"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I got a date with a secret operative

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dude, i dont like the persistance. she is painting you into a corner over this info, and she knows that you know what she will be doing with the info.

tell her straigt up that you will give her that information on YOUR terms. geeze, she thinks shes running this show

you dont even know what she does for a living but she wants you to give your personal info.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DavenJuan said:
dude, i dont like the persistance. she is painting you into a corner over this info, and she knows that you know what she will be doing with the info.

tell her straigt up that you will give her that information on YOUR terms. geeze, she thinks shes running this show

you dont even know what she does for a living but she wants you to give your personal info.

..WOMEN
Bingo! You've read him like a book, and so far he hasn't changed. He's got other threads that go on forever. He asks a million questions, but fails to find the true answer.

What is the answer? It's about him, not her. He wants so badly to be a part of her life, but fails to remember he has a life of his own. He can start believing that he has an exciting and joyous life and invite her into it. All he really needs is to love is himself, his life, and let others enjoy him, too. He needs to understand that being confident along with being a challenge and a mystery are more important than the right words to say. As long as he doesn't care what people think and is confident in what he has to say, it doesn't matter what he says to any woman.

Beggars can't be choosers. As long as he keeps chasing women and analyzing every move he makes, he will always be a beggar.
 
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Señor Fingers said:
And I like to get to know people before they stalk my paper trail. Tell you what - let's meet halfway and I will tell you my full name when we meet :)

If she doesnt bend, hit her with:

I thought you were a big bad secret agent.. you are scared of little old me? What would your sniper friends say?

If she STILL wont give, I say next her. B!tch does not have any sense of humor and the date would be boring anyway. Someone so rigid is probably terrible in the sack too.

worked like a charm! heres what she says

"well I'm not. I want to keep my job" (referring to the background check on me

then

"lol my sniper friends? lol"

looking like it's back on track!
 
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This girl needs one of MNINs infamous 3 hour long shag sessions.. And I'm going to give it to her this weekend!
 

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Well that's a good sign. She is not as uptight as I thought.

Just make sure you dont get stuck in the SMS ping-pong zone. Call her and close the deal or this bit of interest will just fizzle off. Call her tonight after working hours and close on coffee or dinner thurs or fri. If there is any shred of interest, she will definitely bite!

PS - If she brings up your last name again, just give it to her, otherwise you will be making too big a deal about it. (unless you have something terribly embarrassing on record :eek: )

Good Luck!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Seriously, I met this girl and she won't tell me anything about herself.. apparently she has some kind of top secret job for the government. She must be with the CIA or something. I called her tonight and she wasn't very talkative but I managed to set up a date for a drink Saturday.

Any tips? Man, I hope she is aggressive and takes control. That's what I need.

I figure I'll say something like "if I try to kiss you will I get shot by a sniper" or something.
I think she is investigating you ... be carefull...:eek:
 

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You know thinking about this. If you've texted her on your cell phone or called her from it chances are she would already know who you are. She's probably some under secretary in the fbi or cia. To spice things up she says she's an agent.
 
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well I finally gave her the goods.. she has my name.. then she just hits me with

"why do you think I would look you up?"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My Name is Nobody said:
well I finally gave her the goods.. she has my name.. then she just hits me with

"why do you think I would look you up?"
Have some self esteem mate. Tell her to can her bit'ch attitude and go fu'ck herself.
 
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Gubby said:
Have some self esteem mate. Tell her to can her bit'ch attitude and go fu'ck herself.

come on man i didn't come this far to just cuss her out like that... if I get get her on that date Saturday I think I can hit it.
 
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how about this

"because I bet you look up all the handsome, charming, intelligent, charismatic men you go out with"

yep I think we have a winner
 
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My Name is Nobody said:
how about this

"because I bet you look up all the handsome, charming, intelligent, charismatic men you go out with"

yep I think we have a winner

she replied immediately! she said "lol no i really dont i cant risk losing my job are you at work?"

LOL..i should say "yeah i just got to my a$$ modeling gig"

or is that taking it too far? hahaha
 
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now she said

"then i guess you need to get your priorities straight"

WTF???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My Name is Nobody said:
how about this

"because I bet you look up all the handsome, charming, intelligent, charismatic men you go out with"

yep I think we have a winner
Man... I have two pieces of advice for you.

1. Call her on her attitude.

2. Don't listen to my advice.

2a. Really, CALL HER ON HER ATTITUDE.

I'm not saying it will get you laid, but I think anyone who says dumba'ss sh'it like that needs to be put in their place.


How about: "did I ASK you to look me up?"

Not very suave. But whatever.
 

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WAYYYYYY too much texting...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
WAYYYYYY too much texting...
yeah thats true. I should just leave it alone now. She has my offer for the date. My balls .. i mean the ball is in her court. lol
 

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Why does the ball have to be in her court?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Why does the ball have to be in her court?

because I talked to her yesterday on the phone and I told her I'll pick her up Saturday night @ her place. She said "we could do that" but she "may have to work" and she will find out today or tomorrow if she has to work or not.

What do you think?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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