"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I got a date with a secret operative

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Seriously, I met this girl and she won't tell me anything about herself.. apparently she has some kind of top secret job for the government. She must be with the CIA or something. I called her tonight and she wasn't very talkative but I managed to set up a date for a drink Saturday.

Any tips? Man, I hope she is aggressive and takes control. That's what I need.

I figure I'll say something like "if I try to kiss you will I get shot by a sniper" or something.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Oh yeah, and she tried to pull the "call me before the date to confirm" line.. which is a FLAKE ALERT.

I told her no, i won't call her she will either be there or she won't. I think this caught her off guard.. hehehe but then she emailed me for directions to the place and said it was because I "won't call"... not sure if it was the right move.
 

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Bah, it's far more likely that she's unemployed and living with her parents and she just doesn't want you to find out until you move in together. Even if she does have a "top-secret job", it's much better for your frame if you convince yourself that she's just faking it otherwise you'll end up putting her on a pedestal. Plus, if her job was confidential, she wouldn't broadcast it to strangers.

Bearing that in mind, catching her off her guard seemed to work, so why do you want to let her dominate?? I'd do the exact opposite. Create a surprise and then take charge of the entire evening.
 
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I met her and we got a booth and had a couple drinks over almost 2 hours.

When I was ready to go I walked her to her car and I hugged her and used the "if I kiss you will i get hit by a sniper" line.. she was like "no i'm not being watched"..

Then I kissed her.. not a great kiss just a few pecks on the lips.. then she asked me if I had a "hot date" to get too.. then I said "nah I need to get back to my crib and watch the game" (that was lame as HELL, I know)

Then I told her to come with me to my place, and she thought about it and said "maybe next time" and that was it..

Later baby.. then I called another girl to try and go out with her but she is out of the area for the weekend..

I think I'm improving.. this is great!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That was an awesome shoot-down of the flake signal. Are there any others along those lines?
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I know a couple people who are FBI agents. They were some aquaintences that I knew who went off to college to become one.

And like you said with the girl you met. They don't tell you sh!t about them. One of them told me they have to take a lie detector test every 6 months to make sure they didn't say something they shouldn't have. The other one agent I know has a girlfriend who is in the same business but, spys on the government and military bases.

It is some pretty trippy sh!t... But, I don't know if I would wanna date a girl who basicly tells you nothing and is off doing secret stuff all day. Now, If you could fvck her time to time that would be good.
 
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thanks guys.. she is online in the messneger now with some sexy pic of her on the bed like she is trying to seduce me.. but I'm not going to let her see me online... she's blocked.

I try to stay off the messenger now. Let the other AFC's drool over her online I'll see her in real life.

I called her after the date and made plans for next weekend.

No need to open my mouth in the chat... nothing good can come of it.
 

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LOL she probably takes herself too seriously if she's some kind of secret operative... TEASE HER! :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gubby said:
LOL she probably takes herself too seriously if she's some kind of secret operative... TEASE HER! :D

yeah.. but i'm trying to stay away from chatting.. I already called her after the date.. that's enough..

I'm a busy man remember?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
yeah.. but i'm trying to stay away from chatting.. I already called her after the date.. that's enough..

I'm a busy man remember?
Too busy to post on SoSuave I bet! :eek:


jk, I mean... tease her when next you're together, whatever! Haha :) I'm just saying it must be fun to see the shocked-church-lady expressions she comes up with. :D :D :D
 
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Gubby said:
Too busy to post on SoSuave I bet! :eek:


jk, I mean... tease her when next you're together, whatever! Haha :) I'm just saying it must be fun to see the shocked-church-lady expressions she comes up with. :D :D :D

When I called her last night, I asked her to get together today and she said she was busy.

And now she's been sitting online in the messenger half the day.

I guess she's busy running background checks on me.
 

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She probably knows you're online right now and she probably knows you post here. lol. You better go off the grid ;)
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
When I called her last night, I asked her to get together today and she said she was busy.

And now she's been sitting online in the messenger half the day.

I guess she's busy running background checks on me.
Do you think she knows about Operation Metal Gear Freakout Backfire Storm?

Caution level 5. This is a code 9.

Swallow this message.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't ya love it when they play games like that? Good stuff.

You're playing it right, though.
 

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Gubby said:
Do you think she knows about Operation Metal Gear Freakout Backfire Storm?

Caution level 5. This is a code 9.

Swallow this message.
Dude, I have a 22 inch flatscreen, do you how hard thats going to be to eat?
 

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In Motion said:
Dude, I have a 22 inch flatscreen, do you how hard thats going to be to eat?
Print it out then. You can do grayscale if you'd like.
 
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LOL you guys are too funny.. I have her in chat now and I am seducing her.. I should post the chat log.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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