"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I give up, life is unfair

Grover_mister

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I honestly feel liek giving up. i dont know **** about getting together with girls. im so nervous when speaking to girls that im luke to say 1 thing for every 6 they say. One girl who i know i could fall in love with tells me everytiime i try to get closer that im the only one that listens to her and can be trusted and stuff and i have become more like a brother.

The only 3 girls i have dated in my life were complete *****s or physcos and i always get screwed over

i think its looks. i think i am an ugly person and i can guran-damn-te that everytime someone looks at another person they want to date the first thing they look at is looks.

Life is unfair


what the hell am i suppose to do....im so empty inside
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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blackbelt2k

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okay, this is gonna sound mean, but its for your own good... quit being an afc.. you think your ugly, hit the gym.. then when you have your shirt off, you'll get h0's.. YOU have to build yourself up, YOU have to make yourself into a man... the behotches will see that and start humping your legs left and right, but it takes time. Work on better yourself, making yourself become the man you want to be, **** women for now, they are just icing on the cake.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's really simple. Tell her listening to her is fine, even being her friend is fine, but you are not her brother, and never will be her brother, and you will never think of her as a sister. Tell her that you think of her as a man thinks of a woman. It's very DJ, it keeps it friendly, and it's a step that's in the right direction and that's do-able.

....and hit the gym, so the beoches will hump your leg. haha! That's good, I was tired, but after reading that, I'm going for my workout.
 

The Forms

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The high school forum is quite appropriate for this thread.
 

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Grover_mister said:
I honestly feel liek giving up. i dont know **** about getting together with girls. im so nervous when speaking to girls that im luke to say 1 thing for every 6 they say. One girl who i know i could fall in love with tells me everytiime i try to get closer that im the only one that listens to her and can be trusted and stuff and i have become more like a brother.
Being a good listener isn't bad, don't feel like you have to be on all the time and have something legendary to say. You don't know you could fall in love with her. You want to think you know, and can, fall in love with her. Oh and being a brother is a bad thing in terms of what she thinks of you sexually in case you didn't know, sorry to pour vinegar in your peed-in corn flakes :).

Grover_mister said:
The only 3 girls i have dated in my life were complete *****s or physcos and i always get screwed over
You become your thoughts. If you think low quality, you get low quality. Have standards, and abide by them.

Grover_mister said:
i think its looks. i think i am an ugly person and i can guran-damn-te that everytime someone looks at another person they want to date the first thing they look at is looks.
If you think you're ugly, then you are. If you think you're a sexy man beast, then you are. Improve your look; clothes, hair, minor facial details. Working out is good, which has already been suggested.

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Life is unfair


what the hell am i suppose to do....im so empty inside
Life is what you make of it. Life can be a pain in the ass, and with the wrong attitude things are only going to get tougher after high school. Find some things you enjoy doing, and do them. Work on improving yourself, so that you'll have some positives on which to build confidence.
 

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^^^

Agree, now PU related grab your fuking nuts and get out of your comfort zone.

Do a newbie mission, go out 3-5 days a week and open 10 women each day. (Varys depending on how long each set is)

Stick to the plan and don't punk out no matter what. At this point don't even focus on getting the girl, just focus on gaining the skills that you'll need. If your real shy focus on holding eye contact first, then saying hi, then actually opening. Just keep going through the whole process until you are comfortable from open to close.

The most important thing is actually going out.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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theunflushables

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Boo hoo lifes unfair!:cry: Yeah it is, and you're still in High School, the cruelty that is life hasnt even really begun yet. Yeah, life sucks if you let it. Just like everyone else said it, so will I, Grow a pair and go out there and take the world by the short and curlies.
 

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get your mind off girls and get it on bettering yourself.
if you're not satisfied and accepting of yourself and your looks, how can you expect someone else to be?
work on tha confidence, and work on your humor. the *DJ* bible explains how to do that.
 
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theunflushables

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The bible explains how to be funny? Hmm, it must be in the back somewhere.
 

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Life = girls is NOT true. Girls arn't the be all and end all of life.

Stop whining, start doing things YOU want to do, and women will come to you.
 

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dont give up!

As a man thinks in his heart. so is he!.....:up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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koolbreeze

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While in Convo: Think: Who, What, Where, When and Why
 

smooth guy

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I go thru this phase all the time when I feel like giving up. I think its normal at our age, teenagers can be quite moody at times and with the slightest problem we feel like giving up. Notice how one day you think you're on top of the whole world then the next day you feel like you're a piece of ****? Yeah thats part of being a teenager and thinking you're ugly and not approved enough.

When you get depressed you need to go out, talk with friends and try not to stay alone in the house. Go to a friend, talk, pick up the phone call someone, go out...you'll be surprised how fast your mood will change in about an hour.

As for being bad looking...I'm not bad looking but I can look pretty ****ty sometimes...no I'm not what I would call good looking either. So I know how you feel. You can improve though. As already said hit the gym and have a decent body...make a hairstyle that fits you best...stop masturbating and get rid of acne...buy some nice clothing stay in fashion...pierce your ear if it looks good on you... When you feel that you're good looking your social skills improve and can socialize and be comftorble around people both men and women.

If you feel you aint that good looking then I see nothing weird being shy talking to girls. Thats cauz you feel you're a lower standard than them...if you feel good about yourself then its easier to believe you're at the 'same level' with them, if you know what I mean. You're supposed to be a male and treat girls like...girls. If you dont feel you're "better" than them then it would be quite hard to do that.
 

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haha, you meant the DJ Bible I feel like an idiot.:rolleyes:
 

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Life isn't about getting girls. It's more about hmm... maybe, yourself?
Stop helping them and doing everything they say like a boy-friend (afc).
It's not about them, it's about you.

Improve yourself, for yourself!
 

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And... what do you want us to do about it? If you hate life so much just slit your wrists and it'll all be over. Not getting any sympathy from me. You could whine how life is unfair or you can deal with the fact that it's unfair like everyone else.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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