on the cheeck and walk away.

make her want to kiss you.

let it all build up.

yeah, taht's what I did actually ... lol

We were talking, then convo stalled, so we started walking back to the door, and there we hug and I cheek-kiss her ...

 

[penkitten]

good going bro

 

[California Love]

Actually, if there is an aspect of intimacy which you feel really uncomfortable about, it's important to practice that weakness to hell before you get too old and the tension is fully ingrained. If you truly believe it's not your thing, find other intimate acts that help you achieve that feeling. Just understand that you may eventually find partners that seek what you cannot give.

EDIT - Just read that it's only a first date problem. In that case, no worries, build up the anticipation.