"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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this girl i see looks really good but the problem is that she is always talkin to her friend. so how do i approach her without seeming like i'm interrupting her. but what do i do if her friend tries to be a ****block
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Simple man. Stop being reactive. I approach girls when they're with several of their friends. It's really simple though, just acknowledge the whole group, instead of just acknowledging her.
 

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Oh yeah and dude, the friend won't try to ****block so long as you're including her in the interaction.
 

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people don't ****block all the time, you'll probably have no problem if you're polite lol
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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so i just would go up to her and say "excuse me." and go on with sayin hi how are you then introducin myself and then go on to say " i hardly see u so can i have your number so i could get to know u a little better "
 

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duffman360 said:
so i just would go up to her and say "excuse me." and go on with sayin hi how are you then introducin myself and then go on to say " i hardly see u so can i have your number so i could get to know u a little better "
Well really you could go up there with anything, what you say in your opener really isn't a big deal, because it's just to open the set. And stop thinking so much about what you're going to say man. How about this? Just go up there and literally just say, at the least "Hey". If you feel like continuing the set do something to hook them, neg them, use C+F or just tell a story. After that just vibe with the girls, which basically means asks them questions, connect with them and try to get to know them. However, what I can't tell you is how to isolate a target, because I've never really tried that before.
 

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yeah you don't really have to say excuse me unless shes talking to someone.
but, if you don't say excuse me she's able to avoid your "hey."

so rather... if she's busy with something, you should say excuse me, but if shes doing nothing, you can just say hey and introduce yourself.

don't plan what you're going to say though!!
do you want to rely on preplanned speech for the rest of your life?
you may as well be reading approaches off of a piece of paper.

lol you can get a general idea of what you wanna say beforehand if it works for you, but don't memorize anything specificly.
 

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How do you know you like her?

This is a big part of approach anxiety...

Take this approach:

You like HOW SHE LOOKS, but, you don't know if you like HER.

Make it your mission to get to know her on a personal, emotional, and intellectual level. If she meets your criteria for a STR/LTR, make the move.

You're already validating her by saying you "this girl I like". Make her work for your approval, keep control of the situation, and stay on top.

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If you take that approach, you can always validate your approach by telling yourself: "I might not like her, lets find out if she meets my standards." That way, there will be no fear of "Does she like ME? Will she accept ME?" You flip the script and put the pressure on her instead.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Quiksilver said:
How do you know you like her?

This is a big part of approach anxiety...

Take this approach:

You like HOW SHE LOOKS, but, you don't know if you like HER.

Make it your mission to get to know her on a personal, emotional, and intellectual level. If she meets your criteria for a STR/LTR, make the move.

You're already validating her by saying you "this girl I like". Make her work for your approval, keep control of the situation, and stay on top.

--

If you take that approach, you can always validate your approach by telling yourself: "I might not like her, lets find out if she meets my standards." That way, there will be no fear of "Does she like ME? Will she accept ME?" You flip the script and put the pressure on her instead.
props man, you don't know how many guys don't acknowledge a girls personality!:up:
 
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